Birth Control

LaTosha - posted on 07/19/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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Just curious as to the type of birth control you mommies have been using. I'm currently using Mirena (IUD) but am getting it removed for personal reasons.

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Anne - posted on 07/20/2009

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"And NFP works best for those who have completely regular cycles"

This is a common misconception: NFP (or the Fertility Awareness Method) is actually very helpful for women with irregular cycles because they will be able to discover if and when they're actually ovulating.

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2009

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Not using birth control and leaving the size of our family to the Lord has brought us closer also, and you learn to trust in God's provision. We have not gone with out any of our needs (and most wants) since.

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Vantrice - posted on 07/25/2009

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I went on the pill after my first. After my second I went for Depo. After my third I finally wise up and got the Mirena. Thank God for that!!

Esmeralda - posted on 07/24/2009

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I got my Mirena taken out today after only 12 days and I am SO relieved!! After only a week I was having MAJOR mood swings! I hate to admit, I was almost violent in a split second. I did not want to be that way around my kids or anyone else for that matter, so out Mirena went. My hair is also falling out a bit, bigger appetite, and weird sharp pains at times in my abdomen, especially when I turn over in bed at night. I hope all things return to normal very soon. Plus the whole 12 days I was too paranoid to do anything with hubby, so that wasn't good either....lol

Lesley - posted on 07/24/2009

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ok I see that was already discussed...well I've never been on any pill. The pull out method has always worked for us...and when we planned on having a baby it only took two months. My boy is now 8 months and we are still in the clear, I bought VCF today as just a precaution. Hoping that we can have 3-4 years before the next one, but it wouldn't be the end of the world if that didn't happen.

Destini - posted on 07/24/2009

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i use the shot just because i dont want to take a pill everyday. its hard losing weight while on the shot but i dont have periods so thats a plus and im sure if i worked out constantly id lose weight its just a matter of u working out.

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Heather u asked for websites about NFP and FAM..not sure about fam but www.ccli.org has a wealth of great info on nfp.

LaTosha - posted on 07/24/2009

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Heather, it is stated to be 99% effective, but IUDs do not necessarily stop ovulating. If you did get pregnant using Mirena, they way it works it to make the uterine environment inhospitable to the fertilized egg, therefore aborting it. There are those instances where the egg isn't aborted but you then have to deal with a high risk pregnancy. If you google Mirena it will tell you how it works. Of course, it doesn't say that it causes abortion, no birth control manufacturer would say that. But it says that it works in three ways. One to stop ovulating, to thicken cervical mucus or make the uterine environment inhospitable to the fertilized egg. Mine was a personal decision because I knew I was still ovulating while on it (I know the signs of ovulation), I just couldn't deal with the fact that I was possibly becoming pregnant and because my uterine environment was made inhospitable to the egg, abort it. Like I said just google Mirena IUD and how it works. The method of bc is a personal one. Seek, God and use whatever you and your husband feel at peace using.

Leah - posted on 07/24/2009

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Mirena is an IUD that uses hormones, this causes your body to stop ovulationg. Only 1% of women get pregnant on mirena. It is safe to use and just about as reliable if not more then the pill or other IUDs. I went to the miranea web side and search other sites ont he internet before I had my put it. The only reason I didnt leave mine it is because I had a change in heart about using all types of B-control, not jsut mirena. I wouldnt worry about it.

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I'm so confused now. I got the Mirena about 6 months ago after my doctor and Christian lacation consultant both recommended it and assured me that in the event conception occurred, the baby would not be aborted. It's frustrating when you can't trust your own doctor! I've had no health issues with the Mirena ( I still have low blood pressure-always have). I do still believe in some methods of birth control, though. Can anyone recommend a good (medical, fact not- opinion based) website where I can read up on NPF and FAM? Or other methods that have worked for you?

Leah - posted on 07/23/2009

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I myself used Mirena, but after only 3 months I took it out after studing the bible. Now, I dont belive it birth control. After reading Pslams 127:3-5 my heart changed. My husband and I are letting God bless us with as many children as he desires. If you live you life for him, he will provide. This is my adive and I do encourage you to read this scripture and study about birth contron in the Bible, I belive it will open your eyes to a new path!

Lynn - posted on 07/23/2009

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i was on the patch for two years and I started having tummy aches and throwing up and getting light headed. So instead we got my hubby snipped. and I feel all better since i am off the patch.

Heather - posted on 07/23/2009

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Good idea!!!! Would never recommend the mirena to anyone! I had it too and it caused me so many problems I took it out!

Mary - posted on 07/22/2009

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they all are linked to not so awesome heart health....we watch my cycle and use condoms and spermicide lubrcants when close to my ovulating days.



There might be some good advice in the book "the China Study" by T. Collin Campbell...it is a nutrition book but covers a lot of stuff.

