need help and prayers

JENNIFER - posted on 03/04/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I became a Christian when i was a young girl. Grew up in the church, went to a christian school and even a christian college. it was my junior year in college that i met a guy who was not christian and my life went down hill from there. i have tried to come back to the Lord, but it has been so hard since i am used to this kind of backsliding lifestlye. in the midst of this, i met my now husband, who is not a christian. he says that he is cathollic, but doesnt practice it. I am a Baptist.
Here lately it has been weighin on my mind and heart that i need to get close to God. Since i have moved away from my home church recently and havent found another, i have had help from my best friend back home. my husband has been no help and doesnt respect my decision. instead he wants to throw everything i "used to like" back in my face.
I need help and prayer and support to come back to God. in doin this, i find myself short with my kids; like i dont have the tolerance for them anymore. what should i do?

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Mizanne - posted on 03/14/2010

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Pray for him when he argues with you. God will be there as soon as you put your hands together.

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as the Don Moen's song says: "When you've prayed every prayer that you know how to pray, just remember the Lord will hear and the answer is on its way. Our God is able, He is mighty, He is faithful...And he never sleeps, He never slumbers, He never tires of hearing our prayers, When we are weak he becomes stronger, so rest in His love and cast all of your cares on Him...
Do you feel that the Lord has forgotten your needs? Just remember that God is always working in ways you cannot see(it's right!)
Our God is able, He is mighty, He is faithful......so rest in his love and cast all of your cares on Him" Jennifer, I'll pray for you ;)

April - posted on 03/10/2010

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i am a fellow christian mother to six becoming short with kids is something that i am afraid occurs also in my life. i find that the closer to god i am the more patience and understanding i have with everyone. continue to search for a home church, one that will support you and your family in continueing to grow closer and closer to god. he is the key to everything. as far as your husband goes, i believe the change he will see in you as your relationship with god strengthens the more inclined he will be to pursue a relationship of his own with god. i will keep you and your family in my prayers. god bless

Ericka - posted on 03/09/2010

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u should take the time each morning to go to GOD IN PRAYER AND ASK FOR his help...u know he loves you and will welcome u home with open arms! I Suggest getting a good devotion and read it each day, pray, and just do the best u can! if you can't afford a devotion ...just read through proverbs one for each day of the month...and pray, pray over your house and your children and let GOD MOVE IN YOUR life....ur in my prayers

Mary - posted on 03/09/2010

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I will help pray for you. where do you live? I was wondering if you lived anywhere in my area. I live in Lykens, Pa. The reason I asked is because I know of a good church you could go to it's the Emmanuel Wesleyan Church in Gratz, Pa. They just so happen to be having their spring revival right now too. Let's try to pray for each other as I have many issues I'm dealing with as well. I don't have time to go into details.
Sincerely,
Mary Lord

Victoria - posted on 03/09/2010

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The best thing for you to do is start with the Word of God, find a quiet time everyday and just start reading. Start in Genesis and read it cover to cover (obviously this will take some time). Before you read, pray, ask God to reveal Himself to you (through His word) He is a God of His word & His word is the His power Ro 1:16 I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile.
God is faithful He will reveal Himself to you and draw you closer to Himself, and in doing this, everything else will become clearer, it will even help with you kids (when I don't get personal time with God I am short tempered with my kids too).

Mt 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
Now as you establish yourself in Gods word, start looking for a home church in your area, so that you will have the support system you need to develop in your walk with God.
Don't worry about the past, if you've truly asked God for forgiveness it's been forgiven. Romans 4:7 "Blessed are they whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered.
As for your husband, just keep him in prayer, and let him see Christ in you, 1Pe 3:1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives.
And just to clarify this isn't saying submit and don't follow Christ, God must always be first, it is saying to let your Christ like character be evident.

You will most certainly be in my prayers.

