Anyone give their MIL (grandma) a Mother

Jodie - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 56 moms have responded )

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Im sorry, but I have a problem with this. I am their ONLY mother. This is another grievence amoung MANY that I have with my husbands family, so everything adds up. I was pretty upset at this suggestion though. It was my first Mothers day and I wanted to spend it with just my babies and husband, not his center-of-the-world Mother who is over at our house 3, sometimes 4 times a week anyway. I wanted it to be MY day (and MY Mothers day card only). I dont think this went over well with his family. My mom was okay with us having a family day.



GRRRR!!!!!!!!

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Sarah - posted on 05/18/2010

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It seems as if a large part of being a wife and mother is constantly compromising to keep the peace! I guess all I can say is grin and bear it and be grateful that you have her as a babysitter!

Cheri' - posted on 05/13/2010

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i think it depends on the type of relationship you have with your MIL... i love mine.. she is like a second mother to me, so yes i did give her and my mom a card and a stone thing that goes into the garden with my sons foot print in it. and i dont think that its about "oh she isnt my mother", its more of an appreciation of what they do as mothers, and how they help us. if your MIL is annoying i can see why you wouldnt want to do anything for them...

Toni - posted on 12/26/2011

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I think the weekly visits ned to end...lol...you need to specify that your fmily needs a routine and that includes your husband and kids. It can be fun to be together but kids....and parents....get overwhelmed with visitors....so first ease of the weeknight visits befo you try and claim holiday...lol....good luck!

Christine - posted on 05/24/2010

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I agree with a lot of people here I think it is your day but it's also your mothers and MIL's day too. I at least send a card or have a short visit. What annoyed me this mothers day though is that we got my MIL a card and a card from our daughter.. and she didn't even wish me a happy 1st mothers day. I was not very impressed.

Crystal - posted on 05/24/2010

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I can understand the frustration. But you should be thankful that your MIL wants to be a part of your family.. My husbands mother lives literally 10 minutes away, she can drive and walk, she has only seen my 8 mo. old 3 times and has never been to any of my 6 yr. old's birthday parties. She raised her 5 kids and doesn't want to be bothered with grandkids.. She has 8 grandchildren and doesn't bother with any of them.. We are used to this by now and my 6 yr. old says he doesn't care that she doesn't come see him. Its sad. At 41 yrs old my husband says he's over it and has his family, but it does bother me. My family is wonderful.. So please tell her how you feel but be greatful that she is there at all.. Our moms always understand, don't know why its different with the MIL.. Good luck

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Glenda - posted on 05/26/2010

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It was all about me, i had breakfast in bed! Got a mug and a teddy bear it was really nice. Just when i thought i couldn't get enough i was taken to Nando's my favourite reastaurat for a meal. Lucky me! I understand u wanting a family day, everyday is about the kids so it is nice to get one day to urself!

Rachel - posted on 05/26/2010

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Jodie, I believe that we should have that choice, and we should be respected for the decisions that we make in our new families. Since the birth of my son, (he is almost 9 mnths now) I have had to face my MIL every week for 4 days out of the wk. Where as before we had a baby, we saw her in Feb, then in June, then in Sept and then had been every wk since Sept. Now we might have a break for a while. She was having some trouble with working thats why she was always up here, now she has 2 full time jobs which hopefully she will be able to stay busy and stay where she is for a while.

What I was recently facing before she left the last time which for the record has been 11 days ago, she was telling us that the baby didn't have to go everywhere I went, that's normal for babies to want to be with their mothers. She was a new mother at one time, she knows but she thinks that when she's up to see us that the baby should be all hers 24 hours of the day!

She was also starting to tell us what our baby wanted and when. "He's bored, you should put him down and let him play, etc." I just don't think she is respecting us, it would be different if she did.

Wat bad is whenever she is up here staying with us, it puts a strain in my husband and I's relationship.

My husband is the only child in his family, and our son is the first grandson.

It is so hard to deal with but I know its probably doubly hard on my hubby s he loves his mother and he loves me, and sometimes his mother wins his loyalty.....she's the right one and I need to let loose a little.

I'm sorry, I carried that baby 9 months and I think I should have a decent say in what that child does. She is only our son's grandmother and nothing more. She has been a mother and she was able to make mistakes, she should let us make our mistakes.

