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Karrie - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have a 3 year old son that was born on the 23rd of Dec. and we try so hard to keep his birthday away from Christmas but it is so hard. Are outher kid dont really get why he get gifts 2 time in one month. I would like to know what other people do????




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Sofia - posted on 02/02/2012




I have two children, my daughter who is now 16th and my stepdaughter who is now 6, both on December 11. We have to split two very different age groups into 2 very different parties. All 2 weeks before xmas.

I thank my easy-going partner for my sanity while going through this time.

EXPECTATIONS...it is the key to everything. We are teaching our children that a simple birthday is ok. That, just like xmas, material gifts is not what matters but spending quality time with your family does.

Our budget doesnt allow for too much, but our hearts allows for plenty. Start with that.

As far as your other child goes (I dont know how old he is) but explain that your December child is getting two presents, just like he gets two, just at different times of the year. And leave it at that. Dont overly explain. You are the parent and you do not have to overly explain your actions.

Good Luck!

Letitia - posted on 05/18/2011




So here's an entire history book on this issue: my mom was born 2 days after Christmas. Her parents were not great about celebrating, as parents tended to be back then in the 50s. So these days, I make sure she gets non-Christmas-colored flowers, a gift wrapped in non-Christmas paper, and my kids and I will sometimes take her a cake or out to lunch even though we're sick of eating by December 27th :-).

Some of you do half-birthdays which I think is super! (My mom doesn't care to do this, but kids seem to think it's great). Best of luck, and I'm sure you'll come up with a great tradition for your son.

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As a newbie mum (our son was born on Christmas 2008 and is our first child) I'm interested to see the posts on what other parents are doing in later years (as I'm beginning to wonder about that already). Good luck to all!

Kelly - posted on 08/09/2009




My first child was born on Christmas 2003 in the afternoon. We make a big deal about having Christmas stuff in the morning and birthday stuff in the afternoon. I have asked family and friends not to just get him 1 really big gift. I could see that the younger one would feel bad if Grandma got Big Brother a big thing once and Little Brother got two little things. Or I can also see that Grandma would get Big Brother a big joint gift and Little Brother a big Christmas gift to make it 'even' then Little Brother gets another gift on his birthday. So that wouldn't be fair either way.
So far, everyone has been good about the gifts. We don't usually have parties for the kids because Christmas is crazy busy and June (for the little brother) is just as bad almost with vacations etc. We also make sure that birthday gifts are not wrapped in paper that in any way could be mistaken for Christmas paper. The only thing that we sort of combine is the cake. We have Christmas dinner then dessert is usually birthday cake.

Jacqueline - posted on 07/12/2009




Well I am a bit of a veteran when it comes to this issue. My birthday girl is 8 yrs old. We have always had her birthday party the weekend before Christmas... and since we have done it that way since she was little family and close friends know that they need to keep that weekend open for her. It still feels like she gets the short end of the stick because we are spending so much money during the holidays it seems her birthday gifts lack in comparison to the other kids.
I have heard of people doing half birthdays in June... but I have never tried it. Not for our family i guess.
Good luck!

Torey - posted on 06/23/2009




Hello Karrie,

I am new with having to deal with this problem because my set of twin girls were born on Christmas on 2007. I told my husband that I will try very hard each year to make sure that their birthday is seperate from Christmas, but I know it will be work. So far my oldest has not said anything about them being able to get gifts twice in one month, but I am sure it will come when he realize it. As of right now I have no advise, but maybe we can give each other ideas in the future.


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