Good luck in your search.

when u see an ad in a mag 4 b controll..turn the page..the backside of the ad..the side affects and warings..the print is tiny and takes up the whole page...crazy huh.

Melany - posted on 07/22/2009

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It's already been said on here but the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschel has been WONDERFUL! We have been using FAM now for over a year and believe me I am a fertile mertile; even on depo with sad results. I tried everything out there,that isn't permanent, literally before finally finding out about this and to ease my husbands fear he read key points in the book. The difference between FAM and NFP is that with FAM you can choose a barrier during fertile days and that's discouraged w/NFP. The book does warn that if there is ever a time when ALL signs aren't showing an infertile day to abstain or use a barrier. My 2 cents on VCF it can be irritating if spermacide is to you it is after all nonoxycil-9(sp) just not in a gel form. Best of luck! I hope you'll let us know how it works out.

Katrina - posted on 07/22/2009

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My experience with mirena is that it caused me to have extremely high blood pressure. I was ok with it and didn't really have problems other than that. I had a period about ever 2-3 months and it was short. But since I had to take it out my husband and I thought very closely about weather or not we wanted more children. Although he was ok with a vasectomy...we opped to get a tubal with a an ablation for me. So not only do I not have to worry about getting pregnant...I don't have periods anymore either. The best of both worlds. Look into it if your are not wanting any more children.

Cathi - posted on 07/22/2009

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LaTosha, I thought that the pull method would not work for me either as being on birth control and getting preggo would make me fertile mertle. LOL- However, I did place it in God's hands that if we were meant to have more we would have. 3 by birth and one by adoption is perfect for us. I carried my daughter perfectly with no sickness and a quick bounce back after the c-section. My second child was my son and I was severely sick with what they called HG. (Hyperemesis Gravidarum). This pregnancy (being 12 years older) was the worse HG experience. I was hospitalized 3 times in one week, all being in the first tri-mester. 2nd tri-mester wasn't too terrible, however, I had to quit my job and wear the reglan pump for a while :( 3rd trimester has been bareable, but I am SO READY to be done! (And Yes, it's a boy- so I think I carry boys being sick, but I won't test that theory again LOL)
Anyway, there are just many factor's that lead us to the decision to get my tubes tied.
IF I ever get baby fever again, I will definately sign up in the nursery or adopt. :)

I personally don't do birth control as far as pills or patches or inserts, just because I am prone to all the side effects thus far.

Anyway, speaking of babies, my 2 year old lil guy needs his nap now. I think I will have one too!
Have a blessed day ladies!
Cathi~

Marta - posted on 07/22/2009

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I had used the pill and the patch previously and found them ineffective (I'm one of those .01% who still get pregnant...hah I guess they're just meant to be! :D) I'm too scared to try Depo Provera since many of my girlfriends have had problems with it such as persistent bleeding for 3 months so I'm going to give Mirena a try until my husband gets up the courage to go in and talk with the doctor about getting a vasectomy.

Sara - posted on 07/22/2009

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Hi all! I am new here and just read all the post about this. I had the Mirena inserted April or 08 and started having issues with my memory, hair loss, fatigue. I went to my regular doctor and found out I had Hypothyroidism. I went and immediately had the Mirena taken out. I didn't have any issues till I had that put in. I have done some research and found out that other women have had the same issue!!! I truely believe it is from the Mirena, even though the docs say it is not so. I have learned a lot of information here that I didn't realize before. I was on BC for 13 years and never knew of the problems it could cause. Thanks for all the useful information.

LaTosha - posted on 07/22/2009

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The pull out method complete failure for me. I have a 7 year old as a result and will never, I mean never try that again:) I, told my husband he and I are the poster children for how that method doesn't work. Sorry, to hear you had to go through all of that Cathi. I am glad to know that your children are well and that you are too!

Cathi - posted on 07/21/2009

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When I was 18 I got pregnant on the pill. After I had my daughter I wasn't taking any birth control what so ever and used the pull method. Then I had my son 3 years later. After I had my son, I had a total hip replacement done due to necrosis of the joint from an accident when I was 14. The pull method was still in place until I began having painful cycles which the doc's put me on birth control pills again. I had a lot of side effects and stopped taking them. I had the depo shot and bled for 3 months straight. Again, I stopped all birth control and just dealt with the horrific pain monthly. I don't like any birth control for myself because if there is a side effect, I go through it. LOL~
Anyway, 12 years later I am pregnant again after a year of the no pull method and still no birth control. However, due to my 2nd hip replacement surgery over a year ago, and some complications in this pregnancy, we feel a tubal is necessary medically. :)

Michelle - posted on 07/21/2009

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Be careful with the VCF. I used it with my husband and got pregnant within the first box. It could have been that we did not wait long enough after using the product before intercourse but again God is in control and I was meant to have a little girl. It does say that it should be 99.9% effective. I am concerned about what abortifacient means since I have an IUD and am scheduled to have it replaced for the 5 year appointment next week. I will look into this as well.