Yes, I believe there should be no problem with having some time with just your new family,

Jodie - posted on 05/25/2010

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What is interesting is I remember growing up and Mothers day was only with my mom--neither grandma were invloved (although Im sure my mom called her or did something). Now that Im a mom, suddenly Im supose to include my MIL. Never mind that she had Mothers Day to herself for 30 some odd years. I guess it should be called "Mother and your Mother-in-law Day" or "Mother and Grandma day" or "All Mothers Day." Ive read similar responses on this thread, so it is so nice to hear Im not alone.

Yes, every mother should be aknowledged in some special way. We did do that. I just want Mothers Day to be, at least part of it, with just my twin babies, my husband, and myself :)

Andrea - posted on 05/24/2010

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it cracks me up to hear everyone not having a nice MIL! lol i love mine but it would upset me to be expected to have to share on MY day! we just had our first mothersday but fortunitally we live like 1000 plus miles away from our family. i gave every mother i knew a happy mothers day text and i called my own mother but it was my day to do what i wanted. it was a new tradition that we are starting as a new family, thats al, not meaning any disresect to our parents, and at least our families understand that and were happy for us.

Kaylee - posted on 05/24/2010

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I totally agree with many of these beautiful mothers. This was my first Mother's Day as well. I wanted it to be my day, but my Mom wanted us to go over to her house for dinner. We did go to dinner, but she still was upset that we didn't spend the entire day there. I love my mom to pieces, but growing up, Mother's Day was her day, not my Grandmother's day. My mom used to just send a card and a gift to my Grandma. Somehow when it comes to me and my daughter, she sees the picture differently. I want to enjoy some special moments and days to myself with my fiance and daughter. She has an issue sometimes where she calls my daughter her baby and sometimes says "Mommy loves you...I mean Grandma loves you." I think that it must feel so close to when she had ME that she has an issue separating that and making boundries. I have to remind her a lot that this is MY daughter.

Advocacy4u2 - posted on 05/23/2010

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wow - glad I have a close knit family! we love each other EVERY day regardless

Kristina - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have to agree. I want to spend Mother's Day with my baby and my husband as well. We decided to do our "Grandma" and "Mammaw" runs the day before. I know my Mom and Mother-in-Law don't want to have a house full of people either.

Bonnie - posted on 05/21/2010

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I sent a card to my mother and my husband's mother. They both live far away though.

Rachel - posted on 05/21/2010

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I know how you feel and what you are feeling. My MIL lives 4 hours away from us and since the birth of our first child she as been up visiting every wk and stays with us 3-4 days b4 she goes back home. GRRRRRRRRRR!

I can truly feel for you as I am in the same boat. When she is with us, its all about her. I think she is jealous becuz of the time I spend with my son. I am an active prt in my sons life. I still bf him too. I am trying to do that until he is a yr old.

Glad to know I'm not the only one with this monster (i mean mother) in law

Mary - posted on 05/21/2010

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Girl I hear ya! I feel the same way! My husband understands that too so we just had the three of us on my day! Thankfully my MIL is not into baby's and holds ours like an alien seeing something for the first time.

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P.S. I agree with you, the grandmas are NOT our childrens' moms! It is agreessive & insulting to us as the REAL mom for them to behave & talk as if they are. They should be satisfied with the title grandma, as it comes with many perks, and not feel the need to make more of themselves than necessary! :)

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Although I do not celebrate such holidays, it seems to me that Mother's Day is for the child/children to recognize their OWN mother. It would be respectful & kind as the DIL to include yourself in recognizing her efforts. At the very least, even if you & your MIL don't always see eye-to-eye, it would be sort of a head nod from one mom to another mom so-to-speak. Being a mom is tuff. Our moms & MILs had it harder than we do I think, in that they had less help, less accurate info, etc. Plus, they probably had their overbearing moms & MILs pestering them as well. It's probably all they know.

However, I can relate with your frustration. Trust me. I bite my tongue most of the time, and try to be kind & tactful when I do speak up. But let me tell you, it is very difficult! Sometimes I just want to scream! I totally get the "GRRR!" :) It would help tremendously to set some boundaries. It is VITAL! My MIL was coming over every day for 2 months when my daughter was born. I needed the help at first, then I probably did "milk" it a little (it was nice having someone else cook & clean!), but I finally had to say "thank you, it's time to go." Talk with your husband, let him know how important it is that your family (you & him & the baby) have your own space. I wish you well. Hang in there. :)

Nicole - posted on 05/20/2010

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Although I do keep track of important dates, DH is in charge of getting presents for his mom for mother's day. I am NOT her daughter(as She has informed me several times) so although I respect her, I feel no need to buy her something. I do get birthday/anniversary gifts and such, but Mother's Day is one I leave to DH.

