Children dont go to church

Jackie - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




My daughter is almost 18 years old. My son is 14 years old. They both grew up in church. I stoppped going aoubt seven years ago but have started again. When I started going again (last year) they decided not to come.

I know I can not force them to come. ---I do not force them to do anything--- but I was wondering how others are dealing with this. We pray alot for them. And we keep inviting them...

It is soooo difficult to be patient!


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Latasha - posted on 06/27/2011




I know I'm a few yrs late, but what if it were an option for our children to bathe, brush their teeth, etc? God told me a long time ago to be careful what I require of my children and NOT require of them. Is going to school and studying from many times an evolution book more important than reading the bible and going to church? Why do we give God less respect in our childrens lives? If there still living under my husband and my roof, their going to church, now their have been times when we've had church at home as a family bcause the vehicle was down or something, but God is respected and loved in our home and my children see the genuine joy i have when we go to church so it rubs off on them. I thank God for a church that beleives in deliverance(casting out devils) and the prophetic(ministry of prophets and prophetic praise & worship). Repent from the Eli spirit

Bek - posted on 01/10/2011




Praying for them, inviting them and loving them is about all you can do. You could possibly force your 14 year old, but that's not a battle I would want to fight. I didn't attend church most of the time my children were growing up so when I returned mine weren't keen on attending either. I do my best to find teaching moments so that they at least know what I believe and leave the door open for them to ask questions. My daughter seems interested from time to time but my son has chosen a different path. Although this saddens me, prayer, patience and understanding is all I can do. Praying for my own patience and understanding in regards to my child has also been helpful.

Jodie - posted on 12/06/2010




like you said you dont force them,sad this is for u to read this,but theyy do grow out of it,you expect high expections,dont,they are there own person,dont conroll them,course they will define you,just chill out and trust them,they have been brought up in the church world,they still have those expections and end up going to a church from their home town.they still remember how they were raised,they will hold on to that ok,let them go,trust go to church to keep the faith,well use it,have faith in your two kids ok.jodie from hamilton new zealand.

Ramona - posted on 11/24/2010




There is a point where forcing them will backfire and make them resent church more than they already feel that they do. I think that many young people take that spiritual journey, I have always attended church, but my hubby stopped for years and years after he graduated 8th grade. He started to attend on his own because he knew that God was patient for him and waiting.

Linda - posted on 08/11/2010




As long as you live in our house, there are certain rules that must be followed. One of them is that you must go to church. I grant you that it would be much harder to make them if we had taken a 7 year hiatus. However, they don't really give us a problem. I struggled with this when my son turned 18 because I have friends who don't make their kids go to church. But I never see their kids. So mine will go to church until they can afford to move out and have their own apt.

JaNette - posted on 03/21/2010




I am kind of in the same situation, my 15yr old does not want to go to Church anymore, and even said she does not really believe in God anymore. I do make her got to Church with us, and she goes up into the youth room. I do not make her participate in any of the youth activities anymore, but she does have to sit and listen. I pray for her and I ask God to get her attention when she is at Church on Sundays. I am real scared for her as well. I think it has to do with her friends that she hangs around with at school, but there is really nothing I can think of to get her to get new friends.

Kristina - posted on 02/22/2010




My daughter refuses to attend church as well. Sometimes she goes but mostly she does not. And when she goes, she acts like I should be grateful. I pray...alot. I try to lead by example but it is hard. Sometimes she can get under my skin and it just brings out the worst in me. I do not force her to go, we do not force our kids to go either. Just pray. I am glad to hear we are not alone.

Cindy - posted on 02/22/2009




Yes , I know the feeling. My 18 year does not go . My 14 and 15 will go but the older one says she is too busy. I keep asking but I need to be more in prayer. I know when children are raised in the Lord they usually do come back. I neeed to keep the faith.Be patient for you though.

Rita - posted on 02/21/2009




Be encouraged, I find I always say the same thing. Living for Christ is the best action we can take when it comes to our kids, if you do God's business he takes care of your business. If they live at home begin to make a devotional time and feed them the word, BE CAREFUL, you are Christ at home and YOUR witness is all they have so it is imperative for us ladies to live out the gospel at home, we are NOT perfect and the kids will need to see the steps we walk in Christ sin, our brokenness over it and our continual seeking of Christ. If we have pride and do not acknowledge our sin our kids will not receive the Word from us....

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