night feeds

Debbie - posted on 01/28/2011 ( 43 moms have responded )

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hi my little girl is just over four months and is still waking up for three or more feeds a night. She is still being breast feed as she wont take a bottle. My boys were sleeping through the night by three months, but they were on breast and bottle as I couldn't keep up with them. I really could do with a good nights sleep. I have tried breast milk in a bottle but she doesn't want it. Every time I leave her with my husband (trying to have a bath) she screams. I really need some sleep. Is there any one else going through the same thing and can anyone give me tips.

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Catarina - posted on 02/02/2011

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The WHO recommends only milk until 6 mo (cereals just after 6 mo). It's normal that a baby at 4mo wake up several times at night to eat (my baby does the same). We resolved the problem with co-sleeping that allow me to breastfeed her without wake up completely

Jacque - posted on 02/08/2011

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My daughter is 5 months old now and her doctor told me that if a baby is sleeping for a 5 hour stretch or longer at night that is considered sleeping through the night. My son didn't sleep through the night till 10 months so I know how difficult getting up at night can be...hang in there and make sure to take a "mental health break" for yourself as often as possible! (Examples: taking a hot bath...having your man watch the kids while you read a bit...even going to the grocery store kid-free is nice for me!)

Kristin - posted on 02/02/2011

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There are so many things I want to say. I'll limit it to, I'd recommend you look at how your baby's routine is during the day? Has she been sleeping through the night at all? I wouldn't suppliment during the day unless the waking is a new thing. like the WHO says most babies don't need anything other than breast milk until 6 months. A book called "on becoming babywise" might help. If you get your baby into good sleep-eat-play routines during the day she should sleep better at night. The main thing to remember is during the day the order should be sleep-then eat-then play. also make sure you put your baby into bed awake,otherwise when they wake up the wonder where you've gone, and it's hard for them to re-settle without you.

Joanne - posted on 02/02/2011

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my daugher was prem and is under a peadiatrican i saw him last week and he said the guide lines for weaning are being reviewed by the house of commons and changed back to the 4 month mark .my daughter was very small born (3lb 8oz ) and only took tiny amounts every hour so i know how hard it is this was even through the night .the doctor told me to give her solids throughout the day little and often as this lies heavier on the stomach than milk and she would get more calories thus sleeping more through the night she is five months now and has poridge for breakfast a dinner at 1 then her tea sweet potato and veg or something else at 6 before her bath and sleeps from 7 till about 5 or 6 a huge improvement and u should never ever feed any kind of rice in a bottle it s a choking hazard and will put baby off weaning with a spoon later on i hope this helps hun she s my 4th and i know how your feeling xxx

Okelola - posted on 02/02/2011

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am going through d same thing with my little girl. she refuse to take bottle. she is even loosing weight.

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Kim - posted on 02/14/2011

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I agree with the rice cereal in the bottle and try to get her comfortable with being with just your husband. They need bonding time and u need some ALONE relaxtion time! Its hard when the scream but if he works at it and makes it fun to be with daddy she will relax. Also soon she will be starting baby food and that should help! My son is 5 months and 22 pounds and wakes up to eat because he is just a hungry lil guy so once she starts baby food that helps too ;)

Gina - posted on 02/10/2011

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Don't worry my little girl just turned 5 months and still gets up twice during the night for feeding and she is breast and bottle fed. she also gets 2-3 solid meals during the day or early evening. Breast milk digest faster so she will get up more if she is hungry. Don't give up on offering her the bottle just keep trying even if it is only a little bit. it took awhile for my little girl to take the bottle so daddy could take care of her while I napped or took a shower. Also try napping when she goes down at her longest daytime nap. I know you want to do a million other things plus I do not know how old your boys are so napping maybe out of the question. You are not alone in this it will get better and keep trying you know what is best for your little girl

Niki - posted on 02/10/2011

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OMGosh, I am totally going thru the exact same thing. UGH! I am so sleepy all the time and in need of some relaxing shower/bath time. Not just the 5 minutes to get myself clean. My son is 20 week and only on breast milk and will NOT take a bottle, even if it has breast milk in it. And "IF" i can get him to sleep by 9pm (lets just say) then he is awake to eat at 11pm-ish, and 2am-ish and 5am-ish and 8am-ish. I feel so tired all the time!!!! I have feel for you totally but i hope it helps to feel better that your not alone. I just wish I had an answer as to how to get them to sleep thru the night. Sorry!

