Shortest age gap?? Do i win??

Roxie - posted on 01/11/2009 ( 212 moms have responded )

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theres 38weeks between my kids, i had dd1 at 32weeks in april 06 and then had dd2 at 26weeks in jan 07

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User - posted on 05/13/2009

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Mine are 16 months apart and people think that I am crazy. I like having my kids so close in age. They get along well and keep each other company.

Emily - posted on 05/05/2009

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I agree that sibling envy is much less when children are so close together. We have three girls and are currently expecting twins. Our older girls will be 4 and 3 at the end of this month, and my baby is 16 months. None of my kids have any idea what being an only child is like and they all LOVE babies. They were all at the ultrasound when we found out we were having twins, and they're SO excited. My oldest has started telling everyone that she has her two sisters, AND she has two brothers in her mommy's tummy. The older ones ask me almost every day if the babies are big enough to come out and play with them yet. :)

Kathleen - posted on 05/05/2009

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my babies are 13 months apart..my DS Feb 25 2000 and DD Apr 1 2001, I got many odd and disparaging looks in supermarkets and out in public when they I was pushing a pram and heavily pregnant...and even in the maternity ward I had other mums give me odd looks when I was teaching my boy to walk while holding a 1day old in my arms....now..they are the best friends...they turned 9 and 8 recently and i would take their age difference any day over 2,3,4 year age gap...I have many friends who have had to deal with sibling envy which was never an issue for me....hardest thing i remember dealing with was convincing my son that his sisters bottle was not his.....if I ever have more....I will definately have them close together like this

Sam - posted on 04/17/2009

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My eldest is 12 (girl) in august, 2nd 11 (boy) in sept, 3rd 9 (boy) in march and 4th (boy) due july this year. So let me think thats 13 months 1 week, then 2 1/2 yrs and now 8 yrs and 4 months. I say I'll stop at 4 but knowing my luck, another will turn up next year,lol. Will definately need a bigger house.

Shawna - posted on 04/16/2009

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My two youngest are 11months apart my baby will be one on Friday and Autumn will turn 2 on May 10th so I will have 2 1y/o for a month , nobody can believe how close they are, everyone always asks twins??

Delia - posted on 04/13/2009

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There is only 14 months between my two children. I thought that was too close but I couldnt imagine having them any closer. Its rough with them being so close, well not so much now, but when my son was born and my daughter was only 14 months old thats when it was rough.

Megan - posted on 04/13/2009

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my kids are 21/10/96, 28/09/98, 11/09/00, 16/09/01, 04/12/04, 28/11/05, 08/06/07 n mine is the 03/01/80

Erin - posted on 04/06/2009

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my kids are 20 months apart, I just have the two...I love how they play so well together and they fight too of course but are good most of the time lol. My sister and I are 11 months apart so I didn't think my kids were that close together.

LuAnn - posted on 04/06/2009

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Wow, I didn't win by a long shot!! My two girls are 1 year 13 days apart. Girls will be 7 in May and 6 in July. Almost every time I was out shopping people would ask "Are they twins?" or just make the comment "You have your hands full!" Boy don't I know it.

Stacie - posted on 03/31/2009

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Phew... I'm happy now that ds will be 6 on April 15 and dd will be 5 on April 12 - pretty hairy for a while, but now they are inseparable and so compassionate.

User - posted on 03/29/2009

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I'm pregnant with my second who is due in September my 1st will be about 20 months then. i hope they get along well =)

Jamie - posted on 03/29/2009

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Got me beat.  My first two are 16 months apart and number 2 and 3 are 11 months apart.  I always like to brag that I had 3 kids in 2.5 years.  I did have my 2nd daughter tested so that she wouldn't have to be in the same grade as her little brother.  That was a big help.

Jessica - posted on 03/13/2009

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My first 2 kids are 11 1/2 months apart and my 2nd & 3rd are 23 months apart.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2009

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Wow! My eldest daughter  was 14 months old when my second daughter was born and she was 14 months old when my son was born! Life is never dull around here!

Jamie - posted on 03/05/2009

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Mine are 14 months apart. One girl One boy. That was a handful. And my husband was deployed at the time. Got pregnant with #2 on his leave from Iraq. It was crazy but worth every minute.

Rebecca - posted on 03/04/2009

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mine are 15 months apart..I am single mom..Dad is not arround..and I go to school and work part time..but I would never change a thing.  They are so close..and adore each other..and I adore them

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Wow, you are my hero! I am still trying to figure out how to handle two girls 18 months apart. I feel that we just had our older daughter right where we wanted her, and schedule for her nap, great fun to be around etc., and now we have to do it all over again, all the while trying not to deprive Jackie of all the attention. Any advice???

