Dealing with major anger issues.....

Sarah - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




Okay, I know I can't be the only one out there. I have 4 kids, and all under the age of 8....and all girls!!! So, lately I've been noticing that I am just angry all the time....I don't even know why. I find myself snapping at the girls for the tiniest imperfections....and that's not who I am!! I've prayed about this but God hasn't responded....I wonder if He wants me to learn something from this? I just can't stand myself right now. I don't know why this anger has taken just seems that I am always mad because they spill something, or make a mess or they fight or they are whinning about something....and I get so angry at them. Why am I doing this? I have actually tried to get into a good mood before waking them up in the mornings, but it hasn't helped. I am constantly annoyed at them, letting every little thing they do get under my skin.....I have no idea why this is happening to me either....a month ago I was fine, I was doing everything good ....being nice, loving, caring and gentle with my children, so why has it all of a sudden crept up on me? Do any of you ladies have any suggestions? Advice? or can just relate? I feel helpless, like this can't be resolved quick enough. I don't want my kids to hate me or dread being with or around me. HELP!!!


Carla - posted on 03/16/2011




Honey, I went to see where you lived on your profile and saw your age--I have SHOES that age ;) Anyway, I see you are from down south--have you been cooped up because of weather, or with the warmness, do you get outside? We are in Michigan, and ALL of us are getting cranky and crabby, and want to be outdoors. Maybe that's part of the problem.

Also, I want to remind you that you have been doing a lot of growing in the Lord lately, and doing a lot of seeking. This will CERTAINLY get Satan's attention, and he will start throwing all kinds of stuff at you to get you side-tracked from growing spiritually. I would imagine a lot of your current problems are coming from The Pit.

We are spirit, living in a body of flesh. Sometimes Flesh gets ticked off. Nerves are raw, and every little thing is annoying to the max. What are your discipline tactics? We use the naughty chair for when they are fighting, throwing tantrums or just whining. 1 min per year of age. I tell them something once, if they continue, I say 'warning', and if they continue, in the naughty chair they go. As I am walking them there I say to them, 'why are you going in the naughty chair?' and I make them tell me why. If they don't tell me, I tell them. I set the timer and walk away. If they continue crying or throwing a fit, I tell them I will not start the timer until they are quiet. After the timer goes off, I go to them, ask them again what they had done, have them apologize sincerely, then we hug and kiss and they go on. I don't let them go until my nerves are ready to snap. Man, I wish we had had Supernanny when MY kids were little ;) But this works very well. It takes all the frustration away, because you are dealing with the problem immediately. No yelling 3, 4, 5 times before action is taken. As for the mess, kids make messes. If it is their toys, what we did with our kids and now grandkids is, you play with one thing, and when you are finished, put it away and get out another. They have boxes and totes for their dinosaurs, dolls, cars, etc., and when they finish playing, they go back in their respective totes. Nothing hurts worse than stepping on a dinosaur in bare feet ;)

Finally, my dear, pray. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal (He is the Revealer of Truths) what is happening. Maybe it is a combination of everything. Start implementing discipline changes, orderliness of toys, and prayer for these attacks of Satan. He strikes Christian homes so it gets the husband and wife fighting, the kids wanting to get away from the fighting (if my Mom and Dad are Christians, why are they fighting-type of thing), then you don't want to go to church cuz you're mad, then things REALLY start going downhill.

Now, take a little of your own advice from Pat, and don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone goes through this, and we just have to step back a little and figure out how to combat this. With prayer and patience, we win!

God bless, sweetie


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Rose - posted on 04/05/2011




you could try keeping soothing music on all day for a few days and see if that helps you, the black gospel music helps me the most

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Have you been focusing on your needs at all lately? Maybe you need a day for you and the Lord. Satan is certainly going to try to pull you his direction. Focus on you for a little while, relax, pray and study. Maybe spend some silly time with one girl at a time. They may need some relaxation as well. And remember you are loved!

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2011




Thank you my dear friend! I am slowly working on this...and Satan will NOT win this battle! I have GOD on my side! :) Updates coming soon.....

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