stay at home

Colette - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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today and every day i have the same routine i have 2 great kids but am finding it harder to be satisfied with my role as a stay at home mom how do i fix this

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Diane - posted on 03/20/2010

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Have you thought of mixing up your routine? Maybe just changing it up a little will help you not be bored with it. That and taking more time for yourself- though I realize you didn't say you didn't do that :)
My other advice is that most likely you had a very satisfying career and life outside the home until you became a SAHM; perhaps you can find a hobby you can do that makes you feel the same satisfaction- not child hobbies but adult hobbies that are truly yours and make you feel accomplished. I had this problem. I worked in a very busy office and was very good at my job and found great satisfaction in it. After I stayed home I ended up feeling like I wasn't good at anything important anymore. Now I make jewelry and feel the same satisfaction now when I make something beautiful that I used to get from my career. Perhaps there is something you have always wanted to try?

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Ronnie - posted on 06/08/2010

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Make some time for yourself. Read a good book or just lay down and relax or meditate. Don't give up. Your kids are beautiful miracles from God. Sometimes physically we get tired. So make time for yourself. It's not selfish. It only will make you a better mom.

Jodi - posted on 05/19/2010

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Hi Colette,
I have been complaining about this lately, too. I worked as an office manager and vet tech for years before Emma came along and now am a SAHM and while I do love it, I realize it's not all it's cracked up to be. Should I feel bad about that? I don't know but sometimes I get so sick of laundry and cleaning. Right now, as a matter of fact, I am on a self-imposed cleaning strike.
I get these sudden urges to organize this or clean that, then it passes. Kind of like the urge to run to the toilet that suddenly dissipates. I get bored to tears, then it all goes away when I walk in to get my little girl from her nap and she smiles up at me. I guess I thought I'd get a pat on the back for staying home...when sometimes I could kick myself in the rear end, you know? I am not sure how to fix it but when you figure it out let me know, ok? How do I get through days that start knee deep in giant blowouts (baby, husband...j/k about the husband) and end with cat poo all over the floor because my 18 year old kitty must empty his bowls in the most inconvenient place in the house (for us) every stinkin time he chucks up a hairball.**sigh**

Tessa - posted on 03/22/2010

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We have had a long, hard winter here so the days have been quite monotonous lately. Now that it has started to warm up outside, we have been able to play in the back yard and dig in the flower beds. It has helped my mood and my daughter loves the outdoors.
Is there a SAHM group in your area? It's always nice to connect with other mothers and for your children to get to play with others. I have also decided to put my daughter in mother's day out once a week at our church starting in September. I think it will be beneficial for both of us. It will allow her to learn how to interact with other children and it will give me a chance to do something for myself. It would be nice to be able to get my hair cut or have time to work on a hobby without constant distractions. I love to scrapbook and sew, but I rarely have time to work on my projects any more. I need the satisfaction of accomplishing something for myself. I spend so much time meeting the needs of my husband and daughter that I often neglect myself. I don't think that is healthy. A mom must take care of herself so that she is mentally, physically and emotionally able to take care of her family. Moms deserve a day off too!!!

Ching-Lu - posted on 02/24/2010

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frankly, it helps if your husband fully understands how u feel. Unfortunately, only SAHMs can understand each other. I've found baking therapy to be good on a 'down' day. Especially if it's something your kids can enjoy with you and there's no way you can just 'quit' being SAHM for one day.

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