Hollie - posted on 02/25/2009

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I have a 3.5 yr old daughter, twin 19 month old sons and an 8 month old daughter - so 11 months apart, but they are twins...and a lot of work :-)

Momof3wonderfulkids - posted on 02/25/2009

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I am new here. I have three wonderful kids. Two boys and a girl. My boys are 18 and 17,
(14 months apart) and my daughter is 12 soon to be 13 in April. No matter how far or close apart we had our children it is going to a challenge at any age. Especially when us moms want to pull our hair out or sing our self into the instatuation.! lol! Anyway it can is very rewarding to be a mom no matter what stage in life we and, our kids are in. I am very proud to be my kids mom.

Deanna - posted on 02/21/2009

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I have five children 12,8,7,6,and 3. My boys are Irish twins. Not a full ll months apart.

Emily - posted on 02/21/2009

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Tasha - honestly, I think having kids closer together has been easier. I brought a newborn home from the hospital 3 days after my oldest turned 1... my older daughter had just barely learned to walk, she couldn't climb yet, and couldn't walk or run very fast. She also still took two naps a day and wasn't really picky about her food (ie, she didn't demand grilled cheese sandwiches or pancakes or anything like that). Because of that, It was really easy to handle two children... they both slept a lot, I could keep up with both of them, they didn't make huge messes, and they started playing together at an extremely early age (when #2 was about 4 months old). There's a 19 month gap between my second and third... and that gap was MUCH harder... both my older girls were into everything, they demanded more attention (though they still played together a lot... I don't know how I would have handled it with only one toddler demanding my attention all day), they were picky about what they ate, so I had to spend more time preparing meals & such... and one of them had given up naps completely, and the other had only one 1 hour nap... so I didn't get a ton of time to rest. If we hadn't been living with my parents at the time, and for the two months after #3 was born... I'm not sure what I would have done. I was also able to potty train #1 and #2 at the same time, and they've done gymnastics classes together and will take swimming lessons together this summer because they're so close in age...

I know a lot of people who think I'm totally crazy, and can't imagine how I get anything done... but #1 and #2 played so well together that I was totally ready for #3 and we were TTC for a couple of months. I had the same experience this last time. By the time #3 started crawling and walking, I didn't need to spend as much time focusing on kids during their play time, and I was ready for another one... we TTC'd for two months and now #4 is coming in September.

There are definitely difficulties in having so many so close... I spend a lot of time buckling and unbuckling carseats when we run errands... and I can never do quick errands unless I'm by myself. There was also a period of about 9 months when I had three kids in diapers, and I thought they would never end... and the logistics of bathtime an bedtime is always a bit tricky... but mostly, we have a lot of fun, and they keep themselves entertained at home... and I get to spend time on facebook. :)

Tasha - posted on 02/21/2009

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Wow, I think you have everyone beat! My sons are only 20 months apart. I think it has been good for them though. They are best friends and have a lot of fun playing together. It is a handful for me! So I can't imagine what you go through!

Emily - posted on 02/20/2009

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Wow Amy!! My girls are very close in age to your boys... but I don't think I've met anyone who has three kids closer than mine without having twins in there.

Kudos to you!! My girls are 5/30/05, 5/31/06, and 12/31/07... we're also expecting #4 9/15/09 :)

Emily - posted on 02/18/2009

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I'm actually kind of sad that I just missed the Irish twins... by two days! My older two are 12 months and 1 day apart. :) I would totally do that gap again, but hopefully not for a little while. We're currently expecting #4... and if #5 decided to come within a year or so of this baby, we'd have to move... our apartment will only allow 6 people total to live here... and we need to stay here until DH finishes grad school... so, it would be better if we had a slightly larger gap between 4 and 5. :)

Mary Jane - posted on 02/17/2009

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Well... mine are 7 mos apart! We were in the middle of an adoption when we found out we were pregnant. It's almost like having twins ... but not quite. My brother and I are 11 mos apart, so it's almost a family tradition. Irish twins :)

Ashlee - posted on 02/17/2009

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I had my 3 back to back too, but not that close. My oldest two are 16months and 6 days but my two boys are 4 days shy of a year apart. My 1 year old should have also been a twin and lost him due to complications. I would have had 4 under 3. But u still have me beat.

Mary - posted on 02/17/2009

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Wow you beat me too. My first two are 18 months apart and my second and third are 10 months apart. I had 3 in 2 years and 4 months. Looking back I'm not sure how I did it. Good luck and I hope your little one is ok.

Leonie - posted on 02/16/2009

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38 weeks, you need to buy a TV or something lol.



Just kidding, mine are 13 mths apart and if I didn't have to have c-sections I would have had this one 2.5 years ago. I love having my 2 so close in age like someone said earlier it's like having twins but not so full on. Would highly recommend it to any one.



AND DAMN STRAIGHT WE NEED PATS ON THE BACKS!!!!!!!!

Angel - posted on 02/16/2009

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Emily, I am happy to hear that the fighting, then closeness later is not abnormal. I just have to live through it!!



