3 Weeks Old: Breastfeeing Question

Samantha - posted on 12/05/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )




Breastfeeding, but my fiance wants to take me out for the night...What do i do, I am currently not pumping...PLEASE HELP


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I personally would take my newborn with me and hold off on the bottle as long as possible. Can you have a date night at home?


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Shannon - posted on 02/18/2012




Stick to breastfeeding me and fiancé go out all the time with baby just bring your cover...the breast milk will knock lo right out anyway :)

Abby - posted on 02/17/2012




We had our first date night at 5 days old. At this age including 3 weeks old they'll sleep in the car seat while you have a wonderful date with your fiance.

You can do some research first and locate a nice restuarant that perhaps has private type booths or rooms so if you need to feed you can. Alternatively some restuarants have nice lounge chairs or benches in the bathroom and you can feed in there as well and ask the waiter to hold the course.

Enjoy each of your favorite people and a nice night out. Hope that helps.

GISELLE - posted on 02/13/2012




Either take baby w you, or pump if you're trying to stay away from giving formula. My son was given formula along w breastfeeding for the first five days of his life, and refused formula since! When my milk supply was adjusting, i had an oversupply and managed to pump and store some extra milk, and always kept a few bottles of breastmilk in the fridge for anyone else who wanted to feed him. However, he's 3.5 months old now and has decided that he wont even take breastmilk from a bottle, from anyone, EVEN if I'm not home...so if you want the option of someone else being able to feed him expressed breastmilk or even formula, don't be afraid to offer bottle. If you only give occasionally, you shouldn't have any issues w nipple confusion.

Susannah - posted on 12/17/2011




From the comments I've seen and people I've talked to, the best time to give baby pumped milk is before 3 months. Not all the time - but if you wait till after that stage, they'll often refuse a bottle - which means that you're stuck with them 24/7 until you stop breastfeeding or they self wean. Nothing wrong with that, but what if you need to go to the dentist or an important appointment on your own?

My first daughter had bottle and breast from birth, since it hurt too much to feed her at first. She was fine with both. However I know of quite a few mums who waited till they were ready to go back to work and suddenly discovered their 6 month old would simply refuse the bottle.

Also remember - babies are more likely to take a bottle off a stranger than their mummy, because with mummy they can smell the milk and know what they're missing! =)

Juriaguria - posted on 12/15/2011




Definitely agree w/ the consensus, either take the baby with you or try formula. I recently cancelled on an outing (first outing since baby was born on 11/22) because I tried pumping too late and didn't have enough. My letdown is perfect and somewhat bothersome when triggered by him, but the letdown function on breast pump doesn't really work for me... anyway, I plan on going out for a few hours tomorrow night and have been successfully pumping. If I couldn't pump, I would sadly cancel. I wouldn't want to run the risk of baby not taking to formula.

I occasionally pump for relief, I then save the milk so his father can feed him and bond with him. I am not concerned at all about nipple confusion as some others have mentioned. We don't do it that much and honestly, I'd rather give my boyfriend the opportunity to bond than worry about him not wanting my boob (pretty much impossible as my son is a little piggie).

I wish I could offer more advice but I'm a first time mom on my third week of breastfeeding. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 12/12/2011




There's certainly a few options for you...

A) Take your little one with you. Chances are, they will fall asleep in the car, and remain asleep for at least a while while you're there. If you're comfortable feeding in public, you can, or, if you're uncomfortable (like myself) bring a boppy or other pillow with you and excuse yourself to the car for a few minutes. Your fiance will understand!

B) You could pump, and leave your child with a sitter, and have them fed with breastmilk. If you choose to do that, be sure to give him/her a bottle with breastmilk before you go, as a trial run, to make sure they will take the bottle.

C) You could try formula (and either take them with you or leave them with a sitter). Again, make sure your little one will take it first - my daughter was born 11/11/11, and will NOT drink formula! We had tried to supplement one night (I had drank coffee that morning, and she was awake for HOURS, so I thought we'd try some formula before bed) and you'd have thought I was trying to poison her! She made a face, turned her head, and WAILED! That was our one and only attempt with formula, lol!

My other question would be if you were concerned about actually taking them with you or if it was because you planned on having a drink or two with dinner or something. My doctor told me (and I've read in a few places) that one drink is 'nearly' untraceable in breastmilk. For each additional drink, plan on allowing 2 hours until it's out of your system (IE: 3 drinks X2 hours each = 6 hours until the alcohol is out of your system.) Also, from what I understand, there is no need to 'pump and dump' (unless you get physically uncomfortable), as the milk will NOT contain it after those 6 hours are up either way. So you could have 3 drinks at 9pm, and be ok to breastfeed again at 3am, whether or not you've 'pumped n dumped'.

Hope that helps! Enjoy your night out, you deserve it! :)

MONIKA - posted on 12/12/2011




If you plan on bfeeding for many many months I would not introduce a bottle. I just had my third daughter 11-11-11 and although I was 40 weeks she came out as a preemie and after 2 1/2 weeks they admitted my baby in the hospital as a failure to thrive. now im forced to feed her out of a bottle breastmilk and formula and I am only allowed to breast feed twice a day. She has massive nipple confusion and breast feeding is a struggle. I pray for the day I get to soley breast feed her, its a much better bond and you never have to worry about having clean bottles or formula or enough pumped breast milk when you go out. They make fantastic covers at bebe au lait-hooter hiders.

Karen - posted on 12/07/2011




Just take bubs with you if your comfortable feeding in public. i'm going out for dinner with friends on the weekend and plan to take my 5 week old with me. I personally don't want to even try my daughter on the bottle just incase she becomes attached to it and doesn't want me to feed her anymore.

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