Raising Girls...?

Nancy - posted on 06/07/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello fellow moms,
I just wanted to get some advice from other moms who have daughters on how you raise them to be strong, kind, and independent future women? I have an almost 2.5 yr old daughter and a 8 mos old baby girl and I just want advice and tips on how to best raise girls. I just want to hear what advice other moms can give me and what has worked and hasn't worked. Thank you!


Carla - posted on 06/08/2012




Hi, sweetheart! The best thing you can do for your daughters is model the behavior you want in your girls. If you want them to be kind, be kind. If you want them strong, show strength in hard matters.

Hands-on child rearing is really the best. If the girls are fighting (when the little one is older, of course), or if they hit each other, stop what you're doing, get down on their level and tell them we don't hit each other. Find out WHY they are hitting (did sister take her toy?), then take care of THAT situation. If they are trying to accomplish a task and throw it in frustration, help them, HELP, not DO it for them, but talk them through the process. A lot of women derive their worth from being needed by their children, but you are really doing them a disservice--they are helpless when they become adults. We have to remember that a child knows nothing about the world, and even the littlest things that we expect them to know, they don't--it's our responsibility to teach them. Show them how to hold the cat so it doesn't scratch them, you know, the thousands of things they do a day! Teach them to pray. Our strength comes from the Lord. If you teach them NOTHING other than that, they will have the best tool a person can have.

This is just a small list, but I think you get the idea. Think of your little ones as sponges--they absorb everything--you are in the unique position that YOU can control what they absorb. Do it prayerfully, and do it to the very best of your ability.

God bless, hon


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Anne - posted on 06/10/2012




Our daughters are 24 and 28. We never figured we were raising "children" we were raising Future Adults. We did realize that a 12 would have different abilities, and likes and dislikes. With the age difference for years our. Daughters had different friends. Now howeve they are sharing an apartment in San Diego. This to me is a Miricle because until about 8 or 9 months ago our oldest daughter was not living for Our Lord. And just because these girls were raised in the same house with the same parents, and same rules, these two young women could NOT be more different in Personality. Our oldest is late for everything except her employment and her college classes. Our youngest daughter is Always Earily for things. I could go on and on. But the important things, their loving God, family, and Thier Compassion for the hurting, they are very much alike. Your daughters will have different likes and dislikes and I am sure you are already
Seeing this.

Teach them to dress modestly by your dressing modestly, teach them to Pray by making Prayer a Priority in your life. Take them to church and Sunday School, not send them.

Do Not Stress if you can NOT afford the Best of every thing to your daughters.. Children do not need the best of every thing. They need our unconditional love. Let them know that home is a safe place to be. No name calling or bulling, give them age appropriate chores. Apologize when you mess up. Believe me you are Human and Humans make mistakes. Let them know at an early age that they are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made in God's Image. Teach them to eat healthy and stay active. It will help both you and your daughters to stay as healthy as possible.

I hope some of this helps.

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