circumcision or no circumcision?

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My husband and I started talking about this subject, and I am not sure what to do. I don't even know if I am having a boy, but this a delicate subject.

What do you guys think about it?


Sally - posted on 09/06/2012




Routine circumcision was invented in the US as an attempt to stop masturbation by removing the most sensitive part of the penis and damaging the nerves in the next most sensitive part. When the medical community found out what a gold mine they'd discovered (Not only do they get paid for the surgery, but foreskins are a pretty hot commodity too.) they needed new reasons to keep it going as it very obviously had no effect on it's original purpose.

Sadly, the medical community has convinced many well-meaning, but ill informed parents that an open wound in a diaper is "cleaner" than a piece of skin. Instead of telling parents the truth that until a foreskin naturally retracts (which is extremely rare before puberty) it requires no more specialized cleaning than a finger, they tell parents to rip it back (or rip it back themselves) years before it is ready. This leads to scar tissue and infections which can make the procedure necessary later. When the foreskin does let go in its own (again almost always at puberty) the only "special" cleaning it requires is a quick wipe-under in the shower. What pubescent boy would fight the opportunity to handle his penis in the shower? A properly treated intact penis is easier to keep clean at an earlier age (and forever really) than a girl's labia. Why is cutting up a boy "cosmetic", but cutting up a girl is "mutilation"?

Jacqueline - posted on 05/24/2012




For our son in Oregon it was only like 3-400.

And our insurance didn't cover it. Some do tho.

Leigh - posted on 05/23/2012




I never thought about whether or not we'd do it, but I was wondering how much does it cost to have a boy circumsized? Does anyone know?

Kayleen - posted on 05/23/2012




if we have a boy he will have the circumcision as soon as the hospital will do it, i think its the best for keeping him clean...i am not concerned what everyone else does or says because its up to everyone on their own beliefs and or religion but i cant imagine any boy who is old enough to decide to do it will do it, i mean but the time they are like 6 or 7 they are already aware that they dont want their lil weewee cut, no kid would do it then our daughters are going to be with dirty weewee men LOL i dunno i say do what feels right for you

Jacqueline - posted on 05/23/2012




I did. It's considered "cosmetic" but I don't think is. My brother didn't get circumcised till he was 8 or 9 years old. Because of infections. The up keep on an uncircumcised penis is much more work. And can cause lots of infections if not cleaned properly. My son got it done when he was 2weeks old. It was very sad for me but it makesme feel better knowing he has a much much lower chance of infections and when he gets into sports and showers with his team mates etc, he wont feel like the oddball out. We all know how mean kids can be.

Some women say they can it done if they want to whe they turn of age. But then they are more pron to getting an infection when they are older and there is A LOT MORE to snip! Lol.


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Kelly - posted on 09/13/2012




We are going to. We did with our first child and this one will be too. My husband wasn't when he was a baby. When he turned 6 his penis became infected from bacteria and germs collecting under the extra skin. It got so bad that it busted and he had to have the circumcision plus stitches where it busted open. Sounds painful huh? bad thing is he remembers it. Doing it as a baby they never know. Our son didn't even act like anything was wrong afterwards.

Erin - posted on 09/05/2012




We did with our first 2 and will with this one too. The hospital asks that if it is a boy do we want him circumcised or not and it is done the next morning if you want it done. They won't remember being cut and won't have to go through infections and having to do it when they are old enough to know whats going on.

It is every parents choice on whether they do it or not. I agree with Bethany, their decision none of my business.

Bethany - posted on 05/26/2012




personally if ours is a boy, we won't be circumcising him. I know it's one of those things that are not discussed too openly for fear of judgment from both sides, like religion, immunisations, discipline styles, and most parenting decisions really.

But from what I've read, and observed, I don't see it necessary. I won't be whipping his adenoids and appendix out when he's born 'just incase' and I see this as similar. As for locker rooms? we don't really have that kind of thing here, that I'm aware of. If a kid can comment, then they were looking for too long and that's their own issue right there. Or that's what I'll tell my son to say anyhow.

If anyone decides to do it to their child, that's their business and their decision, and it's not hurting me one bit, so it's not my concern.

Jacqueline - posted on 05/25/2012




My stepmo said back when she had her son. They snipped them right when they were born. But she was also very young, so the doctors and nurses didn't treat her well.

Karen - posted on 05/25/2012




I was talking to my mom about it a few weeks ago..and she totally recommends it. Back in her day, she said if the dad was circumcised, the baby was as well so there wouldn't be any differences as the little boy grows up. So, my brother wasn't snipped but it was so much work to keep cllean and countless infections. My mom thoroughly recommended me just to have it done as early as possible...get it over n done with. :). If we have a boy we have decided to circumcise.

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I think we are gonna have to do it. It might be one of those things that will be more painful for everyone if we wait! Thanks everyone for your answers :)

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