Tired of full stories not being told

Marcella - posted on 10/06/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I really had to get this out because more and more i come on this site and run into a lie about me and my husband or a story not being fully told. So i will tell the full story Feb 18 2009 my husband left his ex wife due to their kids being taken by the state, August 28 2009 she had a baby girl and had to have a DNA test done because she cheated on my husband and did not know who the father was ( and I will admit my husband cheated to but no kids came from it) Sept 27 2009 my husband and i started dating from that moment on I was a b**** a cougar a homewrecker and any other name tht could be called and I will admist also i threw some names out there when i found out about the names i was called, things of i look like a man i was fatter then she was i was ugly and my husband :downgraded" was always and still being told to us by their mutual friends. Somehow August 2010 she gained custody of the two youngest children with no way to support them on her own except child support which IS being taken out of my husbands check every time he gets paid. Now there is a post stating that we threw a fit about her wanting to take them to her dad well the whole time her and my husband were together she said her dad molested her that is why he threw a fit, when we saw the children there is something wrong with the youngest boy that she has in her custody and she now wont even tell my husband what is wrong with him because she is mad because she wants to date but not put her precious boyfriend threw the hoops that she made me jump through. I had to set the record straight and if anyone wants to post or get mad go ahead because I am done with her poor me baby mama drama I am a single mom grow up I was a single mom, i worked, took care of my kid and still had a social life without my kids suffering never a diaper rash or soured bottle

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Marcella - posted on 10/14/2010

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I am closing this because it seems to one mother that it is okay for any mother to put a father or step mother down, and run there mouth and start drama, so thank you all who actually put in some good information and comments

Nontando - posted on 10/14/2010

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Its good that you have moved on madam, its one of those things that happen in life.But i believe you will pull through with your kid and continue to live happily.Good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/13/2010

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Why do you care what mom does or doesn't do? You can't control what she does with her children.

Marcella - posted on 10/13/2010

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Well the people at the visitation house has seen an INCREASE in the child's behavior since he has been placed with his mother, the courts may not remove him but that still give her or anyone in that house to try and get him to hate his dad or me, we do not tell the children mommy is bad or that her boyfriend is bad in fact we actually seem excited for them when it is time to go back to their mom's why can't she do the same?

Elizabeth - posted on 10/13/2010

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What did the licensed child psychologist at the visiting house have to say?
Even if its true, the courts won't remove the child from moms custody. the courts will give mom a chance to improve, just as they have given your husband.

Marcella - posted on 10/13/2010

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Elizabeth please tell me where a 2 year old would get that daddy is bad? I mean 2 yeas old? He neve said that till he went to live with his mother.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/13/2010

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It amazes me that people don't think kids actually have their own feelings, or even consider them as valid or thinking they're being brain washed by the other parent.

Jessica - posted on 10/11/2010

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I hope and pray that my ex and I well get along some day because the kids are the ones who get hurt in the process.

Jessica - posted on 10/11/2010

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I hope someday that will happen someday between my ex and me is to get along your are right the kids are the ones who get hurt in the process.

Jaela-Rene' - posted on 10/10/2010

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i feel for you. i went thru some of the same. hope it all works out for you.

Melanie - posted on 10/09/2010

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I know I sound confused, I'm sorry, I Have a lot of anger built up, It's complicated!
Good luck to you!

Melanie - posted on 10/09/2010

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I So hear you! I just cannot wait to see the day my daughters get to see what is really going on... But when they get to see and hear it, they record it and have NO DOUBT IT`S THE TRUTH. When all this time, they`re manipulated into thinking it was and will forever be ``the way it WAS``: Frustrating, very frustrating...

Marcella - posted on 10/08/2010

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First the kids dont hear it thank goodness and yes we have to defend ourselves because the kids are in states custody and her lying isnt good for us either, yeah my husband works and wants to take care of his kids so yeah he is a real winner he is a good dad he made mistakes in his past but trying to fix them now, and when i do try to put the kids first i get told I am in the wrong!

Kimberly - posted on 10/08/2010

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Wow you all need to get your sh#t together. All your anger and bickering can't be good for the kids. No judgements here but usually if one feels they have to defend themselves on a website shows major insecurity. Sounds like your husband and ex are real winners... you picked a big mess to get into now you all need to grow up and put kids first. Good Luck.

Chrissy - posted on 10/08/2010

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Thats terrible!! We don't talk bad about no one in front of the kids at all. We try and watch what we say in front of the kids as far as cussing, because home is where they learn everything! Outside influences are there, but little.

Marcella - posted on 10/07/2010

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Thank goodness the children do not see this at all because we do not have to see his ex the kids only hear good things from us but we get told by the two year old that i am bad and daddy is a f***** then the 1 yr old said s*** and it was heard by the workers at the visitation house and written down, we are told she does not cuss around them so where do they get these ideas?

Abby - posted on 10/07/2010

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Definitely a lot of anger and animosity in these relationships. I have to wonder how much the kids are seeing. As much as I can understand how frustrating the situation is, I have an interesting perspective now because my stepson is in his 30s. Although different, a lot of this sounds very similar to how his parents and stepparents (myself included) were acting. He really doesn't want to be around any of us now and looking back I can't really blame him. On the plus side of that, I also have four other children and I am a single parent. With my two older boys (a few years of learning), me and my first ex determined that we were not going that route with our boys. We both have been remarried and may have had a lot to say, but we made sure that the kids heard the good things and did not tolerate them putting down either parent. They are in their 20s and have a great relationship with their dad, step mom and me. So, in the end, the kids figure out the truth regardless, but the more important thing is to realize that they consider themselves part of both parents. Good luck to all of you.

Pat - posted on 10/07/2010

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hi marcella good for u,its not nice being called names and some woman are out of order just take no notice you are living your live and good luck pat xx

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