S_neff76 - posted on 02/10/2011

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My son is 5 months old and has been sleeping through the night since he was 6 weeks old he would start fussing in his bassinet before he "woke" up so I would give him his binky and he would fall right back to sleep it really worked for me but I'm not sure if your daughter takes a binky since she's breastfed

Victoria - posted on 02/10/2011

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Theres alot of debate as to whether you should wait to feed cereal until later. I don't recommend it if its just to help your baby sleep through the night. I'd say co-sleeping is your best bet. Also as someone suggested a size up diaper. Our BF babies do tend to wake for snacks and comfort more frequently. I co-sleep, pop my boob in his mouth and we're both back to sleep. I don't even know it happens anymore excpt he'll be on the oher side of me.

Pamela - posted on 02/09/2011

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Glad your getting more sleep. It will get better. I've been told that breastfeeding babies can be a bit more needy, but just try the different methods people recommend until something works. It usually takes about 3 days for adjustment.

Kan - posted on 02/09/2011

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My daughter is exclusively BFing too and she wakes that many times to eat too. A good nights sleep sounds amazing. I dont have much advice but Im right there with you.

Debbie - posted on 02/09/2011

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I would like to thank everyone for your advice. Tabitha now sleeps for about 4 hours a night. So I'm getting a little sleep which is making me a better mummy. She still screams the house down if she is left with anyone else, but now I'm getting some sleep I can cope with it better. thank you all again, your posts have helped xx

Jody - posted on 02/08/2011

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rice cereal isnt always the answer! my lil guy is 5months and still eating every 3-4hrs i finally stopped breast feeding and now doing formula, when bf he was doing 2-3hrs. my first son didnt sleep through the night till 8months some babes just do that i guess. it will come it seems like alot now. I know our doc isnt a fan of the crying it out and its recommended to wait till around 6months to do cereal. good luck

Sara - posted on 02/08/2011

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I'm actually going through the exact same thing. My daughter was born 9/27/10 and she is still breast fed and i'm the only one she seems to calm down for.... and she wakes up for 3 feeding at night... and it doesnt help my 16 month old isnt sleeping through the night anymore.. i miss sleep too... i plan on breast feeding as long as possible... so i just try to sleep during the day 20mins here or there... it seems to kinda help

Mandy - posted on 02/07/2011

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I know how u feel-my little man is nearly 5 months and still wants bout 4 feeds a night. I'm desperate for sleep too! We're lucky he does at least take a bottle so his last feed at bedtime is formula which ties him over a little longer. we use Avent bottles-the teats are lots of little holes instead of one to mimic breast feeding. Lets hope they get better at nighttime soon!

Deanna - posted on 02/07/2011

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Ladies we have to rememeber our babies are BABIES! we signed up for lack of sleep when we brought these tiny beautiful people into our lives. It will get better eventually. One day we will miss late night snuggles. Cherish your babies while they are still tiny, frequent feedings and all.

To help our son sleep longer without nursing as much he sleeps with dad on his side of the bed. So dad in the middle. That way he cant smell the boobie milk as well and such. As others mentioned its best to wait until 6 months + to introduce solids. Dont force babies to grow up girls! Take your time and dont rush things(like solids)!!

Shariem - posted on 02/06/2011

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My son is 5 months and he still wake up to feed every two to three times out the night but he is also bottle fed. I am not sure when does this pattern begin to change. I will have to do some research. Hang in there it will get better. :)

Shariem - posted on 02/06/2011

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My son is 5 months and he still gets up two to three times a night also but he is bottle fed.

