20 weeks and not with the father

Trixie - posted on 01/06/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I just wrote a long long thing on here and my phone died... Ugh so this will not be as long my fingers hurt. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant the father and I are not together. We have made many attempted but no can do. In the past he has thrown a chair at me and also while I was 6 weeks an argument lead to me being left outside looking for my only vehicle keys only to find the front door locked. I ended up mobibv out told him that was the last time he was gonna lock me out. Since that happen we have seen each other several times and after 3days it leads to an argument / disagreement. I have gone above and beyond for the guy and I'm fed up. He's currently put me in $3000+ debt. And also has many warrents and no full time job and no vehicle. Each time I say that out load I ask my self 'what was I thinking" - my question is I for sure am not using his last name on baby however I dont want my newborn baby to go over their. I personally think he needs supervised visits. He is hooked on that fake weed and the warrants scare me.... He has major anxiety and a bad temper.... He's only been treating me like crap. I know I have made my bed and I need yk lye in it but I'm very concerned for the health and safety of my child. He doest have money for hardly anuthing. I don't expect child support. However my mother says I need to file when the baby is born, doesn't that mean he will have rights ? I can't imagine handing my daughter over to someone who has only treated me like crap while being pregnant. His mother is wonderful and I would feel much more comfortable if she was with her than him. I don't wanna stress anymore. I'm just not sure what to do.


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Lavender - posted on 01/07/2014




From what you've said I don't think he should be left alone with your child. You need to put your child's safety above anything else, regardless of what other people think.

I suggest filing for full custody rather than for child support. You can still maintain a relationship with his mother and she can come an visit the baby.

If in the future you are sure that you can trust his mother not to allow her son to be alone with your child - you can have her babysit and maybe he can be there too.

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