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Julie - posted on 11/28/2008 ( 20 moms have responded )

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Do you plan on a Christian school, home school, or public school? Do you intend to subject your kids to the Evolution religion in public schools? How did you make this decision?

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Glynis - posted on 12/02/2008

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Jan said, "With the Evolution issue, we were explaining this to the kids as issues come up. Like the dinosaur issue- they were wiped out during the flood. " This is not Biblically true. Noah was told to bring into the ark two of EVERY LIVING CREATURE walking the earth. He was not told to neglect the dinosaurs and let them drown. Therefore, they must have been gone before his time.

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Samantha - posted on 12/03/2008

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we homeschool, I dont want someone else teaching my kids things as fact, I will teach them the theory of evolution, I want them to be aware and not naive, but they wil know the truth!!

Colleen - posted on 12/02/2008

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Wow, lots of great comments. My children are almost-2 and 8 months. My husband has a negative experience with public school. I had positive experiences in both private and public school. We have been talking about homeschooling, but making sure our children are involved in many social activities like sports, music, clubs, etc.

I really feel what Amber is saying. There is so much negative influence everywhere that we as parents definately need to offer a positive influence. It is scary to think of all the things children can do so easily these days - smoke, drink, have sex, swear, lie. In the end we have control over the way we are, not the way our children are, but hopefully we can be a good example to them and teach them honesty and integrity.

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We've done public school (K - 2 & K - 4), then home schooled, then public school again.

We home schooled from 5 - 9th grades with our daughter and my honest opinion is that those are really good years to miss in public school. She was really able to develop her values and personality without the constant peer pressure. Both kids did.

Among other things, our local school held 'Prom' for 4 - 6th graders, and I was the only radical (crazy!) parent who did not allow their child to attend. (She understood WHY and didn't want to go either!)

Our son was home schooled in 2 - 7th grades. I wish I could have home schooled him longer, but due to financial need I had to go back to work.

Both kids did well returning to school, grade wise. I don't think our HS does a great job in preparing them in all areas for college, though.

DD graduated 33rd out of 450 students and did not have the writing skills to do well in her freshman English class at Liberty University. Something is WRONG there!

Kids should be prepared to write at least one paper a week in college, no matter if the yare homeschooled or in public school.



Also, I work with a LOT of teachers in my job.

We live in the Bible Belt, and the particular teacher I'm thinking of is a transplant from---NOT the Bible Belt. When he came to our office to pick up some donated flower bulbs for his students to plant, he mentioned there were 2 things he was really pushing his students to learn:

1. To dress in layers of clothing instead of wearing just a t-shirt underneath a winter coat.

2. To teach them that evolution is reality and that the Bible is a myth. Seems some of the kids, at least, had, even at 4th grade, taken issue with some of the stuff he was teaching in science, and he just couldn't believe the 'ignorance' of the locals.



This is happening all over this country. By 7 - 9th grades, our kids should be able to spiritually combat these issues, but I don't expect K - 6th graders to be able to.



I agree with Tricia's advice: prayerfully make the best decision you can.

Wish I could still homeschool our son, but my small income is necessary for paying the bills, not providing any frills. We had to change gears when our circumstances changed.

God bless you as you make your decision :)

Sarah - posted on 12/02/2008

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We homeschool our daughters. We have talked to our girls about the lie of evolution. We believe they need to know about evolution, but also know that we as their parents believe in creation. My older two 10 and 12 love Dr Hovind's DVD's on creation.

I went to a Christian school from Grade 6, I enjoyed it more than the public schooling, but that may be in part due to the smaller class size - I went from a class of 40 to a class of 10 pupils.

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Lots of christian kids have turned out great in public school. My son is currently in 1st grade and we've had a great first 2 years experience. the teachers have been great educators and loving to the kids. My son is a go-for-it intense kid and I can't imagine keeping him occupied at home all day. The strucure of school has been good for him. It's teaching him social skills and respect for other adults. But the end of Kindergarten, his teacher was telling me he was becoming a leader and a peacemaker in the classroom. He loves coming home and telling me about his day. And he still spends more waking time at home than at school. There will probably come a time as he gets older that negatives like sexual influence and inappropriate cirruiculum will lead us to try Christian school or homeschool. But I don't think a Christian parent has to be AFRAID or guilty to try public school. Some public schools still do a very good job.

