How do I help my child respect parental authority?


Jane - posted on 07/06/2009




When you tell your child "no", you have to mean it. When we disobey God, there are consequences, and He always follows through. If you teach her the Biblical principles of obedience to parents, and ultimately obedience to God, you have something to start with. WHen she obeys promptly, say, "Good job, Jesus loves for us to obey." When she does not, say "The Bible says we must obey." or something like that. If the child is defiant, you must stop the defiance, even if it means to swat their little hand or bottom (not to hurt them, when they are little, it's more of a shock thing where you firmly say "no" and swat (the diaper keeps them from feeling it even) but your firm sharpness makes the child understand that you mean it and that what they are doing is not appropriate. Always tone discipline with love, never strike out in anger. Kindness and lovingkindness is how God deals with us. "Time out" works if you are consistent and really mjake them stay on the chair and not get right up and ignore you. I raised four girls in a Christian home and now have 7 grandchildren. God promises if we "raise them up in the way they should go, they will not depart from it." Pray with your child daily for help from the Lord to have pleasing behavior.


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Lisa - posted on 07/09/2009




Lead by example and make sure that disrespect is pointed out, talked about it and make sure that there are consequences. Keep them consistant. Keeping your child in the word of God and doing it as a family will make a difference.

Rae - posted on 07/06/2009




It is hard to be specific without the age group but it has been proven time and again children learn what they see. Is everyone they come in contact with being respectful to each other. The bible teaches we (adults are to submit to all authority), do you speed? Children are very sensitive to the do as I say not as I do philosophy. Try to be the best example you can and encourage those who come in contact with your children to do the same. AS they get older you can explain the difference between respecting the position of authority, but not necessarily liking the person.

Anne - posted on 07/05/2009




Hi Mary, I am not sure if you are asking about an age specific approach, but in my opinion and you know what they say about opinions - every one has one- A loving consistent approach, that links they why of respect parental authority to our need to respect God's authority, and the authority of other adults in healthy authority. For a toddler or preschooler, I would remind them that I love them and that God made us a family with you as the parent and your child the child. As your child grows and matures I would remind him/her that on of God's Ten Commandments is for child to obey their parents. I would tie in obeying with respect. As they age I would remind them that they also need to respect teachers and others in healthy authority, Policemen, Teachers, Pastors. BUTI would stress the Healthy Authority. I hope this has helped.

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