pulling my hair out

Cara - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




My three year old is crying about everything and is taking stuff from his lil brother and i can not deal with the no ways and all the crying. I mean he does talk and tells you to a point what he wants but i am not sure what to do about all the crying. can someone anyone plz help


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Melissa - posted on 01/16/2010




my boys are a year and a week apart. so 2 n a bit and 3 and a bit. We have gone through our tryin times!! and it is really hard. I did find with my older son that it was really hard for him to learn that his brother was at a different stage to him eg. he wanted to build block castles and all his brother wanted to do was wreck them!! over all i have realised for us...that the boys are constantly going through differnt learning stages and i have to remember to grow and change with them with my parenting skills.....also they constantly push the boundaries and i have to remember i am the boss!! Some things i will let go but some not and its a matter of focusing on basic things you want sorted and be stern n stick to them, the rest, step back take a breath and distract!!!! O and quality time really is better than quantity! In short that is what i have found works for us, hope it helps a bit

O i jus re read your question. Honestly as my mum would say (haha) give them an inch and theyll take a mile...not so sure that she was talking bout kids but have found this is so true!!! the are bright and if your lil person has figured out that crying is a way to get what he or she wants, well then crying it is!!! rememer as easy as it is to make a new habbit one can be broken. so if you can in your mind see if you can handle it for a week, dont give in to the crying......if my son trys that i take him out of the situation and tell him that we will sort it when he stops crying and that crying is not the way to get what you want. I have even put him outside to chill out, sounds a bit mean but worked in 2min. He soon realised that he would rather be with the rest of the family. Consistancey is the key.

Good luck and hang in there xx

Isabelle - posted on 01/13/2010




Hi Cara,

I personally think it's a case of jealousy. Obviously the baby is taking up more of your time but you have to make sure to give your 3 yr old attention too. Something that has worked for me was to include my 3 yr old son in diaper changing my 12 week old son, having him help with the feedings (if your baby is bottle fed). Anyting that will make him feel like he's needed will help tremendously. Every night, I also make sure to read my 3 yr old a bedtime story, just the two of us. This has worked for me and I think it might work for you too.

I hope this helps! Good luck.


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