Am I nuts doing her wash

Linda - posted on 05/16/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Ok my "freshman" daughter comes home last friday my house looks like it threw up!! And I am doing her wash and picking up after her. She has done this on her own, so why????? Am I the only mom who think that this refilled nest is bitter sweet ♥ I love having her home and sh edoes have a job and did great in school her 1st year YAY. But part of me says I am not your slave, but th eother part loves being needed again I being foolish?
I hear some moms say their kids drifted so sad. Thankfully mine is still my baby I hope this never changes.
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Penny - posted on 07/18/2010




I have learned the hard way. every since my daughter way young I always picked up after her and did everything for her. I never gave her any responsibilities such as chores.Now at the age of 21 when she come over I find myself picking up after her,and then I tell her that if she wants to spend the night she WILL be picking up after herself and the baby.I don't do this to mean but because I love her and it is her time now to show me respect in my home .She has a son now that she is raising and I have told her that someday she will be making Carter picking up after himself and doing chores.She agrees.She also says,"I wish that I had more responsibility when i was younger." I regret not giving her more responsibility because I felt like it was my job because I was the mother don't feel that way let your child/young adult GROW UP!!!

Ellen - posted on 07/16/2010




Why are you picking up after her? Why are you doing her laundry... as long as you continue to do it for her, she will let you!!!! Set some boundaries!!!

Anne - posted on 07/12/2010




Our daughters are 22 and 26 and living on opposite coasts. We live and they were born and raised in MI. when our daughters were coming home from college or the year our oldest daughter lived in an apartment and had to pay to do her laundry, I would do their laundry. I was not working due to health issues but I was still able to get around enough to do this for them.

2 things here.
1 Set some boundaries of what you will and will not do for your daughter and what you expect her to do.

2. If this arraignment works for you then more power to you.

I still do the mending for my daughters when they do get back to MI or at Christmas when we are all in CO together.

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