Hurt !

Melanie - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So i was married to my daugters father. Now she lives there full time and comes to see me eery other weekend. well she was here this weekend and decided she was going to go home even though we were going to the beach because she missed her daddy. but then called me at like 9pm to tell me she was on her way, because now she wanted to go to the beach with us. when i told her that we weren't going anymore then she said nevermind ! whats the point !!! i was so upset!

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Rebecca - posted on 06/16/2009

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its hard to make the children understand when u are both divorced and one has full custody and the other has just everyother weekend visits... my ex is the one with the weekend visits and every other holiday and my 3 kids who are teens went thro the battle of that as well my oldest no longer wants anything to do with his dad he calls him by his name .... heis 15 yrsold. my other 2 are 14 yrs old and 12 yrs old. they go and see him regular basis. but are having a hard time ponying up to things . just be there for her no matter how her mind changes from one minute to the next but give her boundries as well. she didnt ask for this to happen and a child that age doesnt understand fully why .... they try to grow up to fast in a adult world i have seen that happen wth my 14 yr old daughter...

Angel - posted on 06/16/2009

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I dont know how old your daughter is but let me say . My daughter is 11 and she is living with my exhusband and I too only see her every other weekend .

She wants to come here and such and she too misses her dad when she is here . So at times she picks the phone up and calls him and tells him what she is doing and such and askes him how he is doing. Maybe next time ask her would she like to call him and see what he is doing before going back to his place. That way she knows that dad isnt doing anything and he is ok. and that she can go to the beach ..

But onething Iv learned is kids get older and they change their minds alot when it comes to having 2 places . (cause i also have a 21 yr. son ) Just both you and her dad need to always be open and be able to talk . cause there will be times when she will want to come on a weekend that isnt hers and such . Remenber they are only kids and they didnt ask for their parents not to be together anymore. she just worried and if the shoe was different she be worried about you too. best of luck

Melanie - posted on 06/15/2009

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thanx i know! shes an amazing little girl, but she has reached that age where shes not a baby anymore but she doesnt know whats quite best yet! plus her daddy has been to the hospital twice since we have split up and she adores him, so she might not understand, im sure it trigger a fear that her daddy might not come back one day! idk i just want her to be happy!

Lisa - posted on 06/15/2009

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It is so hard to be patient especially when they want the best of both worlds. All I can say is wait it out they always come back. Keep your chin up I know it is hard.

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