Wishing for more....

Carissa - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am the mother of 3 wonderful girls. 2 of those girls were born with CP. I am a Christian and teach my kids these values. We have been blessed to be able to put our middle child in a christian school. She is also picked up by her church every Sunday and Wednsday for church. I however am not able to go. Our kids that have disabilities are very noisey breathers. We always end up being stared at. I don't want to desturb the congrigation. I miss church.


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Tina - posted on 02/02/2010




I understand your hesitancy about taking you special children to church. I have a 10 year old with multiple handi-capps. She acts differently than most people/children a lot of the time due to her disabilities. It is hard to have people stare, not understanding and to feel like you are causing a disruption. I have found that if I don't over-react and just explain to people what is going on they are fine with it, and as you probably have also experienced many are drawn to special little ones, they just have a way of winning your heart.... give these people a chance. If they don't respond acceptingly and supportively find another church family.
If you need assistance with that, let me know! I am an ordained minister and would love to help you find a place you can worship.
Rev. Tina

Cheryl - posted on 02/01/2010




Lets pray for a church who has a heart for children like yours...and a burden to help familys like yours. There is a place for you...and God knows where....I have had a hard child also that needed extra understanding and needs. I just had a talk with the teacher in charge and gave them helpful ways in which to help my child..then pray for the teacher and yourself..that God will enable you and the teachers....

April - posted on 01/30/2010




Go to church and take all of your children. I pray that your congregation will embrace all of your children and you. I'm sure your children are not any more disruptive than any other child. I'll be praying for your family.

Amy - posted on 01/19/2010




I would just keep going and if people ask questions just explain it to them. I know a couple who comes to our church and they had twin boys. They were born premuture and have disablities. They are both autistic and visually impaired. The one boy has a mild case of autisum and the other boy is serverly autistic and mentally retarded. He sometimes will scream and carry on in the church. We are all so used to it. It does not bother us and everyone is very helpful and we all know the kids since they were botn. When people stare and ask questions they simply explain the situation and the mother feels bad but everyone tells her that is ok and not to give it a second thought. I am visually impaired and legally blind and when I use a cane and other things to help me people stare and make comments too. I just keep doing what I need to do. I would think that the people at you church should understand and would be there for you. If not and there are problems I would look for another church. This is just what I would do. I have an 8 year old boy and it is hard for me to get him to sit in church and not run around and I have people in the church who help me and are there for me and alot of them have children of their own who goes through the same thing. I will keep you in my prayers. Email me if you need to talk.

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