Andrea - posted on 07/21/2009

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I've been using the pill ever since I had my daughter. It hasn't seemed to give me too many problems so I guess I'll stick with that til we decide to have another.

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Robin, that is what LaTosha was using but it has the potiental to be an abortifacient--"normal" IUDs are 100% abortifacient.

LaTosha, I agree that the audio has excessive comments about people who use BC hate children but I believe that has a society, as a whole, doesn't like children. It certainly is a decision between God and the couple and the bible does state to abstain while praying and fasting. Great topic and my heart beams with joy to know others are aware of the abortifacient factors of most BC methods--a fact hidden from most Christians.

LaTosha - posted on 07/21/2009

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Oh, thank you Tami! I am running to Walmart to find this:) Wow, didn't think of that one. Yeah, no more hormones and I despise condoms!

Tami - posted on 07/21/2009

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I know I am coming in late to this convo but I have to add my 2 cents, I cannot use hormones for various reasons and the thought of an IUD scares me more than I can ever explain to anyone. I dont like using gels, barriers atc so I can relate to the no spermicide option. I tried an IUD for about 3 months and hated it. I was talking to a dear friend of mine who is allergic to not only spermicide but also latex so no condoms for her and she recommended VCF. It is a small clear piece if film that you fold up and put on your cervix. You have to wait 15 minutes before intercourse. It dissolves and protects against pregnancy. I started using it after my son was born nearly six years ago and have never had a surprise. It is simple and easy to use without the mess of gels and the like. And it is non-hormonal. And if you decide to have another baby, there is no lasting side effects that have to be waited out. It is available in the same section of the store as condoms, over the counter and relatively inexpensive. I wish you the best of luck in finding what is right for you!

LaTosha - posted on 07/20/2009

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Esmeralda-

I'm glad you got your answer. It took a friend asking me what I was using, which caused me to do further research and discover what it could potentially do. I made an appt. immediately but do you know the ob-gyn made me wait a month! I was soooo upset. Good thing I was out of town with the kiddos for a while so didn't have to worry about doing the whoppity who (LOL) with my husband.

Esmeralda - posted on 07/20/2009

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Wow! Everyone's answer was so helpful! I got the Mirena a week ago and have not been comfortable with my decision since. I already have an appt to get it taken out on Friday and had no idea what to use for BC. I didn't even ask God for any direction and I feel ashamed, but I know now that he got my attention through your posts. Thank you LaTosha for asking this question. :)

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Wow! I read all that everybody had to say and they pretty much said it all.

Pray and ask God for wisdom. That is my advice.

I like natural, natural, natural! Not intrusive and abortifacient.

I believe that life begins when egg and sperm meet even if it is not implanted in the uterus. It is unfair what happens with invitrofertilization!

LaTosha - posted on 07/20/2009

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On a good note, I got the Mirena removed, mild cramping that lasted a second. So, happy to have it gone!!!

LaTosha - posted on 07/20/2009

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Abstance in Prayer and fasting, the biblical BC. http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.as... This is great free audio!

Windy, I listened to the audio and it had some great points. I do, however, disagree with some things that were said. I think it was pretty reckless of the guy to say that people who have used or use bc hate babies. Not to start a debate on how to interpret the scriptures because that would take forever, but I do want to make a few points. Just like every believers relationship with Christ is a personal one, I think the decision to either use bc or not use bc is between the couple(parents) and God. God did tell Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, but He never told them how much to multiply. I do believe that bc that acts as abortifacients(sp) should not be used in any situation because life does begin at conception (when the sperm fertilizes the egg, not when it implants in the uterus). I believe if a number of women truly understood how some bcs work then they wouldn't use them. But to say that parents who try to limit the number of children they have means they hate children is pretty far out there. I have more to say but don't want it to get bigger than what it is:)

Anne - posted on 07/20/2009

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Suzanne - Ultimately, fertility is in God's hands! Even if you do everything right, God still has His own plan that supercedes ours! :)

Windy - The difference between FAM and NFP is basically that with FAM you do not abstain during the fertile phase, but use either withdrawal or protection of some kind. Yes, my MIL was convinced we had chosen the "rhythm" method and were going to have countless unwanted children ;)

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All I know is that I became pregnant when we used NFP, and my cycles aren't completely regular. Perhaps I screwed up because I missed all the signs and wasn't doing it right, I don't know what happened. All I know is my youngest is sitting here today after tracking for 3 months, after being "regular" for 5 months, and finally breaking down and using nothing besides for a total of 4wks before I discovered I was indeed pregnant. So I'm inclined to say it works best (not that it doesn't work at all for irregular), but best for those who are, based off of my experience.

