advice please!!!

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im 18 years old And just found out im Pregnant ! im pretty freaked out right now but in no way would i be Able to " get rid of it" im not that Type of person I personally Think its murder to do that but anyways My dad is VERY old Fashioned And im scared That he Will not want anything to do with me After i tell him im having a baby. we are best friends and i dont know how he will react any ideas on how to tell him ?

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KELLIKAYZ - posted on 01/27/2011

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AS A MOM OF AN 18 YEAR OLD SON I CAN APPRECIATE YOUR FATHER BEING UPSET INITIALLY BECAUSE HONEY HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU. I WAS A MOMMY AT 22 AND IT WAS VERY HARD AT THAT AGE. IF YOUR FATHER TRULY LOVES YOU THEN HE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU AND SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE YOU ONCE THE INITIAL SHOCK GOES AWAY. RIGHT NOW YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON TAKING CARE OF THIS BLESSING IN YOUR BELLY. FURTHER YOUR EDUCATION, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND BE ENCOURAGED. ONCE YOUR BABY ARRIVES ENJOY EVERY MINUTE BECAUSE THEY GROW UP SO QUICKLY AND AS THEY GET OLDER YOU WILL KNOW EXACTLY WHY YOUR FATHER IS THE WAY HE IS.

Darla - posted on 01/27/2011

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I really liked Unity's post. When I work with younger mom's it is important that your support network is aboard. It is not about blame or judging...the action is done. Now, how do you all move forward for what is in the best interest of the child? Reminder if your dad is like your best friend he may not respond like a best friend...he may respond like a dad. Which is what you may need now. Hugs...The Adoption Coach.

Brittini - posted on 01/26/2011

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First go over all of your options!! Then choose which one that you are more than likely to go with. If you choose to keep the baby you need to sit down with your parents right away!! You will never know until you talk to your father first!! After you talk I promise you will feel better!!

Emilie - posted on 01/24/2011

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i was also 18 when i found out i was pregnant with my 1st child, and my dad was the one i was scared of telling!![because he believes in marriage before sex etc etc etc] but when i told him, he suprised me! He was very supportive, i think abit worried that his baby was having a baby, and how would i cope, but he was good about it in the end, sometimes parents do tend 2 over react too these situations but sometimes come around, make sure u have lots of support and incase worse comes 2 worse, u have another place 2 stay 2 let ure dad cool off for abit, i wouldnt leave it 2 long 2 tell him that u are pregnant, it will hurt even more knowing that u kept it from him!!! I hope all things go well,

Patty - posted on 01/24/2011

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you should definitely seek counseling with someone like Catholic Charities or something to help you walk thru this. They can also help you tell your father if you need. They have many different ways to help financially if you either decide to keep the baby or give up for adoption. We adopted our daughter and it is open to her birthparents, so they still get to be a part of her life. It was a very hard sacrifice for them but they have both grown through the last 4 years and have not regretted their decision. Whatever you decide, an agency can help you and it may let your father know that you are taking the steps necessary to help decide on what you need to do.

Fallon - posted on 01/23/2011

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Have a plan first. Keep the baby or adoption try to make a decision. Then sit down as an adult and share your plan. The biggest thing is to be an adult about it. If he sees that you have a plan to go to college, get a job, or put the baby up for adoption that will be the best way to approach it. If he begins to get angry just remind him in a calm way that it was not planned and own up to "yes it was a mistake" but it is already done and cannot be changed, all you can do is move forward and share you plan with him. But do it sooner than later because the longer you wait the worse it will be. If you guys are close, then holding onto that secret will be a violation of his trust.

Danielle - posted on 01/23/2011

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Try writing him a letter. Explain your fears and that you want his support. This way you can get all your feelings out without being scared or nervous. He can then have time to process it before confronting you.

Laura - posted on 01/22/2011

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I was very young also when I got pregnant with my first child. I know that it is hard and very scary. You have to be honest with him. Is there someone that you know and trust that can be there with you when you tell him? Like a teacher, counselor, or friend. He is your father he is always going to love you. He may be angry in the beginning, but will come around

Amy - posted on 01/22/2011

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Well I don't know how you would tell him but I would not weight long. Finding out some other ways other then by you is not going to help with the situation. Also ask him for his advise when you tell him. Say you are wanting to have the baby and are wondering what rout to take also you need to talk the the daddy of the babby let him know and see what rout he has to take. You and your daddies relation ship may not be the same but it will get better with time. I hope all works out

Aicha - posted on 01/21/2011

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have you thought about adoption? or keeping the baby what does the baby's father think? have you two talked about it ? parents can tend to freak out but most comes around

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