Donna - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hi Jennifer: Ican't say I know what your going through. However; I have heard of wonderful testimonies from other people that have unequally yked themselves with no-believers. I too am remarried. My husband was catholic while we were dating and I told him I felt like I mis lead him. I shared the love of Christ with him and he readily accepted Jesus. Not sure if that was in fear of losing me. ( doubt it) I have my own insecurities. However; When I share the bible reading with my children I put it to them this wasy. Do the want this kind on mommy. gentle meek, hummble loving kind, soft spoken or the kind that freaks out easily, loses my tempter at a drop of a hat, sins with her mouth( had my abusive up bringing as well, few battle scars) 'The choices are ususally the sweat wonderful mother they know I'm capable of being. So we then sit down and each of the three little one take turns reading from a fun New Testament for kids book called Magnify. I got it on (used) Amazon.com. ICB The kids seem to really love the lord as well as my husband. We are not a perfect family but we are trying.
Ithink that your battles will be won on your knees. Go to your prayer closet and ask Jeus to open your husbands heart. If you keep firm in your faith and don't fall back keep pushing forward God hears you. My great support comes from listening to Christian radio. Charles Swindol, Charles Stanley and there are many more. I really don't listen to much else. You need to put more of christ in and your family will see the change. I once heard consistancy over time. It might take time to soften your family. but when you are consistent in tough times, they will see the change in you and want that peace as well. We hope. For God knows the plans her has for you. They are for not for calamitty to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 Well your on my prayer list God Bless. Donna

Missi - posted on 03/09/2010

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seperate youself from the thing that cause your corruptiona dn the path will be much easier, get in to he word, pary for your own realtionship with our father and for your husband, i will take your pray request very much toheart and keep you in my prayers....it is not about once saved always saved, it is about a personal realtion ship with God, I understand that in Gods plans the husband is to be the religious leader of the house, but you are taking the right steps, the Lord will bring him into the family of God in time have faith and keep prayin

My-Thuy - posted on 03/07/2010

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I agree with most of the women when you should pray. But i also believe that if you and your husband cannot be happy together, and he is throwing your beliefs in your face, you should think about, if you two are turely ment to be together. It shouldnt matter whose what, but a healthy relationship, consists of mutal agreements and small scarfices forgivness love and understanding, if you both love the LORD then there shouldnt be any problems with who wants to do what with their religon or beliefs or anything. We are all God's children. Dispite what others may do, never allow them to tempt you into fogetting Him. We are put through strange trials and tests,and its up to us to walk down the right path, no matter how hard it may seem, the LORD is always with us to hold our hand down the path we choose to take. But He also wants us to be happy. stand up for your LORD.

Jean - posted on 03/07/2010

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God is always there for you. Just believe it! Try taking your children to church with you. Explore new churches until you can get hooked into one you feel the Lord is guiding you towards. Try MOPS. (Mothers of Preschoolers) or a womens group. As for your husband. Don't try to push him. That will only make him grow farther away. Just pray for him. Try to introduce him to your new church and especially if you act differently in the home, (your kids and him) he might just go with you. Remember, Jesus will never leave you nor forsake you~

Karen - posted on 03/07/2010

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I've been a Christian for about 20 yrs now but I did backslide myself for quite a few years when I split from my first husband, the church we attended at the time was a little Pentecostal Chapel in Wales and was predominantly attended by his family so I was obviously not comfortable with staying there once we split and I couldn't find another church I liked.

I had no Christian friends to turn to for guidance so it was inevitable that I would backslide really, I was a relatively young Christian at the time as well and didn't know much about God at all, or how to have a relationship with him either so I didn't know much about prayer etc. It was a very difficult time for me when I look back on it but I’m positive God was with me the whole time but I just didn't realise it.

Anyway, I moved back to England 7 yrs ago when my triplets were 10 months old and met my best mate about a yr or so later, she invited me to an outreach toddler group run by a church she had attended called Wokingham Vineyard Church, I started to get to know a lady there who after a few weeks of attending this group invited myself and my husband to a social event they had organised, that was 7 yrs ago now and I’ve never looked back. I believe that God had used my best mate to guide me back to him. I feel that I’ve been truly blessed.

