HELP!!! My 14 months old screams at our feet!

Trisha - posted on 08/29/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Im a daycare worker fulltime and my daughter is now in the tot room meaning she dosen't get to c me or her daddy all day....the problem is she screams and cries at our feet at night and on weekends for us to hold her when we r cooking dinner and trying to just generally do things! We play w her its just when is enuff enuff? This morning i tried to have us ignore her (treating it like a tantrum) and she just got beside her self upset.....i NEED suggestions! Im 6 months preg w my second baby girl and if this continues it will be super hard to manage a spoiled baby girl w a newborn baby girl who will need alot of our attention. How can i approach this diffrently?


Kathryn - posted on 08/30/2010




When my son was that age he was realy clingy too. One thing I did was make a toy drawer (if you don't have an extra drawer do a cabinet). While I was cooking I simply told him that I was cooking and if he would like he can play in the toy drawer. If he started to throw a tantrum I put him in his spot. I made a "tantrum sopt" all it is is a place out of the room but somewhere close. I would tell my son when he was done having his tantrum he can come back in the room I was in. It took him 3 weeks or so but he adjusted. Not that is a thing of the past. He is now 27 months and doesn't want to be carried at all. It will pass for you too, just be patient and consistant.


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Tammy - posted on 09/14/2010




You just like I also work in daycare. I am a big fan of the naughty chair. Yes even at this age, misbehaviour can be dealt with, with a timeout. Don't give up, be persistant on placing her there when she decides to get up over and over again. I know this has always worked for me. Be the boss and over time you will see results. Good luck! Tammy

Jennifer - posted on 09/13/2010




I have been going through something similiar with my 16 month old boy. I have tried (and continue to try) to give him extra attention when I do get to spend time with him. I do as much prep for dinner the night before so I can get it on very quickly. I do try to have him help me in the kitchen with things like, sitting in his high chair tearing up lettuce for salad, he can pour ingredients into a bowl, scoop cut up veggies into bowls. I think he likes to be part of what I am doing and likes the attention. It sometimes slows me down but he is not whining for my attention because he has it.

Melissa - posted on 09/10/2010




Trisha have u tried to sit her at the table while u r cooking and let her color a picture sometimes that works that is one thing we do with my 2yr old daughter and she also trys to help us or even have her sit there u just talk to her about different things like for an example talk to her about the baby i do that all the time with my daughter and she loves to talk about the baby so if u havent already tryed that give it a try and let me know how things went and i will think of some more things but thats one that i thought of right off. Good luck hope this helps. Good luck with the pregnancy as well.

Mary - posted on 09/09/2010




I have a 14 month old, too. She's also started having tantrums. My situation is a little different, tho. I'm actually home with her, but I've had laryngitis for 2 months and can't talk or sing to her anymore. She's taking it really hard. I've discovered that if I bring out a special toy, it calms her right down. It sometimes makes me feel bad, like I'm cheating or something, but it can get very frustrating to a Little One when everything is changing. They don't have enough vocabulary to tell us how they feel. The special toy (or blanky like my daughter's) shows them that you care, even when you can't be there physically. This actually helps with putting her to bed. When I hand her the blanky, she smiles at me and settles right down. It's very comforting to her. I hope this helps.

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