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"Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed When they speak with their enemies in the gate." Psalm 127:4-5 Who says a quiver if full? The creator of the quiver!



Abstance in Prayer and fasting, the biblical BC. http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.as... This is great free audio!

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Anne, that is exactly what NFP is..."All you have to do is take your temperature every morning before you get out of bed and record that and other signs of fertility.." Other misconceptions about NFP is that it is the rythm method.

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To be sure whether your choice is approved by God, the best place to go is the bible, and to God himself in prayer. That's what we did for 4 months prior to my husbands vascetomy. I did try the IUD, and it was a horrible experience, long story but I would never in a million years recommend that to anyone. I also tried hormonal birth control which made me awfully sick, and I'm now completely against all hormonal birth controls because of what they do to your body. Condoms, well, they're affective but not fun. :P And NFP works best for those who have completely regular cycles. For those with irregular cycles, it might not be the best choice, especially if your reasoning is for health issues. We also tried spermicide inserts (which you said you can't use), that worked, but it burned. :( I never tried a diaphram, that's also a barrier method, but I think you have to use spermicide for that too?? I think your best bet would be to carefully research each method, approach the issue with your husband, pray through it, and search through the bible thoroughly.

Anne - posted on 07/20/2009

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We use FAM which is similar to the NFP someone mentioned earlier. Check out Toni Weschel's book "Taking Control of your Fertility".

It's so easy and involves almost no expense and no risky medications or surgical procedures. All you have to do is take your temperature every morning before you get out of bed and record that and other signs of fertility (which are all covered in depth in the book). It's VERY reliable (I think even more so than any other BC as long as you do it correctly and don't take foolish risks, i.e. have unprotected sex when you're possibly fertile) and so simple. My husband and I successfully avoided pregnancy for almost 2 years and then when we started trying got pregnant right away. We are once again successfully avoiding.

By the way, it even (or maybe especially) works for those who have irregular cycles. It teaches you how to identify when and if you are ovulating.

LaTosha - posted on 07/20/2009

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I've heard of Essure. I am a little concerned about putting something in my tubes and having the tubes build scar tissue over them. I always thought doctors told us scar tissue wasn't a good thing but they want to cause us develop it:) I know I seem hopeless right(LOL) The thought of coils in my body permanently really scares me. I know everyone has the differing views on the amount of children to have, and whether or not we should control this. I respect everyone's differing views, I just want to make sure the method we(my husband and I) is one approved by God.

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How do these permanent "fixes" effect our health. If it is working the way God intended, what happens when we break it?? Natural law always affirms God's law. I encourage anyone looking to this as a solution to do lots of research and to remember that "Behold, children are a gift of the LORD,The fruit of the womb is a reward." Psalm 127:3 How many of us would refuse the gift of wealth or of health but refuse the blessings of children? Our God is unchanging, our society is fleeting and can be fickle.

I know LaTosha you were not looking for a permanant solution but I had to put this out there :D

Sara - posted on 07/20/2009

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There is a new method that is a permanent, non surgical method of birth control. It is done in the office, I think it is called Essure (not sure on spelling). Not for those looking to have more children in the future.

LaTosha - posted on 07/20/2009

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Thanks ladies for all your input. Hopefully the ob/gyn can help me to make a decision. I'm allergic to spermicide so don't think barrier methods will work for me(diaphragm). Having my tubes tied it too permanent and I do not like the idea of surgery. That would have been easier to do after having my last child, as it would be less complicated than it would be for me to have that now. I do not want hormones, I have found that they do not agree with me. So, I guess on to condoms without spermicide until we figure something out. Thanks again!

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I've got my tubes tied now so no worries! I've never been on any form of hormonal birth control. The Lord just impressed me strongly that I was not to manipulate my body in that way. After I found out how much of it is really the equivalent of a "morning after" pill, I'm so glad I never used it! I am not a terribly fertile person and wanted lots of children so I never needed much birth control anyway. I used "barrier" methods most of the very few years that we needed any. My SIL has had great success with her IUD but I don't understand how they work and I've never felt "right" about them so I never looked into it.

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2009

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13 months ago I was hospitalized and suffered a 2 week recovery because of the Mirena. Take caution I will never use birth control again. It's horrifying to think of what your body does to your baby within a few days of conception to keep you from getting pregnant. It's designed to do 3 things 1. Make your body think it's pregnant already so you don't get pregnent. 2. If that ever fails, it's to make the uterous such an unliveable environment that your body treats your baby like it can't care for it and miscarries it. 3. It just destroys the newly conceived baby as it finds it's resting place at the bottom of your uterous. All other birth controls perform the first 2 jobs.

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