Allison - posted on 12/01/2008

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I would love to send my child to a private Christian school, but it's very expensive around here.
I don't feel led to homeschool, so we may be going to public school.

Both my husband and I went to public school, and we turned out okay... ;)

Leah - posted on 12/01/2008

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I just found this community and I am so excited to hear you all discussing schooling. I live in Los Angeles and I have just decided to home school. I was actually a teacher before having kids and I always thought that it was so difficult to teach to each child's particular learning style, now I can with my own kids. As far as evolution goes, we will teach the kids what the Bible teaches on that, but also let them know what theories others have.

Amber - posted on 12/01/2008

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Same here, our private and home school kids in our city have ample opportunities to do all the some sports and extra after school things the public school kids get. The public school even runs a bus for non-public school kids!!! This way they get the best of both "worlds". Church and being in a christian home do make a huge difference to all children. How many hours are school age children at school (bus time included) most spend more awake hours at school than at home. For me personally, I feel that God gave me the children I have to raise to live for Him and the more I can lead them in His direction, the better. I didn't have children for someone else to raise for me. I wasn't always this blessed to be able to be an at home mother, but now that I am I would never have it any other way.

As far as wearing skimpy clothing and listening to bad music the Bible talks about such things, I don't know where it is but it basically talks about guarding your heart, mind, soul and body against things that Jesus would not agree with. Music with bad words, not pleasing to God, pretty soon your mouth is spitting out bad words. Skimpy clothing, pretty soon you have boys/men looking at you and next thing you know...... As my pastor says "Garbage in, Garbage out." This is so true, I have lived it out in my very own life and I don't intend to let my children do this to themselves while they are in my care and after they are gone I can only PRAY that they cherish what and why we brought them up the way we did and apply it on their own.

Angela - posted on 12/01/2008

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Where I live homeschoolers have tons of extracurricular options...sports (basketball, vollyball, football, soccer), drama classes, tutoring oppurtunities.....I've been told by my college instructors that they love getting former homeschoolers because they are more motivated with their homework and sharper in class. A homeschooling parent just has to work harder at getting their children those oppurtunites. My parents were lucky to have a large group of homeschoolers in our area.

Bethany - posted on 12/01/2008

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Personally, when I graduated from high school I felt that I had learned "way more" useful tools and knowledge through my involvement in extracurricular activities- especially student government- than in the classroom. How can these types of learning experiences truly be duplicated in a home school or even small Christian school environment? I can certainly see all the pros and cons to this whole situation and will spend the next 4 1/2 years (my son is only 5 months old!) switching from one side to the other...but I think that it's the extra, positive stuff that public school can offer that outweighs the bad.

Let's also not forget about the other balancing influences like church and time spent in a Christian home that help our kids not only know right from wrong but have the opportunity to practice making those decisions. Peer pressure doesn't stop when you leave high school- and the consequences of bad decisions in young adulthood can be far worse than wanting to listen to inappropriate music or wear skimpy clothes. But, as almost everyone has mentioned, this is a very personal decision and healthy, well adjusted, successful and God-loving children have come through all these schooling systems!

Thanks for starting this discussion, I've enjoyed reading everyone's posts.

Amber - posted on 11/30/2008

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The Bible tells us in Proverbs to "Train a child in the way he shall go and when he is old he will not part from it." So this made my decision easy. I take this as not sending them to public school where they teach evolution, sex education ~ handing out condoms and free birth control WITHOUT parental involvement, and now that it is OK to be gay/lesbian/bi-sexual. Just to name a few. If you can home school or put them in a trusted christian school to teach your morals and beliefs about the word of God! I think our children will be subjected to these things in normal everyday life (TV, grocery stores, play groups, daycare, once they are older in life) enough and we don't need to infiltrate our childrens' mind intentionally. Not doing the public school thing doesn't eliminate all problems but it sets them up to excel in a positive atmosphere where their (and your) belief systems are upheld.

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The best advice I ever got about this (from a very wise woman) was this: prayerfully make the best decision you can, and re-evaluate every year for every child. Families can get "stuck" in any form of education and not be open to changing as circumstances change. If your kids are in school, be as involved as you can in their classroom and know what's going on. If you homeschool, get objective, trusted input on how your kids are doing. If it works for you and your children, don't worry about what others do.

Patricia - posted on 11/29/2008

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I was home schooled . We plan to home school our children. We believe God has called us to do this. There are many reasons that we decided this, many of them have already been mentioned in some of the other posts. One additional reason is that my daughter is two, and already knows and recognizes all of the alphabet, colors, shapes, and can almost count to twenty! I don't want my children's learning being slowed or hurried to keep up with the other children. We have two good friends that are teachers in one of the public schools here, and they DON'T want their children going to public school. If the teachers don't want their children going there, then I don't either!

Mollie - posted on 11/29/2008

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Hi, my name is mollie and we have six kids. We have been all over the place on this question. My degree is in elem. ed so I graduated college feeling very strongly pro public school. If we take all the good kids and parents out where does that leave society? Then my oldest was ready to start school. It occurred to me the amount of time I was handing that precious soul over to someone else to influence. Why would I allow someone who doesn't care where my child spends eternity have that much influence on his mind. We did public one year and then I homeschooled one year. My husband felt like we were too secluded and so we finally opted for Hyland Christian school which actually meets at out church building. For us it has been wonderful. Because it is a small school they want parent involvement, so I can be at school as much as I want yet my kids have all the normalcy of a regular school day and schedule. It just is a good fit for us, but I don't believe that there is a right or wrong here. You just have to be aware of the dangers with each choice. Public school kids have the chance to influence more and to defend their faith. A lot of private and homeschoolers are in a false security that their kids will grow up to be christians so they don't always take the time to teach them the why's of christianity.

Mandy - posted on 11/29/2008

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Well I live about 27 miles from the nearest school so homeschooling came as an easy choice. After 4 years of it though I wouldn't switch to public. I love that I can incorporate God into all of our subjects. I also enjoy the flexibilty I have to plan trips or anything the kids might not otherwise get to enjoy. Regarding the evolution religion we're blessed with being in a christian school curriculum plan and the science is all bible based. I hope this helps you!

Joyce - posted on 11/29/2008

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I home school. I don't know what I would do if I lived in America. We are missionaries to Romania so I really didn't have a choice but now that I am homeschooling I think that is what I would choose. My kids read books that talk about evolution but they already know how to read with a discerning eye. I think it is good to not shelter your kids so much that when they are thrust into the world at 18 or 21 they don't know how to react because they weren't taught how to think for themselves. With Homeschooling you are feeding them what you want them to be fed. I think it is a tough decision for each family. I have friends whose kids are missionaries in their public schools. I have friends whose kids are in Christian schools and I have lots of friends who homeschool. you pray and seek what God wants for your family and it also depends on your kids.

Angela - posted on 11/28/2008

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I was homeschooled from 3rd grade thru highschool. I loved it and would like to homeschool my children. My husband went to public school. He is open to the idea of homeschooling. I think public school is fine for most kids, but unfortunatly if you have a more energetic kid you risk them being labled hyperactive. My husband had that problem when he was a kid.



As far as evolution I think you can teach your kids about creation and deal with the issues when they come up in school.

Jan - posted on 11/28/2008

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My kids (11 1/2yo in 6th grade, 9 yo in 2nd grade, and also have a 3 1/2 yo) just started going to christian school this year. After much prayer, (and many problems in the public school- some school problems and some just personality issues that could happen anywhere) we decided God was leading us to make this choice. It has been a wonderful, awesome blessing!!! Not only is God healing some of the issues from last years school problems, but the witness we have to friends and family is amazing! Even within our family, this has spurred a non-attending church Dad to come more often to church, support our Christina beliefs in discussions around the dinner table and he has been praying with the kids some, too. God is definitely speaking, knocking loudly on his heart. (My husband is a Christian , just not a practicing follower) Also, just the conversation that starts when people ask which school our kids attend is wonderful!



With the Evolution issue, we were explaining this to the kids as issues come up. Like the dinosaur issue- they were wiped out during the flood. And other things get discussed at church, as well.



Decision making is so varied as people have so many differences. But one constant is prayer. Pray, pray , and pray some more. Also, having a core Bible study group or Moms in Touch prayer group or some fellowship to pray for you and support you is important for all christians. Dont you agree?

User - posted on 11/28/2008

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I grew went to a Christian school and grew up in a strict Christian home. I really enjoyed it, but was raised knowing what was right, but was never really challenged. I think it is good for children see why they have God as the center of their home. I now have my son in a public school. My son actually comes home wanting to pray for some kids. It definitely puts a huge responsibility on your shoulders. my son is only in first grade , so for now I am just orally teaching him about Creation and Evolution. I do think it is good to know both so they can know why they believe.

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