Feeling very guilty about my baby falling.

Neha - posted on 05/01/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Today my baby fell down from stairs because of my negligence. Though she is fine, I m feeling extremely guilty. Does anyone else feels guilty when something like this happens??

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Jacqui - posted on 04/29/2014

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When my daughter was 5 weeks old (she is now 13 ) i put her in her car seat on top of the hob - it was turned off or so i thought... I smelt burning plastic to find her seat was melting and she was still in it!!!
I was stricken with guilt at what could of happened but didnt. Three weeks later she got slight sun burn on her tummy on a hazy summers day - I now have 4 children and they all have a story or 2 that they like to remind me of!!
... these things happen mostly with no lasting effects, remember your new at this so try not to give yourself a hard time - you wont make the same mistake again.

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Nicole - posted on 07/28/2017

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I know these posts were 7 years ago but I'm a new mom to a 10 month old girl and I can't stop crying because I went to the bathroom while my daughter was asleep but I forgot the room door open. She woke up and fell off the bed, creeped to the staircase and fell all the way down and started screaming which is what caught my attention. I ran to her and instantly started crying myself. I checked to make sure all her limbs etc were good and they were however she has a bump on her forehead and I can't get over the thought that she fell down some stairs because of my carelessness. I feel like such a horrible mother because she's a really good baby and never fusses for anything. I hate having anything happen to her.

Genna - posted on 04/29/2014

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My 6 1/2 month has started sitting up but sometimes he will rock back and forth. Last night I walked into my kitchen to throw something in the trash and heard a loud bump. He had lost his balance and fell over and hit the side of his head on our glass & metal entertainment center. He cried instantly, we took him to the hospital where they told us he was fine but because it was later in the day to wake him up every 3-4 hours through the night. Well I had woke him up at 4 and he was very upset and did not want to go back to sleep alone so I put him in the bed with his father and myself. Right about 645 I woke up to a thump. I immediately knew. He had woke up to play & rolled away from him. I feel so horrible because I should have been paying more attention both times. My fiance keeps saying I'm a great mom accidents happen but I feel absolutely horrible. My son is fine & was playing after it happened but I am really beating myself up. Anyone advice to help with the guilt?

Lauren - posted on 05/14/2011

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My little guy (19 mos.) fell off the bottom step of the stairs a few weeks ago while visiting family- just walked off as though he didn't realize; landed face first on hard floor, busted his lip open- yikes. Bloody mess, but no real damage, and he was fine 2 minutes later. But I didn't feel better until his lip swelling went down the next day. Then, a couple days ago, he crashed off of our couch head first onto tile while we were eating dinner.I should have been watchi ng more closely, but we had company and I was negligent, plus someone was blocking my view. He cried for a minute and had a knot on his head for a day or so, but I felt horrible for not watching him/preventing it. Things happen, thankfully toddlers are pretty hard to break. Do the best you can and expect mistakes to happen.

Tarra - posted on 05/12/2011

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My partner was home with the kids one day and fell asleap on the couch, our son managed to get past the barrier we put up and he fell down the stairs. As long as your daughter is acting & eating as she normally does I wouldnt worry. Expect alot of bumps and bruises expecially once they start walking

Alesha - posted on 05/11/2011

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yes! i was on a walk with my 19 month old daughter last week and she wanted to get out her stroller and walk but when she wouldnt hold my hand i said she had to get back in and she decided to run and as soon as she did she tripped over a lift in the cement and caught her fall with her mouth. not a pretty picture and i felt so bad i may have cried more than her....she is fine now but i still feel horrible, i hate seeing my baby hurt

Mary - posted on 05/10/2011

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I do too. but all you can do is learn from it. don't beat your self up to much we all go through stuff like that. This past Christmas I made cookies and forgot to unplug my mixer before we left the house. I woke up the next morning with my daughter screaming bloody murder. She was fine. but I learned a lesson too.

Kelly - posted on 05/10/2011

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Don't be too hard on yourself! You're a mom, you can only do your best, not anticipate each and every little movement of your kid!! She's ok, that's what matters, and I'm sure it won't be the last time. I can't remember how many times I fell down the stairs as a kid...hope that's not why ;) Don't blame yourself, and don't let anyone else blame you!! Kids fall down, but they also bounce back!

Melissa - posted on 05/10/2011

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Aww dont feel bad these things happen time to time my daughter climbed onto her fathers weight bench and fell off head first onto weights on the floor that was a rush to the doctor shes also had a bleeding lip tooo from falling over u just have to comfort ur baby they arnt going to hold a gruge against u they prob dont even remember , just remember these things happen dont beat urself up about it

Jenn - posted on 05/01/2011

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My son (18m) fell off of the recliner we have- head first. I was a mess all day. He was fine, and didn't cry a single tear, but I did. Don't worry!!

Corrie - posted on 05/01/2011

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Of course we do. It's human nature. The first time they fall, bump, bite their lip, get a bruise or scratch or pick something dangerous up, we all feel like we should have done better. But it HAPPENS!!!!
It has to happen for them to learn.
And it's safe to say you will be more careful next time too!
No on is perfect, and it would be amazing if we all had eyes in the back of our head and x ray vision, but we dont.
My son nearly lost his eye because of an accident that could have been prevented but like your baby, he is totally fine. We learnt from it.
Don't worry, and it's GOOD to feel guilty sometimes. IT's part of who we all are to feel negative things occasionally.
Enjoy the good times.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/01/2011

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try not to be so hard on yourself...we ALL do dumb things and our children sometimes pay for them...I take it your child is very young...you have lots of time to make it up to her

Just do your best and know that nobody is perfect.

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