Cries All the Time

Christa - posted on 07/01/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




My daughter is 4.5 months now and when she's happy she's a delight, but when she gets tired she screams and screams and screams. She screams whether we hold her, rock her, drive in the car, lay her in her bed, put her in the swing, it doesn't matter. Eventually something puts her to sleep, it's like she can't go to sleep without screaming. Does anyone have/had anything like that? My first was crabby but by 12 weeks she became a little human and when she cried you knew why. I can't figure out what to do with her and I'm at my wits end. Please help.


Kellie - posted on 07/04/2010




Infants/babies can "read" our emotions. When we are unsettled they are too. I remember one day when I was just learning to breastfeed my daugther; she would latch on then two seconds later she would open her mouth and start screaming. She did this over and over to the point where I was so frustrated that I started to cry. I didn't know what to do. Right in the middle of our meltdown my husband walks in and sees this, takes the baby and INSTANTLY she stops crying. Why? Because I was internally upset and my stress was disrupting her.

Also, babies do what works. Your daughter knows that if she continues to scream you are eventually going to come in and get her. So she will scream for that 10-15 minutes because she knows mommy will come "rescue" her.

Babies need to "learn" to sooth themselves to sleep. Some need a pacifier, music, a special blanky, a teddy bear, etc. to help them get to sleep. Your daughter may prefer to just scream it out, exhaust herself and then fall asleep. But I can totally understand why you would want to help her sooth herself in a more "relaxing" way.

So, pray. Pray over yourself. Anoint yourself! Claim peace and tranquility over your body. Affirm that you are able to sooth your child, that you were made by God to comfort your baby and that you can do all things through Christ who strenghtens you. Anoint her crib, her swing, her carseat, anything and everything that she "sleeps" in or you use to help her sleep. Pray over her. Confess peace, happiness, and rest in her life. Command the peace of Jesus to calm your baby. Find Psalms you can use to praise the Lord while she is in a full blown fit and speak them louder than she is crying. Bind the spirit of unrest and discomfort and command her angels to take charge over her and give her rest and relaxation.

Don't stop doing the things you can do in the natural but remember the Spirit of the Lord is our Comforter, Counselor, Helper and Strengthener. I will also stand with you in prayer and ask our giving God to bring peace to the situation.


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Rose - posted on 11/14/2016




I used to give Babies magic tea to my always crying child and it helped a lot. Actually, tummy related issues are most common which bother infants and this home remedy is most effective and preservative-free.

Kristy - posted on 09/16/2010




I had this problem last week. Everyday. My mom said maybe she needed to go to bed earlier. She was sleeping 9-6 and she's 3 1/2 months. So I started putting her to bed at 8. Wake her up at 9.30 and feed her and then she sleeps till 7. She hasn't thrown any fits lasting longer than 5 mins. Thank goodness for helpful moms. I never would have thought she wasn't getting enough sleep in the night.

Olivia - posted on 07/14/2010




Maybe she is getting overly tired. It might help if you have a routine and stick to it for a while, be in tune to when she gets tired and try a routine like lullaby, story or whatever. Maybe if she gets regular naps she will not get so cranky.

Laura - posted on 07/14/2010




My daughter was the same way when she was born.. she was breast fed and colicky. I remember when she was three months old, I could not believe I had to still go on with the constant screaming. She did grow out of it though and when she was about five to six months it was not anywhere as constant. We were able to communicate better... and seemly she would try to let me know. I did notice that passing bowels were always an ordeal for her. I did realize with my other children as they came along that all of my children were allergic to milk. To this day my daughter is very allergic to milk and will double over if she has dairy products. She also has many other allergies to foods that make her seriously ill. I suspect that she must have been having so much trouble do to her sensitivity to foods. She continued to have trouble with foods through out her life. She is now grown and the mother of two with one on the way and still has to be very careful about her intake of foods. The Pediatrician assured me that she was a colicky baby. Today children with allergies are treated with much thorough understanding.

Jessica - posted on 07/04/2010




I don't know if this will work----but it worked for me as an infant according to my mm---put her in her car seat and go for a ride or you might be able to put her on the dryer---the vibration may help soothe her----I know not a habit you want to be in for her to fall asleep during the day but it may help until you can get her on a schedule. Good luck.

Christa - posted on 07/02/2010




Thanks ladies. I've thought of all that. I'm totally ok with letting her cry herself to sleep but sometimes she's so wound up she'll scream like someone cut off her head, I can't let her cry like that for more then 10-15 mins max. I've been trying to get her on a schedule, that's part of my problem she's different everyday. My first I was able to get her on a schedule like clockwork by around 12 wks. I've been tracking her eating and sleeping in a spreadsheet for over a month and while there is a pattern (within about a half hour) it doesn't seem to help. If I put her down too soon, then she's not tired and gets wound up if I wait for her early signs of fussiness, then she gets too wound up. If she would calm down with snuggling I would do that, but she doesn't she just continues to scream and squirm. That is where my frustration comes in, nothing seems to calm her down. Granted her first nap she goes right down without a peep and for bedtime I feed her and then she goes right to sleep and sleeps through the night, so I know she can fall asleep on her own, but I can't figure out why she can't do it the rest of the day. I feel like she just can not wind down once she's been playing and I don't know what else to try. Thanks for any suggestions. :-)

Jill - posted on 07/02/2010




overstimulated..... crying is her letdown.... try not to let her get overstimulated... by getting settled down before her nap or bedtime....

Carla - posted on 07/02/2010




I also agree with the other two girls. Chart when she gets up and when she starts screaming. If it is, say, 4 hours, put her down for nappy 3 1/2 after she wakes up. Keep the chart for a couple days, so you get an idea of what her endurance is. What is her sleep like, generally? Is she a fitful sleeper, moving a lot or rousing easily? She might not be getting restful sleep. Maybe put a radio on in her room for naps for white noise. I put my grandbabies down with contemporary Christian music off the cable.

Unfortunately, each child is different, and you've got one that will test your patience. Also, when you are nervous with her crying, that is only going to make her more anxious, and it goes in a vicious circle. Try to remain calm (I know, easier said than done), and change naps around. My second child was a cryer, the third one never slept--we'd find her downstairs in the dark at 1 year old! Finally, pray for wisdom on how to care for her. God knows what her problem is, ask for guidance. Remember, He was a parent, too ;)

God bless, honey.

Maggie - posted on 07/02/2010




My mother said I was the same way as a baby and toddler. Apparently I just couldn't fall asleep without a good cry. So my mother would plop me in my crib, go sit on the porch and chat with lady next door for 15 minutes (so she wouldn't have to hear me cry).

I agree with the previous post, also. Keep nap and bed time schedule pretty much the same everyday. Don't wait for your child to start acting tired.

Hopefully your doctor will have advice, or your little darling will grow out of it!

Cindy - posted on 07/01/2010




Is it possible that she is getting too tired and that you need to try and put her down before she gets too that point? Just a thought. Also when they get too tired it can cause other issues with some babies such as a stomach ache (Colic). Maybe she is getting over stimulated and that she needs time to settle down and just be held for a little bit before she gets to the point of being too tired. You are one of the few that will know when that is so you will need to figure out her signs of getting to the point of getting too tired. ANd unfortunately, there are some babies who just have to cry themselves (screaming) to sleep.

You could also talk to her Doctor about this. THey might have some ideas for you to try.

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