What do you think of women over 40 giving birth?

Carol - posted on 05/03/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I had my latest at 42, with no problems, but I do wonder how it would have been different if I'd had my kids in my 20s. Would I have more energy? Would they somehow be better off with a younger mother?

In light of news that French first lady Carla Bruni is pregnant at 43, here are some interesting facts I found around the trend of giving birth after age 40:

Who gets pregnant at age 40 or over? Typically, it's married, educated women using donated eggs.

1. In the EU, where French first lady Carla Bruni lives, the percentage of births to mothers age 40 and over has nearly doubled since the late 1980s, from 1.6 percent to 3 percent.

"Fertility rates have increased due to fertility treatments," says women's health educator Toni Weschler, the author of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. "More and more women over 40 can get pregnant now, but those statistics are misleading, because they're able to conceive only because of science. It's no easier now than ever to get pregnant over 40 naturally.”
F.C. Billari, et al. Social age deadlines for the childbearing of women and men. Human Reproduction (2011): 26 (3), 616-22.

2. More women age 40 and older have given birth in Italy, Bruni's native country, than in any other Western industrialized nation; 4 percent of births in Italy are to women over 40, compared to 2.6 percent in the U.S. and 2.2 percent in the Netherlands.
"Potentially it's because in a Catholic country such as Italy, they're less likely to use birth control," muses Weschler. "In a Catholic country, they might say, 'Let's leave it to God,' whereas women over 40 in the United States wouldn't so likely take that chance."
F.C. Billari, et al. Pushing the limit: Long-term trends in late fertility in Sweden. Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research, working paper, 2007. (pdf)

3. In the U.S., the birth rate among women age 40 to 44 increased 6 percent between 2007 and 2009.
And older women comprise the only age group whose birth rate is now on the rise in the U.S., according to the Centers for Disease Control researchers who conducted the study that yielded this statistic. The birth rate among women age 50 and older rose by 4 percent between 2008 and 2009.
Brady E. Hamilton, et al. National Vital Statistics Reports, U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2010): 59 (3) (pdf)

4. One-fourth of women who gave birth at age 40 or older say they feel self-conscious around other moms because of their age.

"The reality is that it's not easy being an older parent," says registered nurse Tori Kropp, author of The Joy of Pregnancy: The Complete, Candid and Reassuring Companion for Parents-to-Be. "It sounds like a great idea at first, but suddenly you're 50 and have 5-year-old twins. It can quite simply be an energy factor. Of course, there are plenty of parents who kick the soccer ball and coach the baseball team, but the older mother becomes less and less likely to crawl on the floor with the baby. Parenting is a rough road for for the older parent who has less flexibility."

source: http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-s...


View replies by

Dawn - posted on 05/18/2011




OMG I'm only 34yrs old and there is no way I could see myself having another child. The first thing I think about is next year I have 2 teenagers getting drivers licence and then I think about what age I would be when they are a certain age. That one stops me.

Carol - posted on 05/17/2011




How exciting, Brandi! Do you think you'll be a better mother because of your experience?

Brandi - posted on 05/17/2011




I am 40 and I am a little boy in August, although it is much different then the births I had had in my twenties I am very excided for this new adventure. Thank you, Brandi

Sharon - posted on 05/03/2011




I am 29, and I had my son at 25. There is no potential man in my future, and I am currently focused on my studies - however, I do want more children in the future, and plan to (if things go as planned) in my late 30's. Financial stability is a must, and the late 30's is the perfect age to be settled in my own home and financially "okay". I think it is a great idea!! I have a friend who accidently got pregnant at 41. Her and her son were healthy as any mom and newborn, and she is a calm and wonderful mom!!! I am all for older moms - having a baby later in life keeps you young!

[deleted account]

I was 2 months shy of 37 when I had my first and only daughter. I was told since my early 20s that I most likely could not get pregnant. I wasn't attempting to get pregnant either when it happened but when I found out there was not one doubt in my head I was keeping my baby no matter what.

Yes, it would probably be physically easier to be younger. However in this day and age, if you are like me, you don't look or seem your age. Health advances have made us 'younger' and we know so much more about how to keep ourselves healthy.

On the topic, mentally speaking, I feel I am a far better person now than I was in my 20s, and will be a better parent for it. So in that regard, my age is a plus. I don't feel as though I am 'too young' and 'missing out' on anything because I have all ready done so much. I am perfectly happy to dedicate my time to being a mother because I am older and 'wiser'.

I also think that statistically, women are just waiting until they are older to have children. After going to school, getting a post education, and career, marrying or not, you inevitably are at least 30 or older. Some times conceiving is difficult and takes a few years.

I have no problem rolling around on the floor with my girl, or dong any of the physical things I do with her. I intend to continue to keep in the best shape I can. I am sure other mothers 40 and over are well aware of their physical abilities too, it had to be a factor in their decision to being a mother at that age.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms