Christmas wishes

Lesley - posted on 11/16/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi all you grandmas. We are now in the runup to Thanksgiving and Christmas so what do you buy for your little loves??? Everything they want or give them money or even gift vouchers, I know it is traditional for us to spoil them but i think they have also got to learn that friendship, being nice to others comes first there is too much pain in this world. We are missing a whole generation who are either killing themselves or each other and it has got to stop. I grew up in the time when it was peace to all and now there is nothing. Please let me know what you think and any ideas on what we can do. Lesley


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This has been discussed in our house for weeks now.

My daughter and her ex-husband have differing ideas about what the children need (not want that is different.) Last year after she moved from the UK to live with us in France he sent so many parcels for the two children it was ridiculous and almost a year on most of the stuff hasn't been played with.

In view of the financial climate we (daughter and us) suggest he and his family pay money into the account she has set up so she can buy necessary things for the children. She has just paid for soccer gear for our grandson and the subscription. She has also bought swimming things for our granddaughter and paid for a course of 10 lessons which will need renewing. He hasn't offered to pay anything toward any of that.

As the children are growing all the time shoes, clothes etc are always in demand and our grandson needs a new bike. Even the children say they don't NEED toys!

They like games for the Nintendo, DVDs etc but this year we say one present, something from the tree and that is it.

We go to friends for bible study and have done the Alpha course with them. The grandchildren have been with us and our granddaughter of 7 asks very intelligent questions about the scriptures. We bought a children's bible and read that to them. They are well informed about the true meaning of Christmas and that giving is better than receiving. Unfortunately France is a laïc country and they don't learn about Christmas in it's true form at school, that is up to the parents; so no Nativity play there.

Bringing them up to respect, appreciate and care for people and things is a very responsible job and one we and our daughter take very seriously.

Pat - posted on 11/23/2008




My granddaughter is 9 months old so I don't feel the pressure of overdoing things. We will all be together for Christmas Day and perhaps Boxing Day. We will no doubt look at books and and an outfit. The toys aren't needed at this time and we leave that to Mom and Day.

Brenda - posted on 11/22/2008




Hi Lesley, This Christmas is going to be tight for us. I think it is going to be that way for lots of people. It is a good time to get back to the basics and try to teach our grandchildren about the real meaning of Christmas. A couple of presents that they might ask for and then have them give a present to a charity. Just being with family and loved ones is so important and it seems like nowadays the kids get presents all year long. You are so right about just all of us caring for one another in this world.

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