I also had problems finding sitters. So many kids and so close together is very overwhelming for many people. My Mom, even if she lived near me, wouldn't be able to manage mine. She only had my brother and myself (both adopted) and we were 3 1/2 yrs apart. That was more than she could manage most days. Now, when she is around my brood, she can't handle the volume, amount of activity and subsequent "trail" they all leave, even though they are fairly good kids and i am around to keep them in check. I would never leave my kids alone with her for very long, and wouldn't have been able to count on her to watch my kids if she was nearby anyway. We didn't have family around when kids were small, so I understand your frustration in not being able to turn to even family for a break (which we all need!!)

Jennifer - posted on 02/13/2009

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You beat me...  I had 5 kids in 6 years.  My oldest was 2 weeks from his 6th birthday when my 5th child was born.  They were 13 months apart, next then 19 months apart, then 2 years, then 14 months.  But it was fun and I'd do it again. I actually miss it a lot!!!  (and yes people think that is nuts...oh well....

Emily - posted on 02/13/2009

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I will also say, the sister just younger than me (20 month difference) and I NEVER got along growing up... we were almost bitter enemies. Now that we're both grown and both married, we're actually super close. My two other sisters are 13 months apart and were best friends growing up, and had a really hard time the first year they were apart when the older one left for school. Now they're both married also and all four of us are close. We even have a monthly book club for just the four of us. :)

Emily - posted on 02/13/2009

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I also had 3 kids in cloth diapers for about 9 months... then we potty-trained the two oldest at the same time, so I'm currently down to one... but #4 is on the way and will most likely be here before #3 is out of diapers... so we'll be back with two in cloth for a while.

I think the biggest reason I'm sometimes discouraged by having so many really young children, is that I have a hard time finding sitters willing to watch my kids. I have three sisters that live nearby, but none of them have kids, and they each prefer to take only one of my kids at a time... and since their availability almost never overlaps... that doesn't help me much. I do have another sister-in-law who lives nearby, and she's better with my kids... but she just had her first, and leaving my three crazy kiddos with her and her 2 week old is probably not the best idea right now.

Angel - posted on 02/13/2009

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Sounds a bit like our family! 2 boys who were 6 & 8 when baby #5 was born, so 5 kids in 8 yrs. The boys were 23 months apart, then a 4 year gap where we experienced 2 miscarriages and a stillborn baby girl. After that, with the help of surgery, it really took off. We had girl #1, then 13 months later girl #2 and 14 months later, girl #3. Having 3 kids in diapers (cloth, by the way) was hairy, and I didn't sleep through the night for 6 years!



When I was pregnant with baby #5, I had a waitress ask me if all four children were ours. I replied "Yes", to which she responded, "and you're pregnant?!?!". I said "Yes" and she asked "Are you crazy?!?!". My answer..... "I'm not asking you to babysit for me, so don't worry about it", LOL!!    (Thought  I was clever, tee hee.)



I have survived, and still look fairly young. As they get older, some things get better, others (the never-ending turf war between the girls) get worse. I do hope that by the time they leave home, they will realize what a blessing it is to have sisters to share with, and brothers to look out for them.



You will survive and I am happy to hear from other moms with many. close-in-age children.

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I have 18 months between my two. Tough at the time as the hubby bailed when the youngest was 1. I wouldn't have done it any other way. They grew up being best friends (and worst enemies) and now as teenagers they rely so much on each other. My youngest (son) is leaps and bounds bigger than others his age and is very protective of his older sister. I can see them remaining close all their lives.

Rachel - posted on 02/09/2009

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My boys are 32 weeks apart!!  The first was born in Sep 2004 and then, my second was born in May 2005. My second one was also a 26-weeker (but not WEAKER). He is the strongest, most hard-headed, persevering child!!! Thank goodness, because that's what got him through his early days - 90 days in the NICU. Then, we had a third son this last July.

Vanessa - posted on 02/09/2009

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I had my kids 8 months and 25 days apart. My son was born in October 2000 and than my daughter was born July 2001.

Katie - posted on 02/08/2009

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HI! My Twins are 11 months apart. Ryan was born onMArch 30 2004 and Cassandra was born on Feb.28,2005. Ryan was 3 months old when I found out I was prego. Now they are 4 years and 3 years old.



 

Crystal - posted on 02/06/2009

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you have me beat.... Irish twins HUH? I was a month and 1 day short of having Irish twins. My boys are 13months and a day apart follwed 3 years later by another baby

Fiona - posted on 02/03/2009

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You got me too... I have 12mths 5 days and then the next is 14mths.... Would do it all again....they are great.

Jessica - posted on 02/03/2009

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My children are 11 months and 12 days apart.  It took us over a year to get pregnant with our first one.  So when the doctors warned us to remain inactive till after the 6 week check-up we didn't hede their warning.  We figured it would take some time to get pregnant again.  Well at the 6 week check-up... you guessed it.  I was pregnant again.

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wow, you win!
my girls are 11 months apart - 19th March & 26 February, with a boy either side of them! LOL

Clare - posted on 02/02/2009

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ahhh ok i see, so you have the shortest age gap in kids but i hold the shortest age gap for biological siblings (so far)... 8 months.... nice work though becca....

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