
BONNI - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )
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CHILDREN LIVING WITH YOU THAT ARE GROWN AND ARE NOT FOLLOWING HOUSE RULES AND GET AN ATTITUDE WHEN ASKED TO DO THINGS THAT SHOULD AUTOMATTICALY SHOULD BE DONE
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Kristina - posted on 09/10/2013
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I have a son who is 19 now working part time, doesn't want to go to school, which I got over. He is normally a pretty good kid, but since he turned 18, he has more attitude. He may come home from work and I asked how was your day? He ignores me. I ask again, how many hours did you get today since he just started his job 2 months ago. He responded 8-10 very sarcastically. I Austin really hiw many hours, he just kept saying you don't need to know, and if course this went on for a couple minutes. He was very rude came in the house, went upstairs, changed his clothes, and left. He didn't even acknowledge me. It hurts so bad. I also have asked him to do a couple chores which still aren't done. What do I do? What do I say to him about being so disrespectful? Threatening don't work. What consequences should he have? He is so disrespectful and rude.
Mandy - posted on 04/16/2015
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I need some advice! How do I get my 16 year old son to act 16? He won't study to pass his permit so no license, don't ever care about working, makes every excuse for everything because nothing is his fault, does hand in homework or take responsibility for school or his actions, and he still plays with toy guns, no intest in friends or girls. What do I do he's like a 8 year old.
Carla - posted on 09/11/2013
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Kristina--he obviously doesn't appreciate that he has a roof over his head, food in his stomach, and a mother who cares for him, so--tell him he needs to find another place to live, since he obviously finds this home so beneath him. He will very quickly find out answering a simple question and taking care of a few simple chores is very cheap rent.
We are responsible to God for them until they reach adulthood--after that, He expects men to go out and make their own way. Sometimes the most loving thing a parent can do is kick them out of the nest. Otherwise he'll still be living with you at 40, with a cat and a birdcage ;)
God bless, hon
Tracie - posted on 10/30/2012
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Your house, your rules. If they want to live by their own rules, they need to get their own house. Put a date on the calendar and let them know they need to be out by that date. The alternative is to step up and contribute to your household. Once we become adults, there are no more free rides. Good luck!
Lisa - posted on 03/20/2010
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well, I remember that when I became an adult and I still lived at home, I was working two jobs, paying half the rent ($250), bought and paid for all my own things including a car, and insurance and food. My mother gave me rules to obey which did not seem appropriate for an adult, more like for a teenager. I kept my area clean, and I was rarely home, but when I was home she'd get on my case about staying out late, etc. I moved out and things got all better.
The reason? because as an adult your children want to be treated as adults, but because you are their parent you will treat them like your child, making rules that you wouldn't make for an actual renter.
So, if your child isn't obeying your rules, you have two choices, you can sit down with your child and go over the rules and see which ones don't seem fair and work on having healthy boundaries and make your child pay rent for staying there, or you can kick them out. Personally, I think you should kick them out. your relationship will get a lot better if you no longer have to worry about when they are coming home, who they are dating, and whether or not they cleaned their room or did the dishes.