Good luck with your own journey but I know that God will also be with you every step of the way. I agree with the comments everyone has made, prayer and reading your bible are the best way of getting back in touch with God.

God bless you and your family

Dee - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi Jennifer,

I understand how you feel. It is very important to draw close to him. He is calling you, that is why is it on your heart and mind. The Holy Spirit and calling and drawing you to Him. You need to pray. Pray for your husband, because it will be a fight. Pray for your kids. They need strength to understand what you are going through too. Satan is playing hard for your soul right now and will NOT go down with out a fight. You need to pray for strength, courage to do the right thing no matter what. You need to pray. I will pray for you, but it needs to be you to cover yourself in prayer. Whatever you "used to like" will be thrown back in your face, until they know you are serious. Plus that is another part of Satan's tactics to get you to quit. Be strong and be knowledgeable of Gods Word. Know how much God loves you and is wanting you back. Just remember, He is calling you.....He is looking for His lost sheep.....

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pray pray pray!!! find a mentor in your church, get into the word! surrond yourself with godly people, the LORD will walk you threw it, he is drawing you in!! take his lead and follow!!! and watch your life and those around you in every which way change! ahh and yes the book anne suggested has definatly changed my life, there was a time before i was a christian that i had to choose to stay or go with at the time my husband to be.... and mmy soon to be mother un law knew nothing of the situation and gave me that book! it saved my marriage! and here we are going 5 years storong! good luck and gods peace

Anne - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi Jennifer, Heather gave you wonderful advice. The only thing I would add is if you can get the book "The Power of a Praying Women" by Stormie Martian it will help you as you Pray for your husband.

I also will Pray for you and your husband.

Kathy - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hi Jennifer, Just remember HE said "I will never leave you or forsake you"...WE leave HIM as you know and have experienced. Claim GOD's WORD...its true and the devil is a lier!...Jer. 33:3 says "Call unto me, and I WILL answer and she the great and mighty things!" ...God does not lie! God is hearing you it is just that sometimes we suffer the consequences of our wrong choices but Gods grace IS enough! Get into the Bible..."Faith comes from hearing the word" (Rom. 10:17) Read Read Read! Build your faith again. Praying is when we talk to God but when you get into the Word of God, that is when God talks to us. He loves you and it may not be an easy road you have chosen but you CAN do all things thru Christ! You can raise your kids in the right way...make that your goal in life! You can do it!!

JENNIFER - posted on 03/05/2010

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Thank you so much, ladies. I had a heart-to-heart and he even offered to read with me, even tho he dont agree with everything i do believe in. i have been readin my Bible and everything.

Jeannie - posted on 03/04/2010

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Pray, Pray, Pray. "whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved". I know you said you were saved already, but call on him and he will be there. Matthew 7:8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. It doesn't matter how long it's been since you became a Christian, God will never forsake you! Just turn to hiim now and surround yourself as Heather said in his likeness. Read your Bible, Pray, and just spend time with God and your doors will be opened. Just remember though, the devil will use those closest to us to keep our eyes off the Lord. Just ask for God to lead you not into temptation and the things your husband throws up in your face will not be so appealing to you and won't tempt you so much. I will pray for you dear! It's a long hard road but well worth the struggle. The devils path is much more appealing and easier, but God's way is much more rewarding! God Bless you for being so strong!

Heather - posted on 03/04/2010

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Pray. I will pray for you too. But the best thing you can do for yourself right now is pray. Start reading your Bible, and applying what it says to your life. I would also recommend googling churches in your area. See if there is one that you could start attending, if nothing else, see if one of them has a women's Bible study. All of us have pasts, and many of us have drifted at one point in time. God loves us and is forgiving. If you call upon Him and come and pray to Him, He will listen. (Jer. 29:12). I also recommend praying for your husbands heart to be softened. Pray that you can be a witness in your own home to him and your children. God is good!

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