HOW can I make my child have a bedtime schedule??

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I have a 8 months old baby boy and... I just need to say that the longest he sleeps is 12ish am - 6 or 7 am!! and he wakes up at least once during that time!! please help!!! we give him a bath, and try to put him to sleep around 9pm and he will sleep for like 30 minutes and wake up screaming and crying... we already tried letting him cry..not working! we tried putting him back to sleep... wakes up again!! we have already took him to bed with us so when he falls sleep we take him back to his bed... wakes up if all this is before midnight!! I am desperate!! sleep deprived and now even my neck hurts!! PLEASE HELP!!


Natasha - posted on 04/04/2011




I would personally think firstly if he is awake at 6 or 7 in the mornign bed time should be closere to 7 or 8pm otherwise they get over tired.

Also making sure they get adequate naps during the day. (i know that you are having trouble with sleep so i know its not easy for me to say)

Is he having 2 or 3 naps a day?

In 24hours they require around 14-15hours of sleep.

His problem could be that he is just constantly overtired. If he isnt hungry or in pain etc i would think over tired...

Make sure he is having adequate sleep during the day.

could you try getting in a nap so he wakes 2-3hours(depending on how long he usally stays awake for) before his bed time?

My son wakes from his last nap 3.30 and is in bed 7-7.15.

I hope you resolved the problem soon...


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Chairettie - posted on 04/22/2011




Wow, you have to be exhausted. It sounds like he is also not getting enough sleep - have you asked your Doc about possible concerns - ear infection, is he teething and uncomfortable and not able to sleep? I hope you are able to get this resolved soon Sathya - and you definately need to see maybe a chiropractor and if you are against them at least get a massage to help with the tension your likely carrying in your back as well as your neck.

Gwen - posted on 04/19/2011




I did have these problems with me daughter, it was because she was not sleeping enough during the day you'll have to make sure he gets 3 hrs during the day and get him in bed earlier and just keep settling if need be and make sure hes very full when he goes down, its hard but it does calm down.

Nirjari - posted on 04/14/2011




Not everyone agrees with ferberising and that's fine. whatever you are comfortable with is good. I was against it too but after reading up on it and hearing other peoples thoughts on it, it seemed not too bad. And to be honest my kids have done really well. I now feel they are in a much better mood having slept the night from about 7.45-6.
Always do what you feel is right. I was definitely not promoting ferberising.

Tamara - posted on 04/14/2011




I totally understand your frustration, my little girl has never slept for more than 4 hours at a time. However that said, and I think I am in the minority here saying this but babies are supposed to wake up a few times, its normal! Please research before you 'ferberise' It is NOT good for the babies! They cry for a reason.

Nirjari - posted on 04/13/2011




I have twin boys and know exactly how you are feeling, just double it! Don't worry. We actually ended up trying the ferber method and the first day they cried and so did I. But by day 3 they would fall asleep themselves at 7.45pm in their crib and then if they woke up through the night would just look around and fall asleep by themselves. But you have to be really strong to do it. My husband was great and did most of the ferberising. Trust me it does work. We also found that if they don't get their naps during the day they don't sleep well at night. My boys sleep for 1 hour at 9am and then for 2 hours at 1pm. Try sticking to a routine and he will soon get use to it and you will get some well deserved rest!

Lauren - posted on 04/12/2011




Come up with a schedule that works and stick to it. Do the same thing every day and he will eventually learn when its bedtime and when its day time. We started my son on a schedule at 3 weeks old and he has slept through the night (7pm-7am) since he was 1.5 months old. What we do with him is:
Wake up 7am with bottle
9-jar of baby fruit then nap
11-(ish) he wakes up
2-jar stage 3 baby food then nap
4- wake up from nap and get bottle
6- jar stage 3 baby food
7- bottle then bed for the night.

Thats what we do with him now. When he was younger and didnt eat baby food and I still nursed him it was different, but bed time has always been 7pm.

Tonia - posted on 04/12/2011




my daughers now 8 months old and we'd struggle with her sleep loads but we had to almost force her to nap during the day (cuddle her to sleep - she wont CIO) but we usuallly get up at 7am ish and then she has breakfast and a bottle and naps again around 9am-10/11am, then is up for a bit has lunch and another bottle, then has another nap at about 1/2pm ish for an hour ish.. then up for the afternoon, has her dinner at 5pm ish and bathed at 6pm and a bottle before she goes to bed at 7pm ish (and usually sleeps through now...

Jill - posted on 04/07/2011




My daughter use to be the same way. But now she sleeps almost 10 hours straight, if not more. She gets up around 6-7 and eats nap aound 10:30 for about 45-60 minutes bottle when she wakes up and dinner around 12, another nap around 2 for the same amount of time bottle after nap and then sometimes if she seems sleepy around 5:30-6 I put her down again for just a little nap, she usually doesn't sleep longer then 20 minutes. Around 7pm she eats, give her a bath, read her a story and put her down for bed around 8-8:30. That is how my daughters schedule kind of it, but then again its easy for me to keep a scheduled routine down pretty good because I'm very luck to be a stay at home mom. I hope bed time goes better for your son so you can get some sleep. Remember just change a few little things at first, don't change everything at once. Oh and another thing that helped our daughter fall asleep easier is we play soft lullaby music with no words and give her a silk feeling blanky that has a teddy bear head on it. She snuggles right in with that thing is to sleep in no time!

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when he wakes up at 6-7am he nurses and sometimes goes back to sleep, sometimes wakes up and goes back to sleep around 9am. he's nap is between 11-12 and another one around 4. he just sleeps like 30-60 minutes and then he wakes up.

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