Breastfeeding problem through night

Fadwa - posted on 11/11/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




My baby is 11 months and still wakes up through night several times and never return back to sleep without breastfeeding.I tried to give hime bottle instead, or his pacifier or calm him with a toy but never works, also i couldn't leave the room and let him cry coz he cries a lot and tries to come after me.What to do plz help:)


Anna - posted on 11/11/2009




Mine is the same age. Most nights he will want to breastfeed at least once or twice. When he is teething, on a growth spurt or unwell, he might want to feed 6 times a night, just for the comfort of it. He sleeps in my bed, so it is not too much hassle for me to just feed him and then we both fall back to sleep easily. Not everybody agrees with co-sleeping, but it is good to at least keep his crib in your room for at least the first 2 years so he doesn't get anxiety about being alone at night.

I have read that if you always breastfeed them to sleep, then they think they need something in their mouths to fall asleep. When it's time for his day time naps, try to get him to fall asleep another way, like walking him. Don't try it at night when you're tired or you'll find it too frustrating. Try walking him up and down the hallway while holding him close or humming to him or going 'shhhh shhhh'. So he learns he can fall asleep another way. It might be easier if you get someone else, like your partner, to try this first, because he won't be expecting milk from his dad.

The other thing you can try is always remove your nipple just before he falls asleep. Once he is really sleepy, gently remove it. If he starts rooting for it again, place your finger gently on his chin to hold his mouth closed. If he starts to get upset, let him feed again for a short time, but keep removing it BEFORE he falls properly asleep. It might take 5 or 6 tries before he goes to sleep without it. You have to practice this with every feed and within a couple of weeks or a month you should see some improvement. Of course, if he is actually hungry and drinking and swallowing, don't take it off him - only if he is just comfort-sucking.

Also, you could try feeding him some starchy food like rice or pasta or potato shortly before bed to keep him full and make him sleepy.


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User - posted on 11/26/2009




your baby still has to learn to fall sleep on his own. it's true that if they fall asleep nursing they don't learn to fall asleep without it. I feed my 11 month old about a half hour before puting him to bed. he falls asleep on his own and sleeps 11 hours unless he's teething or something wakes him up- but I can usually hug him, kiss him and shh him calm and put him back down to sleep. the key is teaching hm to fall alseep on his own. I love breastfeeding my baby but I also love sleeping at night- being well rested makes me a better mom during the day- I'm not as cranky! :)

Vicki - posted on 11/23/2009




My son also breastfeeds often throughout the night. As has been said, just enjoy the time together... He won't always be a baby, and while it might seem like it's never going to end right now, it will end all too soon.

Andrea - posted on 11/22/2009




Are you married or do you have a partner that can help? My daughter is almost 11 months old & up until last week she nursed 3-5 times a night. This week my husband took over the night-time wakings & since then she's just been nursing 1 time a night & sleeping in two 6-7 hour stretches. He would just go in & pat her until she calmed down. Now she goes right back to sleep & only nurses one time. She's also a lot happier during the days. It's helped all around.

Iva - posted on 11/21/2009




I also breast-feed my almost 1 year old baby. At night we sleep together and it is great for everybody. Most of the times I don't even woke up because she find the way to eat herself and my husband sleap all night too because she do not cry at all. Sometimes pepole tells it is not good for nobody but I don't think so. You just need to lisen to yourself and go with the flow. Sorry for my english, spelling and so...

Jessica - posted on 11/19/2009




Have you thought about breast-feeding in a laying position??? My son woke up at night alot to feed too and I would lay on my side and offer him the breast on the side I was laying on i got to sleep and he got eat and when he's done he'll let go and fall asleep himself

Fadwa - posted on 11/13/2009




Thanks Sharina and Anna for your reply.I just thought that feeding him every time he wakes up is not good for him and me, I want him to be able to return back to sleep alone I think it's a skill but I'll make by your words to enjoy moments of feeding and I hope he would be a great man in the future and hope so for your babies:)

Sharina - posted on 11/12/2009




Fadwa-don't stress about your problem. Enjoy every breastfeeding like it's your last. One day your baby will be grown and you'll never have these moments back. I still daydream about the baby days with my kids who are now teens/preteens. It goes really fast. I know it seems like a lot to do to get up several times per night but it won't last forever! I have a ten month old who still nurses through the night. I put him to bed at his normal bedtime and the first time he cries for milk I bring him into bed with me and we nurse off and on until wake up time. It's our special bonding time. His dad and I get our time too because the baby goes to bed around nine for the night and that is our time together. You are giving your baby something that is priceless and that no one else can give. So, relax and enjoy! You are a great mom!

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