25, expecting, single and living in NYC

Ali - posted on 01/26/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am 25 years old and I recently found out, in an airport coming home from a 10 day trip to Southeast Asia with my boyfriend, that I was pregnant. I delayed taking a test due to thinking my cycle was a little skewed because of change in diet and exercise. The father and I have only been dating for about 6 months now.

I went to my first appointment on Thursday and I am in fact pregnant, and about 11 weeks at that. The father is 32, in grad school and is starting his own company. While this is not his ideal situation he is supportive, nervous and excited. We are starting to discuss finances and budgeting since the baby is due in August. We decided this weekend to go through with the pregnancy and I am struggling with indecision and over all just terrified. I have a good job and am in good standing with the company so I am covered financially. He is really excited and has really started planning for the future.

I have a supportive family, friends and coworkers but I am still so uncertain about many things. What will people think? Will I feel a loss of identity? Am I ready? At a time where I feel I should put the 'selfishness' aside I can't help but have these feelings. I want to be okay and to be a great parent and role model for my baby.

I am so uncertain about the relationship with the father and I - I know he will be a good father, and I a good mother but as far as the relationship between us I feel us going in different directions in the long term.

Has anyone experienced these feelings? Been in a similar situation? Would love some advice and thoughts from anyone.

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Ali - posted on 01/26/2015

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Thanks for the helpful advise Sarah! You're right, I think that showing concern and building awareness around the situation shows a sign of responsibility and maturity (trying to engrain that into my head when I'm having doubts!) . It's always helpful to get insight from woman who have experienced the same thing. There's only so many blogs you can read, I think that reaching out and getting support from woman who are in and have been in this same situation will do wonders.

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