How to have Faith when ur loosing it?

Carrie - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hi,my family is going though a hard time right now and a lot of it's difficult and lengthy to go into.My mom was catholic and I was not baptized in that faith,But she would send me to Sunday school with my cousins and I loved it.But as a teen and young adult I grew away from all church communities,I now am in my thirties and have slowly started going to this church were I volunteer at it's hard because yes I'm comfortable in this church and the people are nice,One thing though I still feel like an outsider,I try to go at least one Sunday of every month and I have been invited to a mothers group and I do want to go but the difficulty I mentioned is interfering in me going,also I'm concerned for my children right now one of my daughters lives with her father and yes he may have gotten custody rather deviously but even I must admit he's doing better than I thought he did in the past,and four are unfortunately in care and here is my problem these four are being forced to go to church and it is not a faith of their fathers or my choosing,it is a pentecostal church and though I have nothing against this faith,IT IS NOT MY OWN,my children now say they do not want to go to church any church and that scares me,faith is enrichment for the soul and to boot a good moral center.My faith in Jesus has been good even when not going to church but not with the hardship of my children temporarily not being here and being forced to do what to them feels wrong.I am loosing faith because.


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Shelia - posted on 01/22/2010




Carrie i will be praying that God will give you the peace that you need about going to His House.. If people can only forget the different religions and just remember we serve a Loving God that wants to have a relationship and love you so I would encourage you to start by reading His Word and if you don't know where to start go to Psalms it's a book to encourage you. I would pray for my children because prayer changes everything and that is the best thing as a mom you could be doing... When you find a Church don't feel like an outsider just remember who you are going to worship Jesus and He will truly bless your heart. It is so important in our time that we live in that we fight for our children and our faith may God give you wisdom and lead you to the right Church to worship because Jesus is so worthy to be Praised...

Victoria - posted on 01/21/2010




I agree with Heather.

The scriptural version of the lemonade comment I think would be, Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (NIV)

It's a tough situation, but God can use it, to draw you and your kids closer to Him. Just keep trusting Him, He knows what He's doing and why He's allowed certain things to take place, but it all serves to accomplish 2 things, His name being glorified, on earth as it is in heaven and the good & gain of His servants (His people). His word says that He won't put on us any more than we can handle, and Jesus said that if they are not against me then the are fore me...that would be a Pentecostal Assemblies, they preach & teach Jesus in accordance with the Word of God, so try and see the lemonade aspect of the situation and that in itself should cause you to be more at peace. God is already working in your situation, you probably just don't see it yet. You're in my prays. But dwell on this scripture for a while, Philippian 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (NIV)

Heather - posted on 01/21/2010




My response isn't going to start out very biblical, but one of the things I have always believed (even before I was saved) is when life gives you lemons, make lemonade, it makes things easier. Is there anyway to turn this into a good situation? Can you attend church with your children once a month? Can you encourage them that even though this isn't the church that you choose that it could be a good thing. Can you ask for them to attend with you once a month to your church? Just suggestions of course, I don't know your situation, but God does. He is working in every situation even when we can't see him. Don't loose your faith, but look to see if God can strengthen your faith through the situation you are in. Pray for God to show you the way. It might not have anything to do with anything I suggested, but God has a plan. Open yourself up and he will show it to you. I will pray for your family.

Anne - posted on 01/20/2010




Carrie I am so sorry you are going through these things right now. I will be Praying for you.
Try to stay in the Word and to Pray daily. If you have a Christian Radio Station or T.V. stations you could listen to these things although not meant to take the place of a Church Home they can help. Also there is a Conversation that is Thumb tacked on the Christian Mommies conversation thread that has several Scriptures for when you are stressed.

Leann - posted on 01/20/2010




Well, I will def. be praying for you. I know it's hard to see the light at the tunnel right now, but there is hope. Just don't give up hope. It says in God's Word, "Many are the troubles of the righteous, but the Lord delivers them out of them all". So, God didn't sugar-coat all that we would have to face in this life, but He did promise to be with us, and deliver us if we stay close to Him and put our trust in Him. He knows the desires of your heart, which is to be with your children and to have a say in where they should go. Trust Him, that He will arrange for your children to be where He wants them to be, in church, at home, wherever. He is in control; you have my support.

Carol - posted on 01/20/2010




Jesus answers all prayers, "yes", "no", and "not now". God bless a mothers love for her children and the strength of her prayers I believe are always heard. Look around and count your blessings. Blessings can be so small they are hard to find and count, but they are there. Even the things we hate can become blessings in time. We learn from them. Find a good friend and talk. Service always make us feel good about ourselves and we all believe in you and the power you have inside of you. Jesus must believe in you if I do. God Bless you tomorrow and I promise that the load will get lighter...

Rosa - posted on 01/20/2010




I don't know what to say really, but the Lord put a burden on my heart to just pray for you in your difficulties. I am a Pentecostal Christian but I am more interested in unifying than dividing the body of Christ. After all, when he returns we will have to answer for the division. All I can say is keep praying, God hears the prayers of the broken hearted. Keep reading your Bible which is where our comfort is and let the joy of the Lord be your strength even through these times. Remember to be quiet and listen for that still small voice of God that guides you. I ask the Lord to deliver you from your pain and your anxiety, maybe you could find someone to be accountable to at your new church and they can help you get there EVERY sunday. It is so important to worship among believers. In the name of Jesus.

Helen - posted on 01/20/2010




Oh I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. Being a mum isn't easy without all the added stress and problems you have had to deal with. I'm glad that you've found a church that you are starting to settle into, and volunteering will help you integrate and meet more people too. Don't forget though that while it is great to give to your church, such as with volunteer work, there are also times in all of our lives when we struggle, and you mustn't be afraid to ask for help and receive from the church as well. All of us Christians are one big church family after all, and need to be here for one another. Can you talk to one of the elders or pastors about what you are going through? Even if they are unable to offer practical advice, they can make sure that there are people praying for your situation, and prayer is powerful. It is sad that your children are not enjoying the church they are being taken to. Do you have any input regarding their care, such as being able to talk to their care worker about different churches, if they don't like this one? Perhaps you could do an internet search or ask local Christians about churches in their area which have a great sunday school or youth system that they would enjoy more and feel happier going to. Most importantly of all, keep praying and don't give up hope. Often it feels like our prayers are not being answered, but often God answers them in ways that we don't expect or in a different timescale. Even if your children don't come to know Jesus in their childhood, there will be many many opportunities for them to come to know Him as they grow up. And at the end of the day, we all come to know Him at different stages of our lives and under different circumstances. Love and prayers,

Helen x

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