If my oldest decides not to visit her dad, does my youngest still have to go?

Joanne - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Just as the title asks... but with detail.
My daughter is almost 9 and my son is turning 7 in January. So I know I have a few years yet... but I was wondering if my youngest would still be forced to visit his dad if his sister decides she doesn't want to. I'm hoping things will change for them while they visit when the time comes for them to make that decision, but its been two years already of pure sadness and disappointment every time they go. They get treated like they don't belong and feel unwanted. It's heartbreaking to say the least, but if my son is forced to go alone, I fear it will permanently traumatized him!! I wish I was over exaggerating!!

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Joanne - posted on 09/02/2013

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Currently there is no court order. But my plan and intentions are not to withhold or prevent visits. I just wanted to know when it comes time for my oldest to have the right to make the decision to go or not, does that influence my youngest's rights as well.

Michele - posted on 09/01/2013

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If there is a court ordered visitation then neither of your children have an option to go or not to go visit with their father. If you allow your child to not attend a court order visitation you could be found in contempt of court as well as found guilty of custodial interference which does bring with it the possibility of losing residential custody of your children. I recognize that you may feel they get treated as though they don't belong or are unwanted, and that is hard to watch. Your job is to encourage that relationship, as long as that relationship isn't physically, mentally or emotionally abusive. If you have concerns that there is abuse then you need to seek legal counsel and social services to have it investigated. I always encourage parents to recognize that children will play the parents against one another for their own agenda... A good family counselor can also be very helpful in this situation.

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