problem with men

Cassie - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Since my little girl back from her dads house the other week she seems to have gained a problem with strangers just men she's fine with women. When one comes near her she gets all panicky and starts hysterically crying and trying to climb up my legs and clings to me when we get a taxi she does the same then sits holding on to me as tightly as possible. It's just really confusing and was wondering what these are usually triggered by. Because before she'd always smile at men and wave to them it used to make me laugh how friendly she was

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Melanie - posted on 04/12/2011

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my baby adores her daddy but she is afraid of men. men who've been our friends for years. shes even been known to cry if a man especially with facial hair smiles at her. i will usually apologize and they tell me its ok. that they understand. i would think its fairly normal. she seems to be warming back up the the male friends we have and didnt get upset at her uncles birthday lunch the other day. she hasnt seen him in quite a while. so just be patient and wait it out. shell be fine

Emily - posted on 04/12/2011

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It could be the result of a dream, then. My daughter is almost 5 years old and still reacts "out of the norm" after she's had a bad dream. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but if she's talking in full sentences, I'd go straight to the source. Make her comfortable, then slowly bring up the topic and see if she'll open up to you about why she's suddenly afraid of men. There's a reason for it, I'm sure. Kids don't just "decide" to be afraid of things, there's always an underlying cause for it.

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Naomi - posted on 04/15/2011

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Babies go through stages. My girl only liked her daddy and was very weary of other men. My son was the same but with women.

Amy - posted on 04/13/2011

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Maybe she is associating being with her dad (a man), with being separated from you. She may be feeling a little separation anxiety and is expressing it when she sees a man. Watch for triggers and her behavior when it is time to visit her dad. Hopefully it is just a phase and she will grow out of it.

Amii - posted on 04/13/2011

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i wud keep a VERY close eye as this is her father, how old is she, i wud explain her feelings to a professional, maybe a health visitor or doctor

April - posted on 04/12/2011

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My daughter is 17 months old and most men scare her. she's even wary around her grandfather that we see every week. There is nothing that has caused it. it's just a phase. hopefully the same is true for your little girl. with some time i believe both our daughters will grow out of it.....just hopefully not too much...Im not looking forward to the dating years....

Joanne - posted on 04/12/2011

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I would be very concerned about it, this is def not the norm & would be worth looking into further.

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It could be TV. I developed the fear at about 3 after seeing some Soap Operas. It made high school really hard. I still have a problem with a lot of men. My husband is the only man that I haven't ever been afraid of.

Cassie - posted on 04/12/2011

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I asked him and he said nothing happened. She didn't react like that with any strangers with either him or his mum

Emily - posted on 04/11/2011

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Maybe she had a bad experience with her dad, or a male visitor that he had. It is a little odd that she's responding so hysterically, I would definitely bring it up next time you talk to him. Express your concern and ask what could've happened, don't start pointing fingers right off the bat or he'll get defensive. Just say you're concerned about how she's been acting around men since she came back to you. He should be able to help shed a little light and work with you towards resolving the problem.

Brianna - posted on 04/11/2011

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did something happen when she was with her dad? such as did she do something bad and he yelled at her and now shes scared or did he have friends over that scared her ect?

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