Mary - posted on 02/06/2011

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hi i was in the same position that you were are in. i couldnt do anything when i was breast feeding my daughter, even going down to the shop she would scream until i was back. what i managed to do was to slowly introduce the bottle once a day with sometimes with my milk or even water. i know they say babies been feed by your milk dont need water but my daughter loved it now she take few onces a day . when my daughter got use to it i got my husband to fed her one night the bottle of my milk , the only thing is to not be in the same room as she will smell the milk of you.they are very cute when it comes to things like this. it took a few days but she got use to it and now since i stoped feeding here myself she loves the bottle especially the night feed she snuggles into me as she feeds still loves the closeness. its just a matter of trying everything. there is bottle tits out there that are ment to be a close to your breasts. best of luck with what ever you try, it will be hard but its worth it in the end.

Kristin - posted on 02/05/2011

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Ferber method is letting baby cry for a little while, then going in and settling her every 5 then 10 then 15 etc minutes. I think. I have done similar with my babies, and it's hard to hear them cry, but it works quickly. Also as someone said, if a baby is sleeping 8hrs at a stretch, at 3 months that is considered sleeping through the night. I'm not sure what's expected at 5 months, but my boy goes to bed around 8 usually, then when I'm ready for bed (usually around 10) I'll give him a 'dream feed' before I go to bed. I'll give him a feed as quietly as possible and try not to wake him. If he wont wake, I can express and give him the bottle, which he'll take in his sleep but not when he's awake. Then he sleeps til at least 6:15 most days. once it was even close to 8 before he woke!

Lucy - posted on 02/05/2011

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Nope my lauryn has been sleeping through the nite maybe she might wake up one time to eat. She is really a good baby and I havent started her on cereal yet. Good luck

Kajal - posted on 02/04/2011

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even my boy is waking up for two to three times in the night.and i m also giving him breast feed.i never tried breast milk in a bottle b'coz he can not hold it so i only have to hold the bottle so i prefer to give breast feed directly.and let her play 3 to 4 hour before sleep, let her get tired and den give her enough of feed and den take her to sleep.i think she will sleep more coz of tiring and will only 1feed.u can try it.

Michelle - posted on 02/03/2011

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My daughter is almost 5 months old and is doing much the same thing. She was waking up every 2 to 3 hours to bf about a month ago and I was feeling so sleep deprived! I talked to her doctor at her 4 month appointment and he said it could be a growth spurt. He asked if she was in a new environment (like if I moved her to her crib from bassinet or into a room with a sibling--my answer was no). He said she was too young to let her cry it out and not to start cereal until closer to 6 months (so you might want to check with you doctor before starting cereal). So we are pushing ahead. He also suggested trying to help her to wait a little longer before bf--just to try to stretch it out between night time feedings. Personally, I think she has decided that there is just too much going on during the day that she doesn't want to miss and would rather eat at night when she won't miss out. She is pretty nosy.. :o) My first daughter never took a bottle, but this one has. I just tend to want to let my hubby sleep since he has to go to work and I am a sahm. He usually lets me sleep in on Saturday, though. :o) If you want your daughter to be more pleasant with her daddy, you could suggest that he take her outside for a little bit (babies love the change in air and sights). It could be a good distraction for her. :o) I hope our girls start letting us sleep soon!!!!!

Marisol - posted on 02/03/2011

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I am going thru the same thing with my 4 month old son too, he is on a bottle tho and formula fed only. He still wakes up 3 or 4 times a night. I need a good night too. Just thought I would let you know your not the only one...hang in there it can only get better!

Sara - posted on 02/02/2011

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How long is she sleeping during her longest stretch? Since their little GI systems digest breastmilk so efficiently and quickly, most babies are considered to sleep "through the night, when they sleep 6 to 8 hours in a row. So if she slept from 7a-2a, that's considered sleeping through the night. My 4.5mo guy will often sleep for a 7-8 hours, wake up to nurse and then be ready to get up about a few hours later. If you haven't already, I'd buy different types of bottles until you find one she likes. My guy will take only take Nuk and sometimes Medela bottles (even though I wanted him to use Tommee Tippee). One thing that also helped my guy sleep was a good bedtime routine. Ours is short and simple: bath, PJ's, teeth-brushing, brief cuddle, nurse and then he's out. I hope you find something that works for you so you can get some sleep!!

