family member dissing christians.. need help

Sara - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




Hello, my name is Sara. My son, Nathan, was born premature (a lil over 4 weeks early) but had no complications with his health (Thank the Lord!). There are a few of my family members that I'm concerned about because they once had Faith in the Lord and now they are going in different directions. First, my sister (whom is my son's Aunt) is engaged to an Atheist. She grew up in church right beside me. I'm older than her by 3 years, but that's beside the point. I don't understand why she's letting herself grow away from her true faith. Her fianance, who grew up as a muslim, is now an atheist and is always making fun of my family and I for going to church and being christians. What should or can I do to help bring her back to where she belongs? Second, my cousin just had his first baby (out of wedlock too) and posted on his facebook that "Christians are the most rude and snobby people in the world. Christians are too stuck up Jesus's *you know what* to see that real life is horrible." He just purposed to the mother of his child and I don't know when they plan to get married, but that doesn't matter either. I'm concerned about his little boy and how they (as parents) are going to teach him about faith and religion. How can I help them, they are my family and we all grew up together AS CHRISTIANS and went to church together and everything. Please give me some feedback. Thank you sincerely, *sara*

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Calinda - posted on 07/01/2013




Perhaps your cousin is feeling judged by people who should stop sticking their nose in other people's business? Personally i think you feel threatened by the fact that your family is questioning what most logical adults have learnt by the time they are in their teens, jesus doesnt exist, god is as man made as santa and the easter bunny and you look around and lash out at your family under the guise of "caring for your family" because you know its all a scam but keep praying it's apparently the ONLY thing you can do :))

Celicia - posted on 01/14/2010




First off, I agree with your cousin who thinks "Christians" are rude, snobby, and horrible. Unfortunately, there are millions of "Christians" out there that do not follow their faith, but willfully judge others. So, maybe your cousin has been affected by those people and can't see past it. There are more of them in this world then there are believers. However, you can change that mind set. Don't be so concerned about trying to "help" them raise their kid in the light of God. God will take care of that. He wrote it on all of our hearts and if we truly seek Him, we will find. Remember, there are people in other countries that never heard the name of Jesus, but still found him. The only thing you can honestly do, is not be one of those "Christians" by living your life. If your sister's fiance pokes fun at you, just tell him you are so sorry he feels that way, but you do not choose to lash out about his beliefs, so to respect yours. If he can't handle that, then the best thing is to pray pray and pray. You also may have to keep your distance until God has brought you to the point that He wants you to witness to him. God has to soften his heart and if you lash out, that time will be pushed further and further away. Always speak out of love. Once again, you living your life and raising your children in the light of the Lord will be testament enough to change callous hearts. Just trust in the Lord and try to refrain from getting into arguments with the non-believers, it will only fuel their fire and make them say, "See, all Christians do is judge...." and whatever else they already feel. You are doing great because you love them so much, so just keep them in prayer and trust the Lord to bring them to their knees.

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Rebekah - posted on 01/18/2010




Hi Sara, the ONLY thing you can do is pray for them and then BELIEVE that what you prayed will come to pass. If you can combat your own thoughts of disbelief, and truly believe that what your family was trained up in they will not depart from it! The promises of God are 100%, and you must start fighting the good fight of faith (1 Tim. 6). When you pray, pray to the Father in Jesus' name, and you will receive what you ask for!!! But after you pray, begin rejoicing for the answer because you will receive it and see God work - just remember to get out of the way, for when God moves, He wants US out of the way!

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2010




hello sara, What you can do is show them how much God has given you in like see how great things have gotten for me and if you go this way God can give you wonderful things too...i showed my friends what God has given me and my husband and we got them to change from being Aethiest to being a christian again...just being around them and showing how positive you are and just praying helps alot...i hope this helps....

May God Watch Over You,


JACKIE - posted on 01/17/2010




Sara~unfortunately sometimes you say alot more without saying much~Continue to pray for their ultimate salvation~pulling scales off of their eyes!and show them over and over again The LOVE of CHRIST! HIs ability to help us to show them Forgiveness,Mercy,Grace and how to be more like Jesus! Do they deserve this~NO!~but then again niether do any of us~by Grace we are Saved! ALL THAT YOU CAN REALLY DO IS "SHOW THEM BY EXAMPLE"keep praying and let them know that you love them so much that you'll never STOP praying for their salvation! Be reletless in your Faith and prayers! hope this helped!God bless you~with love in Christ...Jackie Day

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Hi Sara,
My sister was dating an athiest for two years. He was a nice guy but I was worried about her being unequally yoked. I talked about it with my sister and she would always say, "But he respects that I am a Christian." My husband and I prayed for her and they broke it off not too long ago. Even if you sister does get married to this guy, keep praying for both of them and for his salvation. You never know what God will bring about in a bad situation.

As for your cousin, he is probably feeling persecuted because of his sin. So sad to say, but many time Christians do come off as condesending, especially when it comes to pre-marital sex. Again, pray for him and be there when he needs help. As the baby grows, invite him to kids' events at your church. Parents see those as great babysitters and your cousins' child will be learning at church. It doesn't take the place of learning from parents but it can be a great way to introduce unchurched children (and their parents) to God.

One of the best ways to be a good witness is to simply love. Don't get defensive, just listen and help when you can.

Nadine - posted on 01/16/2010




Dear Sara,
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. First, we must trust in God that he will work this all out to His own purpose. Second, as many others have responded, we must pray continually. Third, living your life in love can make Christianity so attractive that by your example your family members will want to know your "secret". Preaching will only push them away and responding in anger wll prove their point. When your future brother-in-law disses your faith, try to respond with some humor. Eventually, you may wear him down, but even if you don't you won't end up with a hard heart. Adding my prayers to yours.

Anne - posted on 01/15/2010




Dear Sara,
all you can do is pray pray and pray and be strong. my parents are atheist too and make fun of anything remotely christian. i became a christian 18 years ago; it just happened :)
I raise our daughter as a christian and i am proud of it.
it is not easy to be a christian and we must trust in the power of praying and Love. i fear that if you get involved you might even lose your sister. trust in the Lord and in your prayers and let Him do his magic :))))
i shall pray for you and your family tonight.
be strong

Maggie - posted on 01/14/2010




pray, extend to them God's love, but also keep healthy boundaries between you, your child and them. only God can change them, but He needs your prayers for them to be able to work in their lives since they are not open to Him.

Heather - posted on 01/14/2010




Sara, the best thing you can do is pray, and live a life of love. Let them see Jesus at work in you. Don't be stuck up, but humble and loving. Let them see through your life that it is more then that. Pray pray pray.

Anne - posted on 01/14/2010




Hi Sara, I have to agree with Gini, I Prayed for my dad for 18 years before he came to the Lord. I was also Prayed for, by a lady I would meet after I became a Christian for 18 years. I will keep you and your family in my Prayers.

Gini - posted on 01/14/2010




hey Sara,

there are many times that we see our loved ones stray away from God. Unfortunatley, we can try our hardest to push them into the right direction, but ultimatley it is up to God and the person straying. The most helpful thing you could do is pray for your sister and cousin. Prayer is powerful, and although it may seem like you are doing nothing to help the situation prayer is the most helpful and rewarding thing that you may offer.I will pray for your family as well!

God Bless.

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