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I think it's out of respect for your husband that you include your mother in law. I don't think that you have to go over to their house or anything, but most definitely should get a card or small gift. My husband and kids give/make me cards and we send cards to our mothers and grandmothers- even my great grandmother. They're all mothers and deserve some appreciation. If your mother in law is interfering too much, ask your husband to help you tell her to chill. Since his mom is ALWAYS gonna be his mom, just make the best of it. Give her a card a few days before Mother's Day next year and maybe call her for a minute and then you're done. A little effort will mean a lot, and it'll go a long way towards getting along with your husband's family.

Lori - posted on 05/19/2010

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OMG something i can finally relate too!!!! I can not believe that I had to celebrate MY Mother's day 1 week later because we didn't have time to celebrate because we had to go be with MIL!!!! And to top it off, my daughter's birthday was on Mother's Day and i couldn't even be with her for that because I had to go spend time w/MIL!!!! Thank God people who understand why I was sooooooo angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was only fortunate enough to spend 2 hours w/my mom because MIL decided she wanted to see us at her "Condo" which is a 40 min drive one way. Needless to say Mother's day with my 7 month old son was not what I expected....call me selfish..........

Christie - posted on 05/18/2010

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I have no problem sharing Mother's Day with the other mothers in my family, to include my MIL. Besides, we're all mothers! And, it's because I'm a mother that I am better able to appreciate my mom as well as my MIL.

Although being a mom is the most rewarding role, it is also the most difficult one too! So, to deny my MIL her Mother's Day for the sake of my personal, and lone, enjoyment would be to contradict everything that I believe being a mother to be. My MIL is my man's mom and she deserves to enjoy her day with her kids and the rest of her family as much as I do.

In fact, I got the kids together to do a Mother's Day craft project for my MIL and my mom. My MIL baked a roast and we had lunch at her house.

Because she is a mother she appreciates me, and because I am a mother I appreciate her.

Jodie - posted on 05/18/2010

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Now that I re-read my original post, it does sound a bit self-centered, but I still feel that a mothers day card should be reserved for mothers from their children. There are grandparents cards, and that would be appropriate to be given from grandchildren. I guess on one hand, I feel that my MIL has had 36 mothers day to herself, and although I am not asking my husband to ignore her (indeed, everyone had dinner the night before M. Day), I do want some special time and do not want to "share the spotlight" with her, at least not this year ( I guess this goes a little deeper than just about cards). So in short, I agree with what most everyone has been saying so far. Thank you.
(oh-- and if I was going to pick a grandma to spend M Day with, it be my own mom).

Emily - posted on 05/18/2010

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I gave my mother and my mil a card & gift. But we spent the day here having MY day.

Samantha - posted on 05/18/2010

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i have many problems with my mil (ie she now wants me to change my dd creche day from monday and thursday to tuesday and friday..... why???? because she babysits monday and she doesnt like getting dd ready for creche and putting my son in pram for a 2 min walk to the creche. i mean what am i supposed to say when she goes to school next year....sorry sir she cant come mondays cus my mil doesnt want to go out when she babysits?? is it just me being stubborn?? as for cards i bought a present for her from 3 of her sons cus they are single (not counting my hubby) otherwise she would get nothing. from her grandkids i got her a lovely copy done of a proffessional photo of the kids and put in nice frame and let annie "make" a picture/card for granny. just remember how much you appreciate (or will do) any handmade gifts you get from your kids and remember that its been a long time since she had thoughtful gifts. mine loved it more than the showergel/perfume/cointreau that we bought as the official present. treat people the way you want to be treated is my motto and if you think that in the future if your kids do the same to you you wont be hurt then by all means do what you want but remember it may come back to bite you in the bum!

Kellie - posted on 05/18/2010

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I guess we just have different views. I don't feel that way at all. We're super close to both sides, his parents and mine and would never consider us "a separate family unit." Our new family would not even exist had it not been for both sets of parents. But everyone is entitled to their opinion, that's just my feeling for my family.

