We have had a horrid time these past two weeks, anything that could happen has happened and all I want to do is sit down and cry in my bed. Can anyone give suggestions on how to get up and go when you dont want to??

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Tammy - posted on 04/06/2009

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I find lots and lots of prayer is all that helps. And sharing with my friends, I find their encouragement sometimes that little extra something that makes me able to go on. It will change just keep trying! God Loves You

Kristin - posted on 04/06/2009

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Read Luke 12:22-34. This is the passage that talks about Worry. I'm not sure what it is that you are struggling with but worry is often a trigger that leads us to that depressed state - a state I was familiar with but truly have been delivered.

Get into the word and find scripture that is motivating for you. If you like to read - get a good Christian book to read every night. The Purpose Driven Life is a good one. These suggestions come from what worked for me. Greater is He that is in Us than he who is in the world. (1John 4:4)

Vicki - posted on 04/06/2009

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Thanks so much to all of you - I am just now getting back on here and there are so many kind words and nice things to try to help me. I am still struggling with the whole getting up thing. I do get up though and paste a smile on my face and I go...I vent alot with my friends and sometimes I try to talk to my husand and other times I dont as it sometimes makes it worse. I am getting ready to go in the hospital for a week long stay to study my seizures and I am terribly afraid. I dont like having them much less having the hospital trigger one. On top of it my marriage has issues that just are not going away. Someday I am in hopes that I will feel better - inside and out - but I wanted the opportunity to thank all of you for everything. I have actually printed all the things you gave me to do and I am going to read them and take notes (that is just my OCD talking) and I will definitely take your advice. Thanks again - Bless and prayers to all of you.

Carolee - posted on 04/04/2009

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every decision made with wisdom that you make today will supernaturally lay the foundation for your future ! if that doesn't get you excited then there's more where that came from :} come check out our new  SHINE community:}  i will pray!  and i have sent you a face and an air hug .

Rebekah - posted on 02/25/2009

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some days can be harder than the others. I remember my mother telling me when I came home with my fourth child in five years, she told me "When you feel like crying, cry. It beats keeping it all in and hurting your children." I also like to find scripture that helps me in what ever the issue my be. Deut. 31:8 says "The Lord HImself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." (NIV) May you find scripture that supports and assists you throughthese horrid times.

Robyn - posted on 02/24/2009

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Vicki- I will pray, you pray, ask your friends to pray....God will answer your prayers! Get inspiration from the Bible. Ask God to give you peace...I did the same and he soon gave me that peace I needed. I hope and pray your joy will come back and you will get up and face the day!

JoAnna - posted on 02/17/2009

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Dear Vicki **HUGS*** Take heart dear sister in Christ for the Lord is with you.



 I know how hard it is to get by day to day I have a Chronic Ilness and have a newborn and a 3 1/2 year old, sometimes I feel how can I go on? But I reminded to Be anxious for nothing, and to pray and wait upon The Lord for He is Our Light and our strenghth.



Something I wrote last week:



To Realize a dream take Prayer, patcience and the endurance to see it through"



By JoAnna L.M.



Take Hear Prayers are with you and The Lord never turns a deaf ear to His Children!!!



