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Alex - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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what are we teaching our children about bullying others, share your thoughts, feelings etc. other parents wants to hear from you!

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Tina - posted on 10/17/2011

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I think we have to also look at ourselves and the way we act in front of our children what are we teaching them with our behaviour. Has there been an occasion where maybe you've been out in the car and seen an overweight person or anyone that you have maybe commented on their appearance, judged them by the way they looked. The way they dress etc. We have to look at ourselves the way we treat others and deal with conflicts and set an example for our children.

Lisa - posted on 02/22/2011

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I think it's important to ask our kids that don't complain about being bullied what happens at school as they may be the bully. My self confident 6 year old never complained about being bullied, and because I have raised him to respect others I would never expect him to BE the bully. After hearing my 12 year old daughter tearfully express her sadness due to other kids teasing her, excluding her, etc...I asked my first grader how he was doing. He responded "Fine! Nobody bothers me!" The more I talked to my daughter about how wrong these kids are for mistreating her, I included my son thinking maybe someday he may be bullied and he will be prepared. Then I asked a very simple question of him. Do you ever call people names that might hurt their feelings? I made sure to ask in a calm tone and let him know I wouldn't be angry. He admitted to joining in on others torment of one poor suspect. He admitted with downcast eyes and thankfully I was lucky to have sister sitting at the dinner table to drive the point home of how hurtful it is. They are very loving siblings and when one hurts, the other hurts. I feel somewhat sad and disappointed that it was MY child to be a bully, but I want to share because we are an open loving family and it still happened. I have not had any other problems, but please don't think your child is beyond being a bully as we all know kids do silly things for different reasons and it's up to us to nip bad habits in the bud before they blossom.

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Elizabeth - posted on 09/11/2012

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I had to pull my son out of the school he was attending because without witnesses they didn't believe him. It had gotten to the point where he begged not to go every morning. Now he is in a public eschool called connections academy and is doing so much better.

Jeannie - posted on 10/23/2011

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my son is in special ed and he was bullied a boy beat him up in the bathroom and gave him a black eye and i went up to that school and went off the princable parents and teacher along with the kid had a meeting and i call the school police and made sure it was taken care of and if not i was gonna do something my self bullying is hard on a child go talk to the parent n if it doesnt help go to the school call the school board and if they dont do nothing report it to your local news station dont stop until something is done u have to be strong for your child and teach them that its not there fault

Kelly - posted on 08/15/2011

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coley, your on the right path. you will know what to do and how to help her. youve allready stated.

Coley - posted on 02/08/2011

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I have a 4yr old with Down Syndrome and luckily she hasn't been bullied but I am so scared that one day it will happen and then where will we go from there.

Susan - posted on 02/07/2011

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I teach my daughter to treat others as she wants to be treated. Back in Oct, our school had an all day bullying seminar - split up grades during the day and the seminar was geared towards each grade, then a parent seminar in the evening. I don't hear about a lot of bullying in our school and my daughter (3rd grade), to my knowledge, has not had a problem. In the seminar, we learned that talking back, fighting back, walking away do not work. Kids should stand there and act bored, or like the other person doesn't matter. We also learned that kids who told their parents ended up getting bullied worse, so if your kid tells you he/she's being bullied, don't fly off the handle and jump to confront the other parent. Teach your child how to solve their own problems. Certainly, if violence is involved, it's time to step in. My daughter is in a Catholic school, so we were told there's not generally a lot of bullying in religious school, but they are more subject to neighborhood bullying because they're "different", they go to a different school than the rest of the neighborhood, etc. These days, it's easier to bully without being face to face with the use of email, facebook, etc. It's easier to say harsh words to someone through these than to someone's face.

Jackie - posted on 06/23/2010

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My daughter was bullied so bad that these girls assaulted her in sixth grade.....she was being threatened so she didnt say anything about how bad it was. Once I found out, the school acted like they didnt believe her because there were no witnesses. I pulled her out of the public school system and she is now attending a private christian school which is 100 times better.

Pam - posted on 06/20/2010

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my daughter has been bullied since she started school. When she finally had enough and started fighting back she started getting the label of being a bully. She now has to undergo counselling cause she finds it hard to trust teachers and the people who are suppose to understand. We tried but they would not listen to us even. Until this year when the teacher interveined and asked for her in her class, this teacher has been really good and since christmas holiday's she has been doing better marking not visiting the office which we praised her and she receives a new book to read every so often to reenforce that you have to go to the teacher when the kids bug you. She is also overweight.

Cheri - posted on 09/13/2009

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I pulled my special needs son out of 1st grade after being beat up, and worse the school wasn't going to mention it to me! My son told me a week later, and I had to argue with the principal to withdraw him (federal funds per child). I've homeschooled ever since and we can even study God's word in our curriculum!

Thanks for starting this group!

God bless,

Cheri

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