how to stop tantrums?

Vanessayahoo.com - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my daughter throws major fits everyday before and after school when she doesnt get her way. I have tried the corner and sending her to her room but nothing seems to work, i need help fast!

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Wendy - posted on 11/02/2009

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my 7 yr odl is a big tantrum thrower i just walk away and say to him if u are gonna carry on you can go do it in your room by yourself you will not get attention with this behaviour but once u stop then we can sit togther and do something nice if he then thorws stuff round i take it off him and say tht this is disrespectful to your toys and remove them for a 24 hr period seems to work quite well

Tara-Sue - posted on 11/02/2009

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With my three year old son, when he begins to act up or throw a tantrum, hold onto his shoulders and ask him to look into my eyes and take a big breath. after he does that i ask him what is wrong. He gets frustrated when he can't properly tell me what he wants or what is wrong. It may not work for you but anything is worth a try.

Melissa - posted on 10/31/2009

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When my 3 year old starts to throw a fit I tell him that I want to see him throw a fit and he stops in his tracks. He wont throw a fit because I want him to. He is no longer in control I am. This has worked well for us. It stops the fit before it even starts. Good luck and hang tight it is only a phase and this to will pass. That's what I keep telling my self.

Tiffany - posted on 10/28/2009

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well i would like to say i have a daughter that started that she is 3 and it started a 2 i was in the middle of walmart parking lot and she threw her self down and was kicking and screaming i just let her do it... i ignored her and she never did it again i acted like it didnt phase me one bit if she wanted to throw a fit i let her and that was the last time she did it... i hope you have found a way to deal with it

Jessica - posted on 10/21/2009

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sometimes just ignoring the tantrum does wonders but making sure she is doing what you need her to do

Vanessayahoo.com - posted on 10/19/2009

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my thing is she is fine when she is in school or with best friends mother's house she is great but the minute she sees me she thinks she can start whinning and crying about everything from her shoe laces not being tight enough or her ponytail isnt tight....i have before put her in my mom and told her she can come out after she is done and big girls dont cry only babies but every morning and afternoon she has something to cry about and i dont know how im going to be able to handle it once my husband leaves for basic and AIT this sunday...

User - posted on 10/18/2009

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Reward good behavior,do not give bad behavior to much attention.When she behaves well,reward her with a "good girl",thank u,or something you know she loves.when she calms down,then speak to her about how much you like when she behaves well.and yes sending her to her room may help,but only temporarily.good luck mom!!!

Kayla - posted on 10/16/2009

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We use taking deep breaths and staying calm. If she won't calm down I will walk away from her and tell her that we do not get what we want by acting that way and when she is done she can come and talk to me. There have been some pretty drawn out fights in the past, but they are getting few and far between now. :) Good luck!!

Kari - posted on 10/14/2009

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IGNORE her if she has no audience then she has no purpose for the fit. Then tell her calmly that Mommy will talk to you when you calm down and talk to mommy in a nice way. Do not encourage the behavior by giving hugs or talking her down.. this is the stage where she is testing you and developing coping skills of her own. Remind her that this type of behavior will not be tolerated at all.... it takes patience believe me... 7yr old 3 1/2 yr old and 19 months ALL GIRLS!!! been there done that with the stress lines to prove it.

Pamela - posted on 10/14/2009

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When my 3 year old throw a tantrum, we would tell her if she continues like this, she can throw her tantrum in another room. If she continues, we carry out what we said and tell her to 'let us know when she is done with her tantrum screaming'. Now if she is prone to throwing stuff around the room, like mine did once, we resort to putting her in the toilet with her teddy (so that she isn't lonely) and close the door telling her, when she is done, she can join us in the next room.' Both methods works but the key to it is persistence and consistence. Never give empty threats that u won't be able to carry out.

As long as she is screaming the house down, just leave her alone and continue to do your stuff. When she has quieten down, check with her if she is done. If she gets all upset again, leave her there and walk away telling her that she can join you when she is finished.

My 3 year old seldom throw a tantrum now. And whenever she does, she knows what's coming for her. Initial would be outrage of 'how dare you' and less than 5 minutes later, she's all calm down.

It came once or twice that DH and I told our 3 year old, that 'we are her parents and it's us who decide until she's 21 and not her. If she doesn't like it, too bad. She just have to deal with it. End of argument.' That really shut her up. :)

Adrean - posted on 10/12/2009

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Quoting Tracy:

She's just attention seeking. So give her attention when she's good, and ignore her tantrums - just walk away.


Me and both my sisters tried this and it worked! We just left the room when it started, but we made sure the child saw us and understood why we were leaving. We woul dsay something like "let me know when you're finished" while we left. Good luck!

Brandee - posted on 10/11/2009

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i told my son that is he was going to act like a baby, he gets treated like one. Get an extra crib matress and store it in the corner or closet, but make sure she knows its the " baby bed" and tell her if she acts like that she has to sleep in the baby bed instead of her big girl bed. Wroked good for my son, stopped the tantrums right away

Tracy - posted on 10/10/2009

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She's just attention seeking. So give her attention when she's good, and ignore her tantrums - just walk away.

Billiejean - posted on 10/09/2009

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be positive toward all the great stuff that she does and ignore the tantrums that happen

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