Has anyone wanted to find out the gender, but couldn't? Or didnt want to?

Maranda - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




I went in for an ultra sound to find out my baby gender, but didnt. Me and my husband both wanted to know, badly!! The baby was curled up in a ball, and they couldn't find out for sure. Hopefully at our next appointment we will know.

If this happen to you, how many times?? Or did you not find out at all. Or did you decided you didn't want to know?


April - posted on 06/04/2010




I'm sorry to hear that your baby was being uncooperative! I can't say we had that problem... Our little man was all kinds of egar to show mommy and daddy that he was a little boy.

My friend had three ultrasounds to finally get her son to sit still and show what he was... She said from talking to other mommies with similar issues, 3 times seems to be the avg charm... Many found out on the second time around...

It also depends on your ultrasound tech... most are willing to sit and get the baby to move certain ways to get a glimpse... I've been told by our ultrasound tech that it's the best choice to be either the first appointment of the day, or the last appointment of the day, because they can usually spend longer if they need to, to get your lil baby to move into the right positions.

Also, my tech told us that to make our appointments for ultrasounds around the times that he is most active so that during the ultrasound he's moving... and to bring and try anything that gets him/her moving... ie drinking cold water/pop, laughing, turning to one side or the other...

You should try to see how you can get your lil baby to move so that way you are better prepared next time at the appointment.

Don't worry, it's all trial and error most times, this is our first and most things we are finding out along the way, and other things we are picking up from other mommies and daddies to be.


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Kacey - posted on 10/17/2011




**UPDATE** My fiance & Best Friend threw me a surprise shower, while I was at the shower my fiance had a professional painter come in and paint our nursery! He then put the crib set on the crib and placed a few gifts in the crib that he got for the Baby. He brought me home to pink & blue rose petals leading from the front door to the Baby's room. I opened the door to see a PINK nursery!! We are having a GIRL!!! It was the best way to find out and such a surprise he really took my breath away with this one!

Ashley - posted on 09/24/2011




With my first, my husband and I both wanted to know, and found out we were having a boy around 18wks. With my second, my husband wanted to know, and I didn't. He had the tech tell him in another room, and then bought all sorts of stuff during my pregnancy and surprised me with it after we had our second boy :) This time around neither of us want to know, I can not wait to find out at the birth :D

Kacey - posted on 09/24/2011




We have decided to let it be a surprise at birth! Like an extra Christmas present for everyone! It's is hard! But everyone I know who has waited has said it is well worth the wait and in the moment of birth such a wonderful surprise!

Danielle - posted on 09/22/2011




I didn't want to know but my ex husband did. He told everyone what we were having. My sister accidently let it slip to me.

Erin - posted on 07/08/2010




I only had one ultrasound with mine and was quite disappointed when the tech wasn't able to find out: and in general with how rude she was that the baby wasn't co-operating. I was also a bit discouraged because even though I had wanted to know the sex and Dad hadn't, he thought he was able to see a penis and got quite excited about us having a boy: where as I had a strong feeling it was a girl and was disappointed I didn't get my expected confirmation. Somehow I felt like it was proof I wasn't able to bond with the baby while in the womb, or that maybe I wouldn't be able to as well as I had hoped afterwards. Either way I think I put way too much pressure on the idea that I had to know. We never did have another ultrasound and by the time it came for the baby to be born I was quite happy with the idea that it was a surprise.
In the end it turns out another ultrasound wouldn't have been a bad idea, as we had a surprise breech baby girl.
I have been wondering now if I have another child will I want to know again... or will I be happy leaving it a secret as I ended up really enjoying the anticipation and mystery of it.

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On all my ultrasounds on all four of my boys they were very eager to flash their bits at us lol. On this baby I could make out plainly what he was before the tech told us.

Amy - posted on 06/30/2010




Just an update, on the second try, we found out it was a girl. My midwife had issues getting the baby in the right position so she called in a Ultrasound Tech who happen to be around then, and then a second ultrasound Tech to verify one more time. Good luck at your next try!

Amy - posted on 06/08/2010




With our first child we had one shot, our dr was only doing the ultrasound to find the gender. He actually "guessed" it was a girl, but there were no clear shots. I felt like I knew it was a boy so we just waited for him to be born.

This time around, I had an ultrasound done at just about 21 weeks, (We even had a 3D/4D really good machine) and couldn't find out the gender. Our little one wouldn't stop moving and only stayed somewhat still when we had 3D turned on for the face. We will get another chance at all the dr's apts if we wish, but it will be on a much older machine. we are still hoping to find out, but I don't want to try more than two more times.

Good luck!! Some babies are just stubborn!

Rebecca - posted on 06/08/2010




My first baby was very uncooperative, never knew for sure what she was. But my second which is a boy was very willing to show his stuff...lol, so good luck to you.

Ashleigh - posted on 06/08/2010




My little one had its legs crossed and the umbilical cord down there. The u/s tech sounded really sure that it is a boy but it is clear in the pics that it is the umbilical cord, she gave me 4 pics of down there and 3 look like umbilical cord and the 4th looks like the 3 lines of a girl. So can't wait for tomorrow! Follow up u/s, hopefully we can finally finish the debate of boy vs. girl!!!

Amber - posted on 06/07/2010




That's happened alot with Brooke. Finally at 21 weeks they could tell because she finally stoped kicking so much.

Ashlee - posted on 06/05/2010




I actually found out at 16 weeks that I was having a little girl. They don't tell you until 20 weeks, but I was having an ultrasound and they could already tell and asked if I wanted to know. They did say though that it was really early, not to go out and buy pink stuff yet because it could still turn out to be a boy. Then at 20 weeks, different doctors confirmed that it was definately a girl. My dad says "Yeah, unless he's hung like a mouse!" Haha but a friend of mine went in to find out and they told her it was a boy, but sounded really unsure of it. Then she went back in and the umbillical cord was in the way, and then the third time they confirmed it a girl. If they tell you it's a boy, 99% of the time they are right, it's when they tell you it's a girl, that you have all those stories of pushing the baby out and it ending up a boy! I think my second time around I want it to be a suprise :] Good luck!

Jane - posted on 06/04/2010




i find out. i want to know. try eating little chocolates so the baby will move around next time.

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