eating cigarette buds help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jaime - posted on 09/16/2010

Is this a prank conversation? I mean it can't seriously be for real.

Lisa, are you actually suggesting that it's not your responsibility to move the ash tray out of reach of your baby because you're more interested in proving your boyfriend wrong, than considering the health and well being of your child? This situation has a simple solution...enroll yourself in some parenting classes.

Oh, and tell your dickhead boyfriend to smoke the fuck outside!

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Kylie, the rest of us that have commented here KNOW it's his responsibility to move the ash tray and we've never said it wasn't but what we don't condone is Lisa insisting she teach him a lesson at the expense of her son's well-being. He is wrong intially but by her leaving the ash tray to make a point, makes her just as wrong as him, if not more.

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You can't even get him to move a damn ash tray so your baby won't EAT cigarette butts BUT you want us to offer you advice on how to get him to quit? Good luck with that! Like some of the other ladies have already suggested, you need to insist that, if nothing else, he smokes outside of the home. He shouldn't have any contact with your daughter after he smokes until he's changed his clothes, washed his hands etc. I think you seriously need to re-evaluate your situation.

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P.S. Talk to a doctor about how to quit. There are plenty of different methods he can try.

Brandi - posted on 09/22/2010

Anyone who smokes shouldn't be around children and definitely should not smoke in the home. There are studies out there now about third hand smoke which is found in carpets, fabrics in the home and on your clothes and can be transferred to the baby. So its not just the second hand smoke you should be worrying about. They did studies where they tested children who weren't exposed to second hand smoke but their parents smokes and they could detect the toxins from the cigarette smoke in the children from just contact with the parents.
If your fiance doesn't think it is a problem leaving his cigarette butts around and smokes in your house then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship... the health of you and your child should matter to him and he should make an effort to stop! Why be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about your child?

Jennifer - posted on 09/19/2010

All I can say is poor, poor baby ... Some people never get it.

Kylie - posted on 09/18/2010

i am a mum of 3 yr old twin girls & 11 mth boy. i am a smoker as well. there is no way that i smoke in the house and my ashtray is a tin that is high out of reach when they are outside. it seems to me that your partner has no issue with your child eating cigarette butts so therefore it is his responsibility as well to make sure that it is out of reach. please knock some sense into him as he is just as much to blame for this. i think that if he is the only smoker then he should be more carefull. us mothers don't have eyes in the back of our head . kylie

Kathy - posted on 09/17/2010

its things like this that make me wish I had taken pics of my mom when she was on life support because she couldn't breath with her COPD because of her smoking. As a mom I could never let my child go through this, unfortunately her daddy smokes too, but only outside and really very rarely unless he's at work. He's been trying to quit, but not having much luck, but we both agreed for her that there will be NO smoking in our home, and if I was in your shoes I'd put my foot down and not allow smoking in your home.

Jaime - posted on 09/17/2010

And just to clarify Lisa, I do not think you are a bad parent...I think you are extremely misguided. The reason I feel this way is because you have come onto a public information site, that caters to the support and advice of new and veteran moms all across the world to ask us all why your boyfriend is such a fucknut. I am sure your baby is wonderful and I'm sure you are doing the best you can, but perhaps (as has already been mentioned), you need to re-evaluate your situation if you can't figure out what to do about a friggin ashtray!

Jaime - posted on 09/17/2010

Good fucking God! It's not that difficult to tell someone "hey, could you mind NOT smoking your disgusting, poisonous, cancer-inducing cigarette around my child?". If you don't want your boyfriend smoking around your child, then tell him he has to smoke outside. If you want him to quit, tell him that and if he doesn't then the onus is on you to figure out where you need to be so that your baby isn't breathing in toxic smoke all day long! And I still say you should enroll in some parenting classes, because if nothing else they can provide you with counsel on these types of issues. Your boyfriend needs to stop being a douchebag and give a shit already!

Raquel - posted on 09/17/2010

I agree with all these ladies! You want him to quit but he's not going to quit unless he wants to. So suggest he smoke NO WHERE NEAR your baby! The second hand smoke is more dangerous than anything. Maybe you should leave the sorry bastard if your child's well being isn't a priority to him.

Sarah - posted on 09/17/2010

If only your boyfriend could spend ONE DAY in a hospital with people suffering from lung cancer, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease & a TON of other conditions associated with smoking those NASTY THINGS. I've worked in a hospital & I've seen it all. One of our patients was a man who smoked for years & now he can't even bend over to put his shoes on without gasping for air. I know not everyone who smokes ends up this way, but why in the WORLD even take the chance? Statistics show that smoking causes sooooo many problems, not to mention the second hand smoke that you and your child are inhaling. You need to tell him to get some help with quitting or never allow him to smoke around your child again. EVER.

Anne Marie - posted on 09/17/2010

he should smoke outside to start with........... and of course he should not be leaving his ashtray laying around but it only takes two seconds to pick it up and be sure your baby is safe........

Lisa - posted on 09/17/2010

i did pu the damn ash tray up. and i am not a bad mom and i did movethe damn ashtray im justsaying he shouldnt be smoking around my baby 2 begin with any ideas on how 2 get him 2 quit?

Tiffany - posted on 09/16/2010

Agreed with everyone else. While its true that you didnt put it there, we arent in first grade anymore, there is no my mess- his mess when it comes to the safty of YOUR CHILD! If its such an issue throw the damn thing away and tell him to go outside. Dont let your kid get sick because you want to act like a baby and make a point to somebody. Be an adult for once.

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Thank goodness I'm not the only one, Kellie. ACK!

Lisa, your child's health is more important than being right. MOVE THE FUCKIN ASHTRAY! My goodness. Grow up!

Kellie - posted on 09/16/2010

It is your responsibility as his mother to move it before he gets to it. This whole situation makes me sick to even think about.

Lisa - posted on 09/16/2010

for 1 its not my responsiblilty to move it if he didnt leave it out in the babys reach then he would have never gotten it. my son is very smart

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I'm confused? Why can't you move it? YOU are responsible for your child....if he's not willing to move it, you need to. It's not about controlling your fiance or teaching him a lesson.....it's about protecting your lil' one. PLEASE move the damn ash tray!

Lisa - posted on 09/16/2010

tell him that hes hard headed and dont get it i just found my baby chewing on a cigarette:(

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Put the damn ash tray where the kid can't get it!