Victoria - posted on 02/02/2011

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I agree with feeding cereal as well but try a nice routine of cereal, bath time with Johnson and Johnson bedtime bath, a little massage then a good cuddle and milk...this worked with my little miss fussy #3. We can't gage any child by their siblings all we can do is try what worked and if it doesn't work alter the routine a little and try again. After 4 children I find that none of them had the same routine other than "be held by mommy as often and as long as they can" :) I also found putting some sort of continual sound in their room helped them sleep IE a machine that makes nature sounds or a CD player with soothing music. My oldest girls still sleep with a radio on, they say it helps them fall asleep and stay asleep better.

Rebecca - posted on 02/01/2011

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I'm going through the exact same thing with my son! It's also getting very frustrating. I'm so tired all the time and nothing I do seems to make him sleep longer. He gets up about every hour or two and wants to eat. I've given him cereal and it doesn't make any difference. I am praying that someday soon we'll figure something out and and I'll be praying for you too.

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Kellymom.com had a great article where they did studies showing that babies that eat cereal (in a bottle or by spoon) don't sleep any different then babies that don't have it. I think it all depends on the child. At any rate, both my kids were breast fed babies, but my first took a bottle where my second (almost 5mts) WON'T! They also both woke up 2x's a night like clockwork. Not a full, lets play or talk wake, but either a 'my diaper is really full' or 'I could use a little milk' wake and then fall right back asleep. My older son grew out of night wakes, but the baby of course still does. So with him, I put him into a size up diaper which helps him get longer stretches of sleep and I am also keeping a bottle near which helps him get a little milk to satify his stomach and lets him rest for a few more hours. I think the worse part is the choppy sleep, but like I said, it only lasted with my first for a little while until he was more eating table foods and not so much of a liquid diet. If your baby is strictly BF, then it is recommended that you don't introduce foods until they are closer to 6 months, and that is what I am waiting for. Good luck!!

Leigha - posted on 01/31/2011

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At 4 months you should be introducing cereal 2 times a day and veggies 1 time per day. The more a baby eats during the day the longer they can go through the night without feeding. I'd give some of the bottles these ladies have suggested and start feeding foods to supplement.

Danielle - posted on 01/31/2011

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My little (nearly 5mth) man wakes me up about 8 times every night. I am tired yet I know its not forever. He is growing so fast. Is in the 97th percentile for height. I have just started him on solids (rice cereal) because he is demanding. I notice whenever I have really busy days (like going to the museum with my toddler) my little man needs me more at night. I am looking forward to more sleep. You are not alone, you are doing a great job loving, feeding and being there for your bubba.

Chalaine - posted on 01/31/2011

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donèt put cereal in a bottle this will make baby lazy when feeding, cereal should be fed in a bowl, followed by the breast if she likes- this is what i have started with my 4 month old and usually she sleeps through the night, with only one wake up feed in the night

Suzie - posted on 01/31/2011

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Have you tried Breastflow bottles? They aren't like normal bottles they use exactly the same sucking action as is needed for breast feeding. It will probably take her a while to adjust to being bottle fed but these ones should make it easier for you.

Jodie - posted on 01/30/2011

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Have you tryed a bottle with a nipple thats shaped like a womans brest if not mybe that would help thats what I had to use for my son.

Madison - posted on 01/30/2011

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Cereal hasn't really helped my 4 month old daughter either to sleep completely thru the night. I am actually currently trying the Ferber method. I do it for nap time and at night. She is now sleeping from like 7-3 or 8-4...It's not completely thru the night but it helps me sleep more. Plus after a short breastfeeding, she goes back to sleep for about 3 more hours.

LauraBeth - posted on 01/28/2011

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I went thru that with my first child, the only bottle he would take was the MAM brand (that is all I use with my little girl now) it took him until 6 mo to sleep thru the night and now at 21 mo he still get up thru the night a few times a week. My little girl has been sleeping thru the night since 3mo but still sometimes wakes up at aleast once a week. I didnt use cereal with my childrens bottles, I just feed them cereal before their bath and bedtime. but cereal didnt help my son sleep thru the night thou it did make him sleep better

Lela - posted on 01/28/2011

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Do you have her on cereal yet? Nothing it helps them sleep more. I am sorry your going through this!

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