Quality time or Quantity?

Leanne - posted on 08/02/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have been married for almost seven years, and I was wondering what couples do when there schedules are overlapping or hardly see one another? We have one son, who takes a lot of work sometimes, but a joy!! I just wonder when do we get time for us. So far we have only been able to be alone on a date maybe once a month, or every other month. I mean yes we see each other, but he works evenings and I work day so we don't have to have daycare, but sometimes I feel like we are two ships passing through the night! I know it is important to remember that we were a couple before we had our son, and we will be alone again some day, but there are times I feel alone now. Any suggestions?


Tonya - posted on 10/11/2009




Leanne, I am very very sorry i have not been on here. I took a 'shine' to this site for quite a while then almost as quickly things started going on in my life that took over all my time.

I know you have probably heard all kinds of advise. The thing you really got to do though is make it happen. Dont let excuses come into play. Set a date and find a sitter. At one time my husband and I just rented a local room with a whirlpool in it! We didnt get far but, it does allow you to get that feel of 'away' when the scenery is different. Our scheduals dont over lap so I dont have that experience of 'two ships passing through the night" but, maybe you can get a sitter and take him lunch during his? or dinner? You can always leave little notes around too in his lunch box or on the fridge?? just a few ideas

good luck hope any of this helps


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