~JoAnna~

Mary - posted on 02/17/2009

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I am new to this, but after reading your post, I had to respond. I have been where you are. I spent two years just functioning. I got up, took the kids to school, came home and got back in bed. I spent most of those two years in bed. Before and during this time, I was well aware that even in the most awful times, we as christians can still smile because Jesus died on the cross, and one day we will go home to him. Knowing this soothed my soul, but I was still stuck in my pit and paralyzed by clinical depression and pain. And at some point after months of pleading with the Lord to help me, heal me, or just give me some answers, his response to me was just be willing to move and I will give you the strength. I will move you and move through you. Allow the Holy Spirit to fill you. If you are willing, I will do the work. So, because I was so tired of being couped up in the house, I just started moving and got out of bed and I went over to the church. I was willing to do anything they wanted me to do, anything that would take the focus off of my own problems. I felt that I would rather be there doing something, than at home doing nothing. Slowly as I continued to volunteer myself and touch other peoples lives and do God's work, he started to heal me and my problems. I am out of my pit and helping other women to do the same. At times of tribulation, the bible says to welcome it because it grows our character. When you are in the pit, it is so hard to do this. BUT, and this is so important, you must trust in the love that God has for you and know that anything that you must endure is for your growth and for your own good. To see this in the midst of adversity it difficult, that is why we must walk by faith and not by sight. For example if God asks you to walk across hot coals 10 times. More than likely our initial response is why?. but what if God told you that after you walk across coal 10 times, you will have and abundance of blessings? my response would be Where are the coals? Be encouraged because God loves you so much!! You are his precious princess, his beloved daughter!!! You are his favorite. He has purposed everybody in your world especially for you! He knows what you're going through and in 2 Peter 1:3-4, it says that God has given you everything you need to endure anything. God stretches us and molds us and it doesn't always feel good. Discipline doesn't feel good either, but when we do it to our kids, we know as parents that its necessary for the growth of the child to become a responsible adult. Look at what you're going through, ask God what is he telling you, what does he want you to learn. Learn it, because if you don't, you'll just go around that mountain again. Take from someone whose been around it many times, it is painful, so be a quick learner. Ask the Lord to open your ears and your heart to what he is trying to show you. I hope this helps and I will defintely keep you in my prayers. Many Blessings!!

Lisa - posted on 02/04/2009

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Darn that devil for attacking us and making us feel less then what God intended! He wants you to give up, let go and stop trusting! Jesus said in John 16:33..."These things I have spoken unto you that in Me you might find PEACE in the world you will have tribulation but be of good cheer for I have overcome the world. I too know what it is to struggle with LIFE but I have to constantly remind myself that I am a child of The King...that means I'm a princess! Royalty so treat yourself as such. Remember God doesn't make junk and you can do all things through Christ who stengthens me! Hang in there sister I am praying for you!

Jennifer - posted on 02/03/2009

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I have been fighting these feelings since I was 16.  I also have 2 special needs children. Whenever I want to go to bed, I sing a song, say God is good over and over and pray but most important, I stay busy. I will vaccum, mop, wash dishes, anything. Also, I have joined small women's groups at my church to help me get away from the house and some time away from the kids. Just keep fighting that fight and remember, don't give in to the urge to cry in your bed, definetly if you feel the need to cry then let it out but don't do it in bed and see your doctor immediatly.  God is right next to you, reach out to him and let him help you through this. He will help you and you will get through this. God Bless You. My prayers are with you.

Janet - posted on 02/02/2009

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I have been there many times in my life.  One thing that helps me is my faith in God.  I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Savior years ago and I can always know that the Lord is with me.  Something that helps me ...even when I don't want to get up is to listen to music - hymns and uplifting music and laughter. 

Shannon - posted on 02/02/2009

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Vicki,



I agree with Penny, read the book of James it is a wonderful study if you are going through tough times, I've said many a times if it weren't for having to get up to take care of my children I would have stayed in bed for days, so I guess God knows what he's doing since he gave me these wonderful little people to look after. But it is also important to let things out and not bottle up so feel free to take some time to cry or vent talk to God and things will work out in his time, I will be praying for you.

Charlene - posted on 01/30/2009

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I agree with Vickie...we pray we stand fast, we believe in healing, but sometimes there are things that happen chemically and depression can set in. I suffered terribly for years not even realizing it was happening to me. I didnt want to get dressed and didnt half the time. I saw no hope of anything changing after so long. I believe God gives men wisdom to help each other as well. Sometimes temporary medication does help. I did overcome but it was a long time coming and I feel like I lost a few years to nothing. Maybe my pride wouldnt let me seek medical help, but I dont believe God wants us to suffer either. Pray and follow your heart.

Ulanda - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hi vicki,

You have to press your way through it. Through your pressing there will be a blessing. no matter what is going on around you, it's your praise and worship that's going to bring you through it. Just thank God no matter what is happening. Take your eyes off of the situations and keep your eyes on God. Stand still and know that God will provide.

Kristine - posted on 01/27/2009

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Gosh if you only know what our life has been for the last 9 years.

First, you have to have family and friends around you that you can depend on. That means someone you can talk to about anything who will support you through the worst.

Second, pray and read the Bible as much as you can.

(((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Jill - posted on 01/24/2009

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Don't be ashamed to ask for help from friends/family or to seek professional help.  Just remember that God does not give you more than you can handle.  It may seem like a bit much now, but it will make you a stronger person, more than you are now.  There is a hidden reason for everything, stay strong and pray. 

