Christina - posted on 08/04/2009




My daughter was in public school for kindergarten and first couple months of first grade and honestly i don't think it made much difference here, we started more structured but soon learned that just wasn't going to work for us. So now we do things a little less than structured LOL ...... I figure as long as we get done what we need to, we are going to enjoy the freedoms we get being at home :)

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Jacinda - posted on 09/29/2009




Hi! This is my first year homeschooling and like you my husband and I were concerned about having a structured homeschool. I was able to kind of make one room in our house the homeschooling room and my son has his own "desk" (a TV tray), so he knows that when we are in that room it is school time. I have a kindergarten education degree and the school that I did my student teaching at used the A Beka Curriculum so I chose to use that curriculum because I was already familiar with it. However, the best laid plans... We have not been able to do things exactly like I had planned. I have two younger children (ages 4 and 2), I am a pastor's wife, and things just happen. We don't always get things done at the same time, in the same way every day. It is so important to sit down with your husband before you start to make sure that you are on the same page and both of you understand that things do not always go according to plan. I felt a lot of pressure from my husband to do things just so and it was making it a horrible experience. When I finally talked to him about it and explained that things just don't always go exactly how we wanted, he was able to understand and lay off on some of the pressuring. He still asks what we did each day and is interested, which is good because it helps to keep me on track. I don't know if this is very helpful or not. I do feel that it is important to have structure in your school day, but it doesn't have to be the same structure every day. Some days we need more breaks than other days and some times we need to spend more than one day on a lesson (ex.: my son struggled with the letter E, so we took 3 days to learn it before introducing the next letter, instead of the two days the curriculum gave). We also do an extra lesson each day (Monday-art, Tuesday-piano, Wednesday-Sign-language, Thursday-Science). This gives him something different to look forward to each day. Again, I hope this helps and isn't too confusing! This sight has helped me so much! Thank you all!

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That's the thing about homeschooling...you have the freedom to practice what works for you.

My daughter is 4.5 years old, and we're officially starting homeschooling this fall (she turns 5 in October).

She already can count to 50, recognizes numbers to 20, knows her ABC's, can do basic adding, and we're starting to get into reading (among other things). We haven't officially started 'school' yet, and we're not the most structured family. That works for us. When we officially start this fall, we will have a little more structure, but not much. We'll sit down for a small amount of time each day for our studies, but it's not going to be like your typical school structure. That's one of the reasons we choose to homeschool, to get away from the public school mentality. It's not that I let them run wild and do whatever they please, but a child can learn proper etiquette and structure without being in a classroom setting. It's your job as a parent to teach this. It's all part of the homeschooling atmosphere.

The closest my daughter has ever come to 'school' is the drop-in playgroup we go to. I have taught her about having patience, waiting in line, being courteous to others, waiting for your turn to do/say something, and being polite in general. No schooling needed for this.

You do what you feel is the right for your situation, and your child. Don't choose something just because another person is doing it differently. If you want a structured homeschool, then do it. If you want a more laid-back homeschool, do it. Just stick with what works for you as a family unit.


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