discipline

Brenda - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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just wondering from other christian mom how you all discipline your children? I am having problems with getting my 2 yr old daughter to listen and they only thing that scares her is i am calling daddy and it doesn't always work

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Patricia - posted on 07/07/2009

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Mom children are very smart. It seems as if you are not convincing enough to her and she has figured that you used daddy one time to many and nothing happened. Time out is good and if she can't follow that, I like the little tap as others. Children have a spirit of freedom and if directed properly is great but if left untamed results in a MAURY or JERRY SPRINGER show.

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2009

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The reward system is a great way to start out...if you do this, you get this. Nothing big like if she loves reading say you'll read a story together. Something simple but fun make it a reward with mommy!

Sophia - posted on 07/07/2009

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at that age decipline is very important. children learn through being rewardeded for their good behavior. if you do not believe in spanking, you can try asking nicely and when done reward him/her for producing. I get really excited when my 1 and 2 yr olds do something good and then I reward them for doing it. you can use their favorite toy or food as bait.

Jane - posted on 07/06/2009

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The whole reason they call it the "Terrible Twos" is because this is the first time a child becomes independent enough to say "no"! It is a trying time for you, though, as your little precious baby is suddenly gone wild!
It is important to establish discipline right frokm the start. Teach her that Jesus wants us to obey, and when she does obey, praise her and say "Good job, Jesus loves it when we obey." When she does not, say, "The Bible says we must obey." Even adults are responnsible to obey God! If your little one is doing something that could cause her harm (something dangerous), you should pop her little hand or bottom (not hard enough to hurt her), but say "No" sharply and she will get the idea quickly that you mean business. She needs to know that something can hurt her, and you mean business. If it is not something dangerous, "time out" works if you are consistent and you make her stay on the chair and not just get back up and ignore you. Always tell you child what behavior you expect before you go out, and if she behaves, you will give her a little treat. (something as simple as M & Ms or a sticker). Is she does not behave, remind her that this is why she cannot have her treat. If you give in, you lose, so be strong, even if she cries. We are rewarded for doing the right thing as adults, for example we get a paycheck and bonuses if we go to work, and establishing rewards for a chld is appropriate. Always, always pray with your child and thank Jesus for her, asking for help when she was disobedient, and thanking Jesus for her obedient heart when she is being "good."
I raised four daughters in a Christian home and now have 7 grandchildren!~

Jane - posted on 07/06/2009

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The whole reason they call it the "Terrible Twos" is because this is the first time a child becomes independent enough to say "no"! It is a trying time for you, though, as your little precious baby is suddenly gone wild!
It is important to establish discipline right frokm the start. Teach her that Jesus wants us to obey, and when she does obey, praise her and say "Good job, Jesus loves it when we obey." When she does not, say, "The Bible says we must obey." Even adults are responnsible to obey God! If your little one is doing something that could cause her harm (something dangerous), you should pop her little hand or bottom (not hard enough to hurt her), but say "No" sharply and she will get the idea quickly that you mean business. She needs to know that something can hurt her, and you mean business. If it is not something dangerous, "time out" works if you are consistent and you make her stay on the chair and not just get back up and ignore you. Always tell you child what behavior you expect before you go out, and if she behaves, you will give her a little treat. (something as simple as M & Ms or a sticker). Is she does not behave, remind her that this is why she cannot have her treat. If you give in, you lose, so be strong, even if she cries. We are rewarded for doing the right thing as adults, for example we get a paycheck and bonuses if we go to work, and establishing rewards for a chld is appropriate. Always, always pray with your child and thank Jesus for her, asking for help when she was disobedient, and thanking Jesus for her obedient heart when she is being "good."
I raised four daughters in a Christian home and now have 7 grandchildren!~

Michelle - posted on 07/06/2009

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I recommend John Rosemond!! His website is rosemond.com. He's a great christian phychologist with a no-nonsense attitude. He has helped me through my parenting woes. Good luck and God bless.

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My husband & I have recently read the book To Train Up a Child, by Michael & Debi Pearl. It focuses on training your children to obey without question. They use spanking, which we had done anyhow, but not in an effective manner. I swear, if the book hadn't been written 13 years ago I would think they were using me as all their examples of what not to do! Anyhow, with consistency from us parents, we are seeing good results as we "retrain" our 3 & 2 year olds, and work to avoid the same mistakes with our baby.

The focus of the book is not spanking, that is just the method they use to train their childrens' behavior. You train their behavior from early on, instead of waiting until they understand why they must behave a certain way. And you train their behavior, discipline their attitudes.

I have recently come across so many things about TRAINING my children. I know God is really trying to get through to me here! Everything talks about training them first thing.

I am not in any way attempting to spark a spank/don't spank debate here. But the book is very helpful!

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Sorry I didn't mean to sound abrubt- but you know what I mean...Daddy and You support each other so the child doesn't try the old divide and conquer technique...

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my daughter is very emotional- I also have 3 boys. They all respond differently. With my daughter because she is more emotional, i use that to disapline her "It would make Mummy happy if you did this..." or "That made Mummy sad when you did that and that is not how to behave...". know how frustrating it can be but sometimes it is just a lack of communication. She doesn't understand what I have said- or doesn't feel capable of doing what I have asked. So I have taught her " it is okay to tell Mummy you need help, but not okay to throw tantrums like that. You will not get what you want if you behave that way". Every child is different though. My daughter now will tell me how she feels and I talk to her and that works for us..I think it is important for children to feel they are heard. But you are the Mum and they need to learn that it is important to obey- as you care for them and you know what is best...I pray you get the help you are looking for :)

Vicki - posted on 07/02/2009

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Age 2 is a time for your child to test everything. It's how thy learn about the world and their particular environment. Fun for them, not so fun for you. It's important to understand she is not trying to anger you, only to see what type of reaction she can get from you. And if she gets a powerful reaction once, she will definately try to repeat whatever behaviour that was.... So, if you catch her being good, and give her a powerful reaction, she'll start doing those good things more. And if she does something bad, and you ignore it or correct her without any emotional reaction, she looses interest in that particular behaviour.



At this age, kids simply cannot be expected to make good choices or behave properly at all times. Choose your battles wisely. Work on one or two behaviours at a time, and be very consistent in letting her know the rules of the game and the consequences when she chooses to break them. Make the consequence immediate, unemotional, predictable, and appropriate. You can do it.

Shelly - posted on 07/02/2009

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Brenda,

Starting out with time outs is a good thing but they recamend one minute for each year...And if that fails try a little swat on the fanny just enough to get her ateention...Using daddy as a threat isn't fair to daddy all you do there is make her afraid of her daddy, and that is very unfair to him!!!

Belinda - posted on 07/02/2009

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I have a 3 year old with the same problem, but lately Im putting her in "time-out" She must sit on her chair for plus minis 5 min. Not speaking, but in a quite corner. Well it is working for my little one. Mabey you should try it.

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