Michelle - posted on 05/18/2010

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Kellie,

While I don't feel like you should spend mothers day with your in laws or mother. I do feel that you should buy them a card an a gift to express your thanks. All in all doesnt the bible even talk about this saying A man shall leave his mother an father an shall become one with his wife. When a man an woman marry they then form a seperate family unit. This unit comes before all others.

Janell - posted on 05/18/2010

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I have always been one to celebrate such occasions as much as possible. This was my first mother's day, as well. My daughter has 2 great grandmothers, one grandmother and one mother. The great grandmothers both received great grandmother cards with a handprint signature from my daughter. Her grandmother received the same, although it was a grandmother card. My mother received a mother's day card from the family. We send mother's day cards to all the mothers in the family... of course they aren't "mother's day" cards (happy mother's day aunt, etc.) ...and they are from the whole family. I don't know... I guess I have always been this way, and I think it is wrong not to acknowledge the family and friends that are mothers.

As for having family time on Mother's day... I think it is wonderful and appropriate to have time with your family just for yourself. You don't have to "make the rounds" and do all that.

I feel as though, as long as they are acknowledged in some small way for all they have done and have had to put up with throughout the years then you don't have to go way out of your way to spend "time" with them.

Charitie - posted on 05/18/2010

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Besides my family, my husband's mom was the only one that remembered to tell me happy Mother's Day. This is the 2nd year in a row where I was left out on Mother's Day. Last year everyone went out to dinner while I got to sit at home and make dinner. I don't always see eye to eye with his family and getting left out on birthdays and Mother's Day just adds to it. I can understand where you're coming from.

Melissa - posted on 05/18/2010

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I agree with Kellie. Just because a man is married and has a kid doesn't mean that he should ignore his own mother for the sake of his wife. That's really ridiculous. It's "Mother's" Day. Not, "Wife" Day. It's made to celebrate moms of all shapes and sizes. I usually send cards to not only my mother and MIL, but grandmothers on both sides, siblings who have kids, my aunts who have kids...the list goes on. If my husband ignored his mother on Mother's Day on the grounds that it was "my day" I would be very upset.

Kellie - posted on 05/18/2010

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Michelle, that makes me sad...so when my son grows up and gets married and has a baby, I don't deserve anything special? I'm still his mom! I hope my son doesn't have that attitude of "my wife is the only one who gets my attention because she's the mother of my child." What about the mother who has supported and loved you your whole life? I don't agree with not paying respect to your mother. Just my opinion.

Michelle - posted on 05/17/2010

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Cpmpletely understand. Yahoo actually did an article about this same subject to dads on mothers day an the day before alerting them not to let the spot light be on anyone else besides their wives! Sigh surprising an disappointing that some men actually needed to be told this!

Janell - posted on 05/17/2010

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I didn't worry about a card. I have a GREAT MIL, so we gave her flowers and on the little greeting card attached I signed as if it was from my daughter.

Melissa - posted on 05/17/2010

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I've been buying Mother's Day cards for the inlaws for years. It would have been weird for me not to do so suddenly just because I'm a mom now. Then again, I don't celebrate many holidays. My hubby bought me a video game and we had a nice dinner. For me, it was an awesome day!

Chrissy - posted on 05/17/2010

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We gave her a card, but that was it, we spent the day together just my husband, the baby and me. I hear ya though, that's how my inlaws are...

Patty - posted on 05/16/2010

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Jodie,
I think it all depends on how close the child and step mom is. Also how much she did for the child in question regardless if the step mom came into the kids when they was in there teens. I tell you what and not meaning to sound mean, I myself and normally do not tell people I am a step mom to 3 of the kids I have listed here, If for some reason when my step kids have kids, It would a fend me if I did not recieve at the least a phone call for mothers day. I am so close to my step children and I will not let anyone take that away from me. And if they or the grandkids every that they have say that I am nothing to them I would really cry.

Nikkole - posted on 05/15/2010

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hi. it was my first mothers day too! we went to the zoo bc mothers and baby got in free. it sucks that your MIL is like that. we got my mom and his mom both cards and we gave them grandma mothers day cards from are little girl. but we didnt spend the day with them.

