3 1/2 year old now peeing pants!

Rachel - posted on 05/24/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




She's been potty-trained (except night) since October 2010 and now she's been peeing her pants a few times a day! It is so aggrivating but I don't know what to do for it. I take things away, put her in time out, put her back in diapers, not let her play outside (which she LOVES), and I have even spanked her. I don't know what else to do! Suggestions would be very welcome!!!


Kirsty - posted on 05/30/2011




My 3 1/2 year old girl has been doing that too. She has been trained for 1 1/2 so I was not impressed/shocked. The advice I was given (and seems to be working) is not make a big deal about it, just say 'whoops you had an accident', get her cleaned up and say 'next time you'll have to go in the toilet' but don't scold her as you say it. This has been working well for us. After this my wee girl decided she needed help going to the toilet, for the last week we have been using a sticker chart, every time she goes by herself, she gets a sticker and every 6 stickers she gets a treat. You could prob use a sticker chart for your girl, giving attention to the positive rather than the negative.

I was also told the other day that quite often at 3 1/2 kids regress as they are trying to figure out were they belong, infant or child. So this is apparently normal and they will find where they belong.

Good luck!!

Jenjen - posted on 06/22/2012




I know how u feel, my son levi was potty trained since he was three but scince having another baby in feb this yr, it seem to send him backwards, he even started poo-in in his pants, in the end i decided to ask the health vister and came up with the sticker chart. Every time he use the toilet he gets a sticker, so far it's working :) but i know every child different, i hope you find this useful. Good luck hun, but they do grow out of it.

Melissa - posted on 05/29/2011




Great last name - was my maiden name :)

We have had the same problem. When I helped her change her underwear it didn't seem like a big deal to her that it kept happening. Now I make her pick out her own underwear, get it, put the dirty ones in the laundry and go sit on the potty. When she's playing with others then it's usually a fit that transpires but it has been happening a LOT less (was 5 times a day now down to 1once a week) since I put the responsibility on her.

Sometimes I unfortuantely can't find a clean pair while we are out and oops - she just has to stay in them till we get home..

I also always make sure we potty before we leave..

User - posted on 05/26/2011




The little one I used to watch went through that. We never made a big deal about it. Made her go and get changed by herself, offering no help. It lasted about 2 weeks and just stopped.


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Sarah - posted on 07/03/2012




some children that are potty trained early tend to need to back and be potty trained again, this sometimes means going back to nappies, my son just turned 3 and isn't potty trained, he's just not interested yet.

Angela - posted on 07/02/2012




First I understand your frustration, but punishing will not accomplish anything but mental scarring. Has there been any changes in the household, schedule, family? You have to examine the situation completely. Sometimes children regress with change. When she does have an accident, that's what it is, an accident...don't make such a big deal out of it. Have you talked about it with a doctor? Many children get UTIs or sometimes their bladders just aren't growing fast enough. She's most likely going through a growth spurt right now and her body needs to catch up.

Tammy - posted on 06/28/2012




Been there! She knows what shes doing. Have to admit I would put her pull ups on her out of frustration. But it makes the situation worst. Lose the pull up,and start back to the basics. Timing potty time. In about a few days it will get back to normal. If for some reason she continues doing this,She may need to see doctor just to make sure not having ear problems. You be surprised when its allergy's,ears or other small health concerns could be making this little one act out. Good luck hun.

Melissa - posted on 08/09/2011




my 3 1/2 year old does this too, i try to keep as positive as possible, i don't want her to be fearful about going potty in any way! i think it is a combo of going from baby to big girl and also if she is "too busy" playing she tries to ignore it till oopsy........ stay positive and maybe start reminding her again to go.

Jen - posted on 06/07/2011




How long has she been a big sister? It's not uncommon for siblings to regress. I agree with everyone else. Just make her clean herself up and don't make a big deal out of it. The more attention that the situations gets, the more she'll probably do it.

Rachel - posted on 05/30/2011




I'm feeling like I have to re-train her all over again, which I really don't want to do. She goes in and changes her own underwear and gets her own clean undies and pants. I am just busy with getting my house packed and am soooo frustrated! She is #3 out of 4 so she could be feeling lost in a few spots. Sounds like I'm just going to have to wait it out! Ugh!!! Thank you!

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