Major separation anxiety

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I breast-fed my 5 year old daughter Braelyn until she was 2 1/2. And she has major separation anxiety! Mind you i stay at home and she has not been away from me or a close family member (mostly me) really ever. She does well around other children when we have been to playgroup, the park, around friends or just family functions, she is fine around other children as long as i am close by. The minute i try to go out of her sight she goes ballistic. Has any other mother who has breastfed past a year had these issues? Is it my fault?


View replies by

Lori - posted on 08/01/2012




No it is not your fault! If anything breastfeeding longer may have helped her have less anxiety than she might have had otherwise. Some studies have shown that breast fed babies grow up to be socially more independent than their formula fed counterparts

So don't blame breastfeeding! :)

It may be helpful to start having some small separations. Leave her with a trusted friend for a very short amount of time. As she gets used to the short times, you can increase the time away from her. Since she's is 5 years old, you'll want to talk to her about what you're doing. "I'm just going to the dry cleaner, I'll be back in 10 minutes. You know and like Sophia. She'll take good care of you while I'm gone."

I've found talking about exactly what's going to happen really really helps my 4 year old. If I try to sneak away on her she gets quite mad too. But if I tell her where I'm going, who she can go to if she needs anything while I'm gone, and when I'm coming back, it makes a huge difference.

Celeste - posted on 07/22/2012




NO! It's not your fault. I have 3 breastfed children. Nursed one to 17 months, and twins to 3 1/2 and 4 1/2. It may just be part of her personality.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms