Taking toddler/infant to church

Chana - posted on 04/03/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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We try to take our girls, 2 and 6 months to church every Sunday. Some days it is harder than others but we do it. My mother-in-law who does not go to church due to health issues wonders of we should take the girls or if they or being disruptive to others. We always have things for the toddler to do and snacks to keep her occupied and the baby will usually fall asleep half way through the service. Our pastor said he loves seeing children in church and if either of them become to loud my husband or I will remove them until we can get them calmed down. Should we stop taking them until they are older or use this time to teache them what is appropriate in church?

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Victoria - posted on 04/04/2013

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My kids have been in church every service since they were born.
If they were fussy we stepped out with them, or took them to the nursery ministry.

Infants might not be able to understand what is being said or what is going on, but they still learn from their environment & even without understanding they can still have a Spiritual experience with God.

Personally I would hang in there & keep going, you have your hubby's as well as your Pastors support.

Blessings,
Pastor Victoria MacPherson.

Sara - posted on 04/10/2013

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my daughter is 2 years old. I took her since she was a newborn to church every sunday. she learned to get used to the music and how to behave. but really people do seriously love to see little one in church. my daughter at 2 now goes to the nursery but my son is 9 months and stays in service with me. when they start the tantrums is when i recommend the nursery. but if there is no nursery then just continue taking them out for a talk and then bringing them back in. maybe a coloring book

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2013

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No by all means continue to take them to church with you. That is SO important. I grew up in a small church, I am the oldest of 6 kids. Our church did not have a nursery for little kids to go into while parents sat in church. Sometimes parents stepped out if their child was noisy, but this is also a teaching moment. I have 3 kids and all have sat with us in church. They do learn to sit quietly and often times sooner then those that are not taken to church on a regular basis. I also see this carry over into every day life. I think it is good for kids to learn how to sit quietly or be quiet at times. I also look at it as why would I not want to take my child to the house of God. He would want to "see" my child and "teach" my child. Children are also the future of the church a church should welcome the children. Another thing to think about is sometimes children help light up others. Some elderly people and even some not so elderly enjoy seeing the little children and it brings them great joy to hear their little voices. Church is a community of believers that comes together to help and support others as well as to learn more about God. Sometimes seeing a little child is someone's help and support.

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Shannon - posted on 04/16/2013

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I always brought my kids to church from the time they were little and so have all of my friends. Pretty much everyone in our church has kids (though they are not so little anymore) and are very understanding about the difficulties. If they are crying its a good idea to take them out of the room, otherwise you'll find that people don't really mind. Our friends have a 9 mo old and they brought one of those play saucer seat things to put him in and they just leave it there. Bring snacks and colors and quiet toys to keep them happy. You'll find with regular attendance it doesn't take long for them to get used to sitting still if the sermons aren't to long. Some churches offer a nursery service if there are a lot of little ones, but if they don't bother the preacher I wouldn't be too worried about it. If nobody has complained the they all probably like to see them. The babies at our church (which is small and we all know each other) get passed around during the service and everybody loves them.

Chana - posted on 04/16/2013

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Rachel,
You are absolutlely right about people looking for the kids in church. We missed church 2 Sundays ago because one of the girls wasn't feeling well and when we walked in this past Sunday everyone was saying "we missed the girls last Sunday" and asking if they were sick. The one lady even had stickers for the toddler. The 6 month old is starting to like the music and starts kicking her legs when we sing just like her sister did at that age.

Thanks to everyone that has posted. You have been very encouraging and have made me feel better about taking our girls to church even if they get a little fussy or loud.

Rachel - posted on 04/15/2013

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Absolutely. I really do think you should take them to church. I know a lady who had no grandkids and use to stash kid goodies in her purse just to get them to sit with her in church. She needed their special spirit. (and the young moms needed the help! lol). Take them and let them feel the spirit.

Carla - posted on 04/10/2013

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Everyone is correct--church is the perfect place for our little ones. Jesus said 'Allow the little children to come to Me and forbid them not, for the Kingdom of Heaven is made up of those who have the faith of a little child.' (Allaire version)

We have gone to churches where there were no activities for the kids, and some that have. You just adapt. But even though it seems like a lifetime for THEM to sit quietly, they are absorbing God's Word, and we know that His Word doesn't return to Him void, but accomplishes what HE wants. Bring crayons and color books, the baby's favorite toy, little snacks, etc. They'll get it.

God bless, sweetheart, God sees your heart and is pleased.

Terri - posted on 04/09/2013

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No. Taking children to church is a blessing! My pastor is so great to announce at the beginning of every service that children are always welcome. However, we also have separate services with lessons that are directed toward their age group for kids over 3 anyway... there's also a nursery with cribs for infants and toys where toddlers can play. There's always a great, loving few people to watch over the little ones. Don't feel as if they're too disruptive, they're a blessing! :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2013

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Church is important. It gives them so much. Later they will give back to the church in various ways. I had three kids really quick. Currently I am 33. They are 12 1/2, 11 1/2, and 9. I didn't drive until I was 27. I used to call people in the church to get rides to church for the kids & me when my husband was working on the weekends. Lots of young moms keep their kids in church with them instead of in the church's children's programs. Personally, since I was on my own so much and needed the break, I took advantage of the children's programs. If my husband had worked the hours he does now, I might have kept them with me. My in-laws were 12 hours away. Now we are a few blocks from my in-laws. My husband now works 8-4:30 M-F and has evenings and weekends off. In the church we are in now, very few parents use the children's programs unless it is Sunday school. The kids that have been in the services since they were infants are very respectful & quiet because they learned at an early age to respect the service time. We have speakers turned on in the foyer and in the nursery so that if people need to leave with their child for any reason they can still hear.

Marie - posted on 04/07/2013

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I definitely think you should continue to take your girls to church. This is a great time of growth. I'm a single mom and both of my boys have special needs. I had many days when I felt embarrassed that my boys were being disruptive. For a while I traveled to my parents' church so that I could get them to help me when the boys got squirmy. Then there was a time when I didn't have the courage to go at all because I was just overwhelmed. In the past year I have chosen to split the boys up. I have a second grader who is preparing for his First Communion, so I have been going with him and leaving my younger one home with his PCA. The boys have grown and we can finally go to mass as a family. I have to wonder if I had been consistent from day one if we would have gotten to this point sooner.

Shaylene Marie - posted on 04/04/2013

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I have a 16month old and we started going to church and biblestudy a few months ago. He is usually pretty good up until halfway through, then he wants to get down and is loud. It really embarrasses me, so when he gets to out of control I go to the nursery. They always let me use one of the radios that is turned to their station so I can still listen to the sermon. But the Pastor and several others told me I don't need to run, because he is a child of God and he should be there. And almost everyone in the church has a child, so they understand and I NEED to be there to hear Gods word.

Chana - posted on 04/03/2013

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Thank you. That was very supportive and exactly what I needed to hear. We do go to a small church with a lot of older people and they do seem to enjoy watching the girls grow and change on a weekly basis. They also really enjoy when we take them to the potluck dinners because they are both good eaters and not very picky. That is a good fellowship time and we can let more people enjoy the baby since the toddler doesn't stay vey sill once we make it through church. When I think about it the toddler is getting better at itting quietly some days. Thanks again. God Bless

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