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Jodie, If you want to do something with your babes then I would ditch the husband to his selfish momma and go out w/your babe and do something for just you guys! My first mothers day my son, 10mos @ the time, and I went out for lunch, just the two of us. The next year I took him to the park and took a picture of him, walgreens offered a free 8X10 w/frame that yr, so we had that pic put in w/a HAPPY MOTHERS DAY frame for my present (free, just his price ;) ), last year we had cake and my son insisted upon candles, as every cake should have candles? I of course made the cake :) So every year was me doing something for me from my kids :) This year was kinda nice, minus the jerk my husband was in the AM, when my son made me a picture on his own accord and my other son played me a song :) It gets better! Since it is usually about kids doing something for their momma it isn't really surprising to me that the elder mothers would expect more then the newbies, especially w/children of such young ages! So, prepare yourself for next year since now you know what you want, and have an idea of what to expect ;)

Ofalaine - posted on 05/14/2010

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Oh you know what they say mothers will be mothers!!! I Know how you feel because It was my first mothers day but my dad wanted everything to be centered on my mom!! Its okay I know shes my mother but it didnt seem like a big deal to them. However for my mom I just made her treats and my mother In law who stays in Italy I sent her a E-card!!! You did what I would do as long I just did acknowledge that it wa mothers day and you know said happy mothers day to her!!! :D

Jodie - posted on 05/12/2010

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Erin, I think the gifts you got from your kids are perfect! How cute.

It actually didnt occur to me that I would recieve a gift (I got a dvd nontheless), my "thing" was having my first mothers day with just my babies. I would celebrate alone if he wanted to go to his moms. Personally, I just wanted some family time to myself since MIL is over quite a bit and can be very much the center-of attention. She also got dinner for mothers day-- on sat. Getting a grandparents card from the babies is a good idea and appropriate, but NOT a mothers day card from the babies. I feel that should be reserved pour moi. Thanks everyone for your responses!

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I think it is pretty selfish to ignore our mothers on mothers day just because we are now mothers. I haven't seen my mom on mothers day since I moved out 8 yrs ago...its been even longer since we've seen my MIL on that day so I've never had to share, but then again, I wouldn't mind. If it wasn't for them we wouldn't be here! If my MIL lived near by and my husband was "forced" to go over there to spend mothers day with her I wouldn't care! He's not my child! I don't need him to celebrate mothers day with my babies! Actually, the last 2 yrs he never celebrated with our son and I, I suppose he did get to eat cake with us last yr...This year was the first he ever did anything for me on that day, after being a total dick he cleaned the house! Of course after him being a total dick I deserved SOMETHING! I figure when my boys are older they will push their dad to help them do something for me that day, but whether I get store bought presents or just hugs and kisses I'm happy with that! My 3 yr old drew me a picture and my 7 mos old played me a song on a recorder...that was enough for me :)

Jodie - posted on 05/12/2010

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as a mum i know we dont get a lot of thankyous for all the work ect we do so i think mothers day is a good day to thank mums and grandmas for everything. if your MIL comes over and helps u out a lot i think u should say thanks on mothers day on tthe other hand if she comes over and is a pain in the bottom and doesnt help your family out then u need to get your hubby to sit her down and tell her she is anoying and not to come over so often in a nice way. we can abuse the use of MIL and grandmas i think. u can always pretend the following sunday is mothers day for just u and lock the door if she comes over.

Angela - posted on 05/11/2010

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I gave my MIL a grandmothers card for mother's day. I gave my mother an actual mother's day card. I dont see anything wrong with giving my MIL a mother's day card whether it be from my boys or from my husband and myself because she is my husband's mother. She deserves to be acknowledged as well. But Im lucky with my MIL because she doesnt intefere with our lives and wouldnt consider intruding if we wanted mother's day to be just us.

Lindsay - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have a MIL similar except she never comes over! She thinks she is the center of attention also. We have really distanced ourselves from them to heal our heart ache of the pain they have caused. We moms have the right to enjoy and relish in our Day also.

Jennifer - posted on 05/11/2010

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I am with you. I had to buy the card and come up with the heartwarming photo book for my MIL. Then I had to go over there to present it to her. What did I get for Mothers Day, a book all about how my child will behave badly and be a terror basically until I am old and dying before he appreciates me. Then on our way home I was asked by my hubby "whats for dinner?" I am now officially on strike and no longer taking care of remembering his mother and father and sister for every holiday and occasion.

