How often do you get to have a "date night"?

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I know that things are hard when your hubby works the night shift but how often do you all get a chance to be husband and wife and not just mommy and daddy? And then what do you do?

My husband and I don't get to do this often, we are lucky for once a month. Then when we do have the time, we have no idea what to do. It usually ends up being going out to eat then aften not knowing what else to do we end up at walmart. I feel so lame about it, but wow, what a difference to be there without kids.


Aubree - posted on 08/21/2009




Omg! That's exactly what we do! We only get to go out about two times a month and we go out to eat or see a movie then head to wal-mart. I guess wal-mart is just the place to be lol. Don't feel lame about it I'm sure we're not the only ones and atleast when our little ones get bigger we can have more date nights!


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Rebekah - posted on 04/19/2014




Once my little one started sleeping through the night we try and get out of the house together (alone!) at least once a fortnight. My baby is only four months old and breastfeeding so we never end up going too far just incase but walks, movies, driving, coffee or late dinner are all good choices for us. Any couple time is appreciated!!

Cheyenne - posted on 09/20/2010




we have date night during the day. we go out for a few hours every other Wednesday because he works graveyard every wed and thurs night. so when he gets paid my mom watches the baby and we go out and do our shopping for whatever the baby needs first an then go out to eat and MAYBE if theres enough time a movie. if we had the money we would go out once a week but we dont but we are ok with the time we get together

Nikkole - posted on 04/11/2010




this may sound a lil mean, but im really not lost then my lil girl isnt around, and i dont knowif its bc i know that she is in good care or im just happy to be out. i hope this dont make me sound like a bad mommy

Nikkole - posted on 04/11/2010




hi me and my boyfriend try to get one every month, and that mean are lil girl stays the night with one of are close friends or with my aunt, my mom, his mom, or my dad. we do get time alone on the weekends, but its nice to have a whole night by are self. we got out to eat then after go bowling or meet some friends at the bar to play pool.

Katie - posted on 03/07/2010




OMG, I don't remember the last time we had a "date night". I know I was maybe 3 or 4 months prego and now our son is 3 months old.

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010




I can't remember the last time i got a date night my youngest is almost 6 mnths & we have had 1 night with out eiither of our boys in 6 mnths I have to get up when my man gets home to be able to have a conversation during the week

Sara - posted on 10/02/2009




We've tried to have date nights at least once or twice a month lately but usually we're both so tired that we just end up hanging around the house. Or if we do go out it's just for dinner.

Carol - posted on 08/31/2009




lol i havent seen a date night in forever..... it be nice to go out once or twice a month but i dun think that will happen for a while.

Whitney - posted on 08/26/2009




Luckily, we have good friends who LOVE to watch our daughter. They call and ask to watch her all the time. So once every three months we try to go to a concert. and every other weekend we go out to a movie/dinner, or to a jazz club to dance. We stay in and cook sometimes or play video games! Even though we aren't really together anymore, we still try to find time to hang together, so we can maintain a friendship, and make raising our child an easy task to do together.

While he is at work, I try to put her to sleep before he gets in, so she isn't hollering while he is trying to unwind, and we can talk about how our days went etc.

JL - posted on 08/22/2009




I am unfamiliar with this date night thing could someone provide a detailed description so I can better understand.LOL!

We rarely get a date night. Usually we get them on anniversaries or birthdays and those just end up with us eating out or seeing a movie and then going home to tuck the kids into bed. We just really don't know what to do without the kids around and because I am so used to being without by hubby around too much I feel like I am constantly in my mommy mode and don't know how to get out of it when my hubby is around so I can be in my wife mode.

Donna - posted on 08/21/2009




at least one morning a month we go out for breakfast and like all couples we seem to be lost without the kids. we are so used to our lives revolving around the kids that we dont know how to handle just being a couple.

Kristin - posted on 08/21/2009




date night..whats that? lol we occasionally get to go out but we are pretty lame's always going out to dinner and then walmart or meijer....sometimes we manage to go for a ride on his motorcycle but doesn't happen very often! so don't feel bad your not the only one who does this!! i think we are just so use to multi-tasking with the kids every waking hour we really just don't know what to do with ourselves when we get to realx!!

Charlotte - posted on 08/21/2009




We only get "non-mummy/daddy time" about once or twice a month. But, even then his younger brother usually turns up and spoils any plans we had for the evening. When we DO get to be alone we can hardly ever think of what to do, we usually end up going to McDonalds, KFC, Burger King or a pub and then usually end up walking around a huge Supermarket in town. And conversation usually ends up revolving around our daughter.

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