Heather - posted on 01/24/2009

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With my four kids I get overwhelmed a lot! I have posted incouraging scriptures around my house that give me encouragement when I need it. They are posted EVERYWHERE. In the fridge, the car, bathroom, by my computer, the window, by my bed, ect... It really has helped. On Monday I had one of the worst days ever with my kids, I hung the scriptures up on Tuesday, and when ever I start to get stressed they are there for me wherever I go! It is such an encouragement. I just wrote them on note cards and posted them wherever I could. I even have them in my kid's rooms. And above the changing table. It is so nice to be surrounded by the word of God when I am home with four young kids all by myself!



Some examples of the scriptures I posted are:



Lamentations 3:57- You came near when I called, and you said "Do not fear."



Hebrews 13:6- So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mad do to me?"



Philippians 4:13- I can do everything through him who gives me strength.



1Thessalonians 5:18- Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.



1 Peter 5:7- Cast your anxiety on him because he cares for you.



Some others include Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 24:1, Psalm 23:1, Psalm 62:1, Psalm 56:3, Psalm 57:1, 1 Peter 3:9, John 16:33, Deuteronomy 4:29, Galatians 2:20, and Matthew 8:26 just to name some of them.



I hope that helps!



Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are acheiving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we will fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.



                                                                                                                    2 Corinthians 4:16-18

Jessica - posted on 01/07/2009

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I don't know you but I identified with your post...over the past few months it's felt like life couldn't get worse.  My 3 year old was diagnosed w/diabetes and just a month later i found out i was pregnant only then to miscarry.  I couldn't understand why I was being asked to bear so much.  My Christian sisters really helped me to understand that bad things happen to good people...that sometimes God doesn't lift our burdens but when he doesn't--He lifts us to bear them.  And through him we find strength we didn't know we had.  My heart goes out to you in whatever struggles you're bearing...dig in and pray and draw on the support of other believers...best to you.

User - posted on 01/07/2009

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Vicki,



Sorry to hear that you have had a horrible time the last few weeks.  Sounds like there may be a series of events that could have triggered you to move into depression.  I had the same thing happen to me this year.  I usually deal with depression in the winter, from lack of sunshine, etc.  However, this year was worse - I adopted 2 children 2 years ago, my grandmother recently died, my sister's  marriage was in trouble and my parents were having trouble in their church.  My sister talked me into going to the doctor to get some medication.  In the past I have always been able to pray my way through it and find positive things.  However, sometimes you  need to rely on who God puts in our lives to help...like doctors.  I have been on depression medication for 2 months now and I have seen a tremendous difference.  Just know that there are many moms out there like you and depression is real.  Doing something about it doesn't make you any less strong. It just helps put you on the right path so you can begin to figure out God's plan in your life.

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It's so weird, I was able to leave work early today and on the Christian radio station that usually plays music was a pastor talking about the book of James, chapter 1. You should read it if you get a chance. Be encouraged and know that we are all praying for you.

Janet - posted on 01/05/2009

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Vicki, I'm sorry you are going through this. I suffer from depression, which has worsened over the past 3 years because I have had to quit work due to losing my knee and becoming stiff-legged from a failed knee replacement surgery. There are times when staying in bed (down time) is what you need; however, the sun rises each day and we must get up and face each day as it comes. I keep telling myself that the Lord won't put more on me than I can bear. I am a pastor's wife and that's hard for me to say sometimes. I Peter 5:7 says to Cast your cares upon Him, for he careth for you. I know when I am down that scripture and "well-wishes" are often the last thing I want to hear because of the frame of mind I am in. Crying is good for the soul as is what you are doing now via this group. I'm new to this group so please let me know if I can do anything to help you. I will be praying for you.

Jinnia - posted on 01/05/2009

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Vicki, I am so sorry to hear that. In these times, give yourself permission to cry in your bed - cry out to God - cry to your friends. Vent a little bit - King David did. But don't stay there. I recently started a Sprouts & Thanks journal. I started writing down little things (sprouts) that I did each day - ANYTHING, and things I'm thankful for. Some days when I was down, it was an accomplishment to GET UP FROM BED. What this does is it helps me see my progress. It's a little step, but every little step has been helping me to have more joy in the midst of being discouraged. Hope this helps.

Jinnia

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