Masturbation - Biblically wrong or Socially?

Sarah - posted on 03/22/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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Hi, this is a question that comes up every now and then in discussions with christians and non christians alike and i always find myself without an answer. Does anyone know or have any ideas? Is it Biblically wrong, or just socially or other?

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Evelyn - posted on 03/24/2010

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In a math situation, x + y=z (I may be wrong)! However, I will like to answer your question with a few questions of mine, perhaps we'll all find the answers together.

* what is our relationship with God? * how do we feel after masturbation ?
*with our limited knowledge, do we think God throws a party in heaven when we masturbate? *if our temples truly are the temple of God, what value does masturbation add to it?
The bible may not state in clear terms that masturbations is wrong, but it also does not say we should kiss our kids, wear them clean pyjamas and put them to sleep, but we do that, don't we? Why? Because we know that's the right thing to do...

I personally have and I am still developing a deeper and holy relationship with God, I don't think that masturbation works into the equation.

Brittney - posted on 03/23/2010

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I believe porn is a sin, but with masturabation even with toys as long as the thoughts are on the spouse are fine. My husband is military and is gone for long periods of time, sometimes you have to resort to maturabation or sex toys to keep your thoughts from finding someone else. There has been many times in my marriage that it has been tempting to go and find someone else to take my husbands place, when he is gone for months at a time. I believe that masturabtion can be used as a lonely wives or husbands resource to keep from commiting adultry.

Paula - posted on 03/23/2010

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There is No mention of this in the KJV Of the Bible.I believe that porn is a Sin when we take our eyes off Our mate and use a form of Voyerism * to turn us on;this is sinful.So....To anwser your question,I really do Not think masturbation is Morally wrong.I Believe that Catholics may think different tho.

Alicia - posted on 03/23/2010

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I think masturbation can be both good and can be bad, if used in a marriage and if it helps the marriage then do it, there was a time that I was unable to have intercourse with my husband and masturbation was helpful. We made the agreement when we got married that we would only do it together because we didn't want anything to come between us.

If your single and struggling with those desires and this helps you not act on them, then do it.

I agree this is an area you need to decide between God and you, no one can tell you whats the right decision.

In my marriage we use sex toys. It has been something again that we only do together. We enjoy it and see nothing sinful in it, because we are enjoying each other.

Christa - posted on 03/23/2010

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On the sex toys thing, again the same pastor said between husband and wife do whatever (excluding sodomy of course). Sex is a gift of marriage and we should enjoy it in marriage.

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Going along with the masturbation conversation, what does everyone think biblically of sex toys? If you are using them on each other. Is it biblically wrong?

Lynette - posted on 03/23/2010

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The Love shared between a husband and wife is not defined by Lust. Lust is physical and short term feelings. It is a desire to want to use somebody's body and damp them. The love between spouses comes from a deeper attraction that grows from eros love and has all components from philial and agape love. it is pure love which is designed to grow daily. Sex between spouses is an ultimate show of thier love for each other.

The bad thoughts you talk about are as a result of watching pornography or reading such.

Lynette - posted on 03/23/2010

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This is one of those issues that the bible is silent about. But definately God created male and female sexually attracted to each other to gratify each other's sexual needs within the context of marriage. This why he also created the sexual organs.



Reference can be made to the book of song of songs or Song of Solomon how a young man shares his passion for her maiden. Which means Male and female (in this married couples) must find sexual pleasure in each other.

Angela - posted on 03/22/2010

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It is to me biblically wrong, if you can get hold of the DVD Laughing yourself to a better marriage, by Mark Gungor, he touches on this subject. It has become socially acceptable yes, but to me wrong.

Sarah - posted on 03/22/2010

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I've heard it said that its the thoughts one uses while masturbating that is the sin. You know, lustful thoughts about other ppl. But what if its a lustful thought about your husband?! Hmmm

Christa - posted on 03/22/2010

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In our premarital classes this question came up and our pastor said that there's nothing biblically wrong with it and if it takes away the temptation of pre-marital sex or promiscuity then it should be used, but like Mandy, he said that it really shouldn't be used in marriage because sex is something that should be between the two of you. Obviously the use of porn, is biblically wrong. That's my knowledge on the subject. :-)

Mandy - posted on 03/22/2010

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I think it is wrong if it interferes with a marriage relationship. God designed sex to be between a man and a woman and doesn't mention it to be used in any other form in the Bible.

Daphne - posted on 03/22/2010

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I heard a Preacher once say that masturbation is sinful but personally just like you I would like to know if its actually Biblically or socially wrong. God bless u.

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