Kristen - posted on 05/11/2010

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I totally understand what you are saying. My husband HAD to go to his mother's on Mothers Day so we went after having brunch with my family. It was all about her and nothing about my first mother's day as a mom. She didn't even wish me a Happy Mother's day. We had to buy her a gift too! I took offense to that since it was my first and I spent all it celebrating everyone else! I say, Oh well to your husband's side of the family...they will just need to get over it! I think next year, I am going to stay home and enjoy my day and if anyone wants to see me, they can go out of there way to come see me.

Bridget - posted on 05/11/2010

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We celebrated my mothers day on Saturday. My husband was great and really did some special things for me. Sunday we celebrated Mothers Day with my Mom and family and also my Step Mothers Birthday. I dont have a problem with celebrating mothers day with grandmothers. I also sent my mother in law a card from the family, they live out of state. What I do have a problem with is that my husbands step mother has always insisted on celebrating mothers day with them, even though she is a step mother and came into their lives relatively late (in their teens). Since we arent in the same state we didnt have the pressure of celebrating with her, but I also did not send her a card or gift. I just dont think its appropriate.

Jodie - posted on 05/11/2010

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Betty, that is really horrible. Im sorry your MIL acts like that, but it is certainly through no fault of yours and she is the one missing out.



I would not give her another penny. If anyone is to be dolling out money, it should be her!

Betty - posted on 05/11/2010

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Hi Jodie, I do understand. If it was my mother, I would've got a mother's day card for her from both me and my daughter. As I have the greatest mum in the world. Unfortunately she passed away in 2007 and never got to see my daughter.



But my MIL on the other hand is not a very nice person and she invited all my husband's brothers and sisters to a mother's day lunch except for us just because she's in love with money.



My husband was giving her 100 dollars each week for the last two years. And I just lost my job last week, my husband said to her that we just can't afford it right now as we have a daughter to look after and since then, she's refused to talk to us. My daughter was very sick a few days ago and my husband tried to ring her and she didn't pick up and never called us back.



My husband is very upset over this. He always said that my family are so much better than his. Honestly when he tells me what he went through as a child I was in tears. His mum made him go and make money at the age of 10. He was collecting bottles, old newspaper and sell them to make money to feed his mother. I don't understand why she couldn't have just got off her lazy a$$ to go get a job. She's never worked a day in her life and always made her kids support her.

Patricia - posted on 05/10/2010

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I agree with you... my MIL will not receive a mother's day card from my daughter or any other children we may have in the future... thats not their mother. And I agree... if ppl think thats selfish... than they can include me in too. Because Oh well to them!!

Kellie - posted on 05/10/2010

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I didn't give them a card from my baby but from our family as a whole. We gave cards to our moms and our grand mothers...so my son's great grand mothers. They're all important and lead us to be who we are today so honoring them for mother's day is important to us. But since you made time for them both I still don't see the reason why they'd be upset, oh well...I guess?

Jodie - posted on 05/10/2010

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Yes, we did something for our moms-- my own mother was supose to be in town, but had to cancel visit due to sickness. She will be here this weekend. My hubby took babies out to dinner with his mom/dad on sat night-- I was working so couldnt go. So yes, there should not be a problem with sunday being a day for just us, however it did, Im think, hurt my MIL. But it cant be all about her all the time, and I wanted mothers day too myself. As for a card... no, I am not and will not give her one from the babies; she is not their mom. Just another thing from his side of the family to annoy me. And if that sounds selfish, oh well I guess...

Patricia - posted on 05/10/2010

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I know exactly what you mean!!!

I see no problem in spending ur day with ur kids... without their grandparents. There is a grandparents day throughout the year... thats their day! (USA = 1st sunday after labour day & Canada = 2nd sunday in september & UK = 1st sunday in october).

I think there always seems to be more difficulty with the spouses family, because we are always more willing to speak up to our own family.

This was my first mother's day as well. Unfortunately, I didn't get to spend it at all in the way I had hoped. But in the end, my day was inadequate, for the best of my daughter (My daughter had to see a specialist in the city that my MIL lives, so we had to stay at the in-laws... we spent the morning there, before leaving to come home... and my mom was at our house, taking care of our dogs, so we spent a bit of time, before driving her home).

My MIL received a gift from my husband... but had NOTHING to do with me or my daughter! Just as the gift I gave my mom, had nothing to do with him or my daughter.

Bounderies have to be made. They had their family... and we're grateful, because without them, we wouldn't have our families... but these are ours... they've had their special mother's days... now its time to pass along the torch! So we can have ours!

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