18 and pregnant, need advice please...

Nicole - posted on 05/23/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




So this morning I found out I was pregnant. Earlier this year my boyfriend moved in with my parents and I because he was living in a different city and wanted to start new here in my city. He was supposed to have his own place by now, but doesn't. Lately my parents have been pissed off at me because I want to leave to his city this coming September for school and are upset that he hasn't been able to afford his own place yet. This morning the doctor told me my blood test was positive. I am 6 and a half weeks pregnant. I know the moral choice is to keep the baby, quite frankly I want to. I think I am ready mentally and everything, just not financially. But I do not have a job, as I was finishing an extra year of high school (I should be graduated in about two weeks.) My boyfriend has a full time job at the moment - 40 hours a week / $12 an hour.
His home city is much cheaper to live in than mine, we could afford an apartment for about 200 maybe even $300 a month. I don't want to have an abortion because I know it will kill me emotionally and mentally. I am completely against abortions. I think I can get a job next month when I graduate and start saving all my money, my boyfriend has a $9000 debt to pay off by September. Do you think welfare in Ontario will let me get money monthly, at least for the first few months to a year? How will I be able to get a part-time job if I am taking care of the baby and my boyfriend is working? What should I do?
Any advice will be much appreciated. Please help. I know the decision is mine but I need someone to talk to and my parents are going to be the last people to hear about this, as they'd kick me out of the house instantly. School is important to me but I am willing to put it aside until the baby goes to day care / school.


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Christina Leigh - posted on 05/28/2013




Okay first off don't put school aside if you do you'll never go back. I was 17 when I got pregnant. I was with my boyfriend for only a year when we found out also living with his parents. If you are both motivated in working and making your relationship work. Then it is possible. Not to brag but I have finished high school, got an associates degree in law, bought a house, also got married to yes my boyfriend. Have had 2 other children, adopted another 3 , and became a published author. We are doing very well and you can to if you keep on track. I have faith in you. My husband. And I also neither one came from well to do families so all that we have accomplished has been on our own. You just need to walk the right path instead of the left. Any other ?s fell free to ask or just to vent. Parents always want what's best for their kids, but yours need to understand that you are going to be one soon and need to look at things your way for once! Good luck you can do it. If you try I am now only 28. It is possible to achieve a lot in a short time even with a baby. And also congrats!

Rachael - posted on 05/24/2013




Congrats!! I know this must be a scary time for you, trust me..I know. I got pregnant at 17. It was definitely a struggle, but if it's something you know in your heart you have the strength to do, do it!! My parents were furious when I told them, and soon after kicked me out. I had no job, or money and had no other choice but to go on welfare. I feared I was going to end up another teen mom statistic. I realized that I could change things, but it wasn't easy. Luckily we live in a great country and resources to help young moms like yourself are incredible :))) I was receiving welfare to pay the bills, while I went to school full time to become a hairstylist. Child care fees were covered, which lifts a huge weight. I am now 29...My daughter is now 11..I also have a 6 year old, and im expecting baby #3!! I own a salon, house, car...moral of the story? It can be done, but you need perseverance and drive!! I know you can do this, good luck...and enjoy :)))

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