Teens and myspace

Karen - posted on 02/12/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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What do you think about your teen being on myspace or facebook? Is it good or bad? Do you monitor what is being said on there? Are you on their friends list?

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Sheryl - posted on 06/24/2009

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My daughter is 13 and has a MySpace page. Her father monitors it very closely. We are both friends on her page and he approves every friend. So far so good. I would rather her have a facebook because it is safer, content wise.

Susan - posted on 04/16/2009

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Our teens have Facebook accounts. They are not on MySpace because we didn't feel comfortable with the atmosphere, reputation, and security. They all have my husband and I on their friends lists and, as someone else said, we also have many of their friends on our friends lists. They also have our pastor, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins as friends so (even though they are really good kids) it keeps them accountable to a larger group of people that they look up to and respect. We keep lines of communication open and monitor their profiles regularly. They are not allowed to "friend" anyone that they don't already know personally. I think that Facebook can be a great resource for teens (and adults, too) to keep in touch with friends and family as long as it's used appropriately.

Marlene - posted on 03/20/2009

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Both my husband and I are on our teen daughter's facebook, and she was only allowed to have a facebook account on the premise that we know her password so that we can check up on her without notice.

Buffie - posted on 03/17/2009

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My 16 year old step-daughter has Myspace and I am a friend on there. She doesn't really get on Facebook that much. We constantly monitor what is being sent and received and she only gets 30 mnts per day. Period..no acceptions. Even on weekends.

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MY daughter just turned 13 and we set her up a Facebook together. I am on her friends list and most of her friends are MY friends..people we already know ..such as family and friends. I set it up so I know her password and all. I believe at this point my daughter makes fantastic choices in life. but I will not hesitate to remove her privelage to use facebook (she will NOT have a MySpace..but this is just MY opinion)if that ever changes..as far as my 11 year old son having a facebook. He has asked a few times, I have have explained to him that the age is supposed to be 13....well, I guess as I christian mom who is trying to teach my children right from wrong. I don't feel I can be a good example for them to be honest in life ,if I LIE about their age when setting up a facebook. but when he does turn 13, I will have no problem setting him up one too.

Kerri - posted on 02/26/2009

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Hey Karen!  My 11-year-old daughter has a myspace page.  It is set up under my e-mail address so I receive notifications for and can monitor every single action that occurs.  I am also on her friend list, as well as MY mother, MY father, 2 of her aunts, my 2 closest female friends and her 2 older female cousins.  The rules include that only I approve friend requests and she is allowed 20 minutes every other day to play on her page.  Her older cousins help me monitor it also.  As you can tell from my rules - I was VERY hesitant to allow her to have the page to begin with.  However, I am much more comfortable with it now. She really enjoys changing the music around and playing with pictures, etc.  I think it is good if you monitor it very closely!    Good Luck!

Karen - posted on 02/24/2009

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My 15 year old son and my 16 & 18 year old daughter's have both MySpace and Face Book. I am on their friends list and amazingly enough, have quite a few of their friends on my friends list. My 10 year old twins do not have a page yet. I believe that is just too young.



It is important to monitor your kids on line. You never know what weirdo might be posing as a friend and will wind up showing up at your doorstep.



I have talked to my kids about being safe on line as well as off. I have seen them put things out there that I didn't feel was safe and have expressed my opinion on content on more than one occasion. You just can't be too careful where your kids are concerned.

Jenn - posted on 02/15/2009

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My daughter will be 13 years old soon and is anxiously waiting to have a Facebook profile.  I am a youth sponsor and after looking into both MySpace and Facebook I definitely feel more comfortable with Facebook.  We have already started talking about guidelines.  Her dad and I will be on her friends list and we have to approve any friend before they are added.  Her page has to be clean, uplifting and encouraging to others. 



We already monitor computer usage.  My husband and I are the only ones who know the computer passwords and our children ask permission to be able to use the computer.  It has worked out very well.  We also have a a filter on their computer that will not let them into sites that have inappropriate things on them.  Some may say that we are overprotective, but we feel that we need to do our best protecting our children in all areas, because we are their guardians and role models for such a short amount of time.  My 12 year old, soon to be 13 year old seems thankful and accepting of these rules.  We have also talked to her about times she is at friends houses who do not have an internet filter and to be aware of what you can accidentally get into.  

Saundra - posted on 02/13/2009

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My daughter will be 13 very soon.  She and my 10yr old both have a myspace.  I set them up, I know their passwords, and i must approve any friend requests that they get or send.  I am the same way with their e-mail  and I M I know all of their passwords. 



I am also a youth advisor at our church and i monitor all of the groups myspace pages.  They know enuff to keep it no worce than PG-13.



 



If you start with strong guidelines right from the start than you shouldn't have any problems. 



 



You would be surprised how many kids have a myspace or face book and the parents have no clue...

Torri - posted on 02/12/2009

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One of my requirements is that I be on their friend list and yes i monitored and still do on the adult childrens pages. My younger girls are not allowed to have myspace.. but I allowed face book because not just anyone can see their profile. Also for them i have their password and log in. They don't mind me being their friend, but my boys did.

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