My two year old daughter hates daycare

Chrissy - posted on 10/22/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Normally I'm a stay at home mum, as I only work part time during school holidays and now I've just started working one day a week as well, as that's the only available time at daycare I can get until there are more vacancies. But for two months now my daughter has cried, screamed, whined and pleaded for me not to leave her there, every time I take her to day care. She cant speak much but she points to the door to say she wants to leave, clings to me, says "please" and "ta" so i wont leave her there amongst her tears and screams, and also says "dad" or "nana" because she would rather me take her and leave her with them, but "dad" works during the day and although "nana" babysits at times she has health problems and cant always cope for long periods, and i don't feel right asking her to do it regularly, that's why i put my daughter in day care. The carers at daycare have told me she is almost always upset there and once I had to go back and get her 10 minutes after I dropped her there because she had made herself sick from crying. I thought she would have improved by now and now I don't know if she will, it upsets me to leave her and I feel guilty but I'm doing this to try to make some extra money to live. I feel like I want to pull her out, but I don't know if she will eventually get used to it and get better or if it's not worth making her upset for just a few hours a day. I'm also recently separated so being a single mum I could really do with the extra money to support the kids. Any advice would be helpful.

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Jessica - posted on 08/01/2016

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I know this is super old but if you're wanting to work from home let me know! I'd be happy to help.

JoAnn - posted on 10/24/2011

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Also, she knows Dad is no longer in the home with her. This is also new to her. She is taking the separation anxiety to a whole new level now that Dad is gone from her every day life. She may feel as if you won't come back yourself.

JoAnn - posted on 10/24/2011

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It sounds like she has separation anxiety. This might be something you could bring up with her pediatrician. Or perhaps do a little research online yourself. If she has always been with you, Dad, or Nana, she may not feel at ease with strangers. - She may not understand everything just yet, but if you try to talk her through every move you make when you have to leave her, that might help. I would definitely start with doing some separation anxiety research. There are probably